Um, no. People are reacting to OP's posts, which say a lot about what she's like. |
But OP didn’t ask for advice. She came out swinging, with that stupid green emoji and ALL CAPS and four ????s in a row. If the responses seemed harsh, they were just responding in kind. |
The mom organizing the clique has re-entered the chat. |
DP. Since when is a group of women convening automatically a clique? Ciique has lost all meaning at this point. It's all or nothing I guess. |
Well if a group of women socialize they are apparently now a clique and doing something wrong by not inviting everyone they know in their contacts list. |
What is the difference between a group of friends who have children at the same elementary school and a clique?
Our neighbors just had a discussion about this because we have 11 families with a total of 28 kids on our block that all have kids at the elementary school. (6 families have kids in the 3rd grade!). We see each other daily, walking to and from school and hanging out on the block while kids ride bikes and play. Naturally, happy hours and dinners and excursions get planned and birthdays get celebrated. We plan Ladies Nights a few times a year where the mom's go out to dinner. A parent of a child who doesn't live in our neighborhood made a (seemingly) passive aggressive comment about our "exclusive neighborhood clique" at a soccer game. We were all genuinely baffled and it sparked an interesting conversation. We feel that it is just proximity and genuinely enjoying our neighborhood but where do you draw the line? You can't possibly invite every mom at the school to every social gathering?? |
+1 |
What is the end game here? To prevent women from getting together? |
Not disagreeing PP, but how does the non-neighbor lady KNOW about your neighborhood activities? And at soccer are you all bunched together in an excluding way? That's the difference. I get that it's hard not to chit chat with people outside your group, but maybe sit next to a non-neighbor here and there? |
DP. Look, I think OP overreacted to the group gathering and made some assumptions about it (that she'd been excluded on purpose, that it was a regular thing) that are likely not right. I have said as much in other posts in this thread. But I can at least understand that her overreaction was probably a very human response to feeling left out. To me that's such a universal feeling that I can have empathy for her even as I tell her that her text wasn't a great idea and try to put this in perspective for her. But you are having an extreme overreaction to the style of an anonymous DCUM post. I think she was trying to be lighthearted and funny about it. I don't really get the green emoji, but also DCUM