Tell an opinion you have that is in the strong minority

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Anonymous wrote:I believe most working mom's wish they were SAHM. I think they are usually jealous.

I think the reverse.

Wouldn't they get a job if that was the case?

No, because they've rendered themselves irrelevant and convince themselves that their kids benefit from their laziness. What's more hypocritical than the SAHM of a daughter who pushes her kid to excel academically?

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Anonymous wrote:Ha! I've always felt a little sorry for mothers of big babies. Little ones are so much cuter. I had gestational diabetes and my 7lb baby felt like a reward for being scrupulous about my diet. to each her own!

Don't feel sorry for me, I wanted big babies. They were my reward and the large size told me I nailed this pregnancy thing.

I've never had kids but when I do I want a big baby. I was a BIG baby and am a size zero now. And when I was a baby I always got complimented and stopped in stores for looking like the gerber baby! So definitely cute.

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Do obese women really tend to have larger babies? My OB didn't mention this. I'm newly pregnant and obese and already anxious about labor. Throw in a big baby and I'll have a panic attack thinking about it!

Unfortunately, yes. I mean, you're not doomed, but statistically...

http://share.kaiserpermanente.org/article/overweight-and-obese-women-more-likely-to-have-large-babies/

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Do obese women really tend to have larger babies? My OB didn't mention this. I'm newly pregnant and obese and already anxious about labor. Throw in a big baby and I'll have a panic attack thinking about it!

Unfortunately, yes. I mean, you're not doomed, but statistically...

http://share.kaiserpermanente.org/article/overweight-and-obese-women-more-likely-to-have-large-babies/

my doctor said to am for gaining 10-12 lbs rather than 20-30 if you start out overweight.

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Anonymous wrote:1. Don't care about infertility struggles.
2. Don't care about doormats who won't DO something to
address their problems.
3. Tired of the SN Trump Card.

NP here. I am enraged by all the free stuff SN parents get that have nothing to do withy their child's SN. I can kinda see the free PT/OT/Speech maybe, but my very wealthy friend also gets FOR FREE from the county: preschool withh bus service, 42 hours/week nanny, Medicaid and food stamps. FOR FREE. And the nanny does her laundry and watches her NT kids too!!

Uh, wha? Food stamps is a means-based program, as is Medicaid -- if they are indeed "very wealthy" then they wouldn't be eligible for those programs. And I've never heard of a free nanny, no way. Maybe an aid in the classroom? If her child is eligible for a free special needs preschool and full-time aid, you shouldn't be enraged or envious...it means her child is quite disabled.

It's all true. The means test for Medicaid/food stamps is done ON THE KID, who has no assets. All his copays and RX's are paid by Medicaid, and his food is bought with food stamps. In addition to preschool five days a week, his mom is allowed 42 hours of nanny care paid. She does not work, has two NT kids, lives in a 6000sf house and drives a large luxury SUV. Her SN child walks, talks, eats, and is potty trained, he is just delayed pretty significantly. I don't see why she needs a tax payer paid nanny because of that.

I'm somewhat skeptical about all this. For a disabled child to get on Medicaid, they generally have to qualify for SSI (needs based benefits based on family income). A wealthy family will not qualify. I am under the impression most social programs use household income/assets, not just the child. If her child is qualifying for a full time nanny/aide, it sounds like the child must be pretty severely disabled, which is sad. And I say this as someone who can't stand people who try to abuse the system.

The child must be quite severely impaired to qualify for the Medicaid waiver and to have such high levels of care. The baseline case, to the best of my knowledge, is for Medicaid to pay for therapies and in-home care for children that otherwise would need to be institutionalized.

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Anonymous wrote:I despise military worship in this country. It's a job voluntarily taken. That's all.

I feel the same way about pregnancy and the cult of motherhood. It's voluntary, you don't deserve any accolades.

I don't get this one. So, you think being a mother is nbd? Yes, thank god most of us voluntarily choose to be mothers.

I don't think society should fawn all over pregnant women, but if it weren't for pregnant women, this world would die out in a hurry.

As it stands, population growth is too high. At the rate we're going, the world is going to die out because of *too many* humans, not too few.

If motherhood and pregnancy weren't fetishized (sp?) and worshiped, then perhaps the rate of population growth would decrease a little. Some women would still have kids, and perhaps the ones who still decided to have them would actually be having them for the right reasons.

Society not only fawns all over pregnancy and motherhood, but it makes it VERY difficult for a woman to not choose that path and still be respected as a woman. That's a problem.

Hispanics and AAs are the ones having too many kids, not Europeans.

I hear you. I'm "European," and my husband is Hispanic. I blame him for at least 70% of our child.

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Anonymous wrote:I despise military worship in this country. It's a job voluntarily taken. That's all.

I feel the same way about pregnancy and the cult of motherhood. It's voluntary, you don't deserve any accolades.

