Gene Hackman R.I.P.

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Pp. im still bewildered at the fact that they had no help or assistance. There has got to be a little more to this story, else it seems like elder abuse. How did he eat, use restroom, get around that complex daily? He was 100 percent dependent on her. She took on way too much by herself. This is just so sad, yet so cautionary.

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Anonymous wrote:Does she have kids?

No

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Anonymous wrote:So, how are you supposed to get rid of mice droppings if sweeping and vacuuming is not a good idea? What should have been done? Serious question.

You're supposed to wet them down with a diluted bleach solution so dust isn't created, and then wipe them up.

But again (assuming you're in the DC area) very, very unlikely to be an issue around here.

I'm a teacher and I cannot tell you how many classrooms I've moved into over the years where the closets and cabinets were covered in mouse droppings and urine. So many of my colleagues have had to clean them out. Ugh.

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Anonymous wrote:So, how are you supposed to get rid of mice droppings if sweeping and vacuuming is not a good idea? What should have been done? Serious question.

You're supposed to wet them down with a diluted bleach solution so dust isn't created, and then wipe them up.

But again (assuming you're in the DC area) very, very unlikely to be an issue around here.

Thanks, good to know!

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Anonymous wrote:So, how are you supposed to get rid of mice droppings if sweeping and vacuuming is not a good idea? What should have been done? Serious question.

You're supposed to wet them down with a diluted bleach solution so dust isn't created, and then wipe them up.

But again (assuming you're in the DC area) very, very unlikely to be an issue around here.

I'm a teacher and I cannot tell you how many classrooms I've moved into over the years where the closets and cabinets were covered in mouse droppings and urine. So many of my colleagues have had to clean them out. Ugh.

Yuck! I am sorry about this.

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Anonymous wrote:Pp. im still bewildered at the fact that they had no help or assistance. There has got to be a little more to this story, else it seems like elder abuse. How did he eat, use restroom, get around that complex daily? He was 100 percent dependent on her. She took on way too much by herself. This is just so sad, yet so cautionary.

My 88.5 year old Mom and I were talking about the exact thing. How come they did not have ANY help at all? It is very difficult to understand.

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Anonymous wrote:So, how are you supposed to get rid of mice droppings if sweeping and vacuuming is not a good idea? What should have been done? Serious question.

You're supposed to wet them down with a diluted bleach solution so dust isn't created, and then wipe them up.

But again (assuming you're in the DC area) very, very unlikely to be an issue around here.

I'm a teacher and I cannot tell you how many classrooms I've moved into over the years where the closets and cabinets were covered in mouse droppings and urine. So many of my colleagues have had to clean them out. Ugh.

Another teacher agreeing the mouse droppings are common. But hantavirus is very unlikely in this region. It's a problem out West.

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Anonymous wrote:From a Lawyer point of view the fact Arakawa is being pronounced Dead prior to Hackman's death means most likely Hackmans kids get it all.

Hackman was married to his first wife, Faye Maltese, from 1956 to 1986. The couple welcomed three children: son Christopher and daughters Elizabeth and Leslie. Five years after his split with Maltese, who died in 2017, Hackman wed Arakawa.

Why aren’t there more discussions about the fact their marriage was interracial?

Interesting point. But here is the deal. I know a lot of interracial marriages like this. But somehow, the Asian/white thing is a bit diluted in terms of being called “interracial.” Infact, one husband who was married to an Asian lady flat out said that Asians were now viewed as white a lot more, so it’s no big deal.

Those were his words, not mine. And I have found that whoever is more dominant in the relationship is usually the culture that’s most expressed. I know a lot of mixed couples like this. In most cases, they usually express the white race or other race (yep, black and Asian friends also) over the Asian race.

Not sure why, but that’s what I see.

He loved this particular lady who happened to be Asian.

I guess for me, they were happy and that’s all that counts. 40 years, so he had to have loved her and vice versa.

She might culturally have been very Americanized. Many people of Japanese origin from Hawaii are from families that have been here for many, many generations.

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Most Japanese in the United States, especially out West in places like California and Hawaii (where she was born) have ancestors who moved here in the 1800s or early 1900s.

Her mother is still alive, and has dementia. So sad that both her husband and mother who were in their 90s outlived her.

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Anonymous wrote:Pp. im still bewildered at the fact that they had no help or assistance. There has got to be a little more to this story, else it seems like elder abuse. How did he eat, use restroom, get around that complex daily? He was 100 percent dependent on her. She took on way too much by herself. This is just so sad, yet so cautionary.

PP from a few pages back and I posted the same thought. So Betsy just ran errands for a few hours solo, on the regular and left Gene home alone, completely unsupervised and unmonitored?

Absolutely irresponsible, reckless endangerment and negligent. You know this wasn’t the first time she’d done this.

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Anonymous wrote:Pp. im still bewildered at the fact that they had no help or assistance. There has got to be a little more to this story, else it seems like elder abuse. How did he eat, use restroom, get around that complex daily? He was 100 percent dependent on her. She took on way too much by herself. This is just so sad, yet so cautionary.

PP from a few pages back and I posted the same thought. So Betsy just ran errands for a few hours solo, on the regular and left Gene home alone, completely unsupervised and unmonitored?

Absolutely irresponsible, reckless endangerment and negligent. You know this wasn’t the first time she’d done this.

It sounds like all her errands were fast trips to close destinations and she went home in between them. Still risky, though.

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Anonymous wrote:Pp. im still bewildered at the fact that they had no help or assistance. There has got to be a little more to this story, else it seems like elder abuse. How did he eat, use restroom, get around that complex daily? He was 100 percent dependent on her. She took on way too much by herself. This is just so sad, yet so cautionary.

It seems like they wanted it this way and chose privacy/independence over everything else. They were old enough to make that decision.

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Anonymous wrote:Interesting speculation on the inheritance. It's extremely likely that they both had estate planning documents in place, which may or may not have included his kids at all. I'm an estate planning attorney and people might be surprised by how many folks intentionally do not leave any inheritance to their children. The fact that she died first would not negate whatever terms he had in place for estate planning.

Wait are you saying even though she died, if she was his sole heir and not the kids, they kids might still get nothing? That’s crazy

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Anonymous wrote:Gene had 3 children although most on this thread seem to only mention his daughters. His son is 65, his youngest daughter is 59 and the other daughter is in between. He travelled a lot for work when the kids were growing up and separated from his first wife in the late 70s/early 80s, although they didn't offically divorce until 1986. I am not sure how much he was around the kids. He was living with Betsy by 1984 and with her until now so 40 years.

His kids would have been young adults and the same age as Betsy when she started dating Gene so likely they didn't have a really close relationship with her. His life was with Betsy for a very long time.

I think this part isn't being focused on enough. I know that as a daughter, I would be completely skeeved out if my father married a woman close in age to me. I don't think I would be able to get over it, and 40 years later, that's a long time for a semi-estrangement to be pretty entrenched.

As a daughter I agree. His new wife can take care of him, bye!

One of the rags had a picture of daughter driving a beater. Clearly, she didn’t have dad’s money. Dad’s wife was also the gatekeeper - he didn’t used any electronic devices.

If true, that explains a lot

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Anonymous wrote:From a Lawyer point of view the fact Arakawa is being pronounced Dead prior to Hackman's death means most likely Hackmans kids get it all.

Hackman was married to his first wife, Faye Maltese, from 1956 to 1986. The couple welcomed three children: son Christopher and daughters Elizabeth and Leslie. Five years after his split with Maltese, who died in 2017, Hackman wed Arakawa.

Yep. Had she survived him, she would have inherited it all as his wife. So his kids are the next in line and will inherit.

Good! I hate marriages like this (though I have no personal experience )