I don't get this one. So, you think being a mother is nbd? Yes, thank god most of us voluntarily choose to be mothers.

I don't think society should fawn all over pregnant women, but if it weren't for pregnant women, this world would die out in a hurry.

I'm glad you think you're doing the world a favor lol

Seriously, I love this! People have kids for the same reason people do anything: because they want to. Has nothing to do with some giant desire to continue humanity.

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Anonymous wrote:Ha! I've always felt a little sorry for mothers of big babies. Little ones are so much cuter. I had gestational diabetes and my 7lb baby felt like a reward for being scrupulous about my diet. to each her own!

Don't feel sorry for me, I wanted big babies. They were my reward and the large size told me I nailed this pregnancy thing.

I've never had kids but when I do I want a big baby. I was a BIG baby and am a size zero now. And when I was a baby I always got complimented and stopped in stores for looking like the gerber baby! So definitely cute.

the thing is, you have very little control over it. I take no credit in the size of my babies. I struggled to eat at all due to morning (ha-total misnomer) sickness, but I still gained 30 lbs both times. They came out almost EXACTLY the same size - my second was one ounce heavier. Seriously, one ounce. That is just the size I make them. Just do your best to be healthy and barring serious medical conditions, you will get the perfect size baby for you.

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Do obese women really tend to have larger babies? My OB didn't mention this. I'm newly pregnant and obese and already anxious about labor. Throw in a big baby and I'll have a panic attack thinking about it!

Unfortunately, yes. I mean, you're not doomed, but statistically...

http://share.kaiserpermanente.org/article/overweight-and-obese-women-more-likely-to-have-large-babies/

my doctor said to am for gaining 10-12 lbs rather than 20-30 if you start out overweight.

yes, there are different weight gain recs depending on where you start. I was on the other end and my ob said 30-40 was perfectly healthy.

But what you gain doesn't directly correlate to the size of the baby your produce.

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I believe that most foreign aid should be in the form of birth control. It is so terrible that poor women must bear child upon child that they cannot properly feed.

I think of how hard life with an infant is for my royally spoiled self, and I just cannot imagine not being able to feed my babies but having child after child . . .

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Anonymous wrote:I believe moms who have small babies are inferior.

Also those who miscarry. There is something physically wrong with them on both counts and they shouldn't have children.

Ohhhhkay.

You're also an idiot. My aunt had multiple miscarriages in the late 80s until they figured out she had an incompetent cervix. Once that was fixed with a couple stitches, she went on to have 3 kids in 4 years. 3 incredibly healthy and happy and bright children.

Others miscarry due to adrenal/hormone problems that can be corrected by medicines. Many of those women then to on to have healthy pregnancies and babies.

What about people who have miscarriages and then healthy kids?

Again, you're an idiot.

Uh who's the idiot. You referenced two people who had physical problems that were corrected THEN they could carry children. Without the corrections they likely would have continued to miscarry, right?

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Anonymous wrote:I believe most working mom's wish they were SAHM. I think they are usually jealous.

While I think some working moms legitimately enjoy working, I think a lot of them are still jealous that their husbands don't make enough to give them a choice.

I definitely have a choice. I am sometimes jealous. I sometimes feel stretched too thin, but other times feel excited and proud of my work. My husband is proud of my work. I think most women feel like me: ambivalent but leaning one direction.

I never feel jealous of the sahm's whose husbands resent them & have let themselves go . . .

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Uh who's the idiot. You referenced two people who had physical problems that were corrected THEN they could carry children. Without the corrections they likely would have continued to miscarry, right?

physical problems that are easily correctable. That's not deformities or serious illnesses that will be passed on that could cause certain death for their children. I know some cases like that - people who really shouldn't reproduce because they carry strange gene mutations that cause horrible life-threatening or incompatible with life diseases.

And you still haven't told me why people can have a miscarriage and then a perfectly healthy pregnancy.

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I don't think parents should be liable for the actions of kids past age 16

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Anonymous wrote:I believe most working mom's wish they were SAHM. I think they are usually jealous.

While I think some working moms legitimately enjoy working, I think a lot of them are still jealous that their husbands don't make enough to give them a choice.

I definitely have a choice. I am sometimes jealous. I sometimes feel stretched too thin, but other times feel excited and proud of my work. My husband is proud of my work. I think most women feel like me: ambivalent but leaning one direction.

I never feel jealous of the sahm's whose husbands resent them & have let themselves go . . .

If this is true, then my opinion that's in the strong minority is that I definitely DON'T want to be a SAHM. Ever. I love having my life outside my home life. I think maybe part time would be nice, just so I wouldn't be stretched so thin. But I have no interest in giving up my work. And I'm not even that gung ho about my job and ambitious about my "career." I just like having a self-defined identity for some/much of my day. I'm sure some of you out there are wondering "why did you have kids then?" The answer is that (1) I love my kids and love spending the time I do spend with them, and (2) you would never think the same of a man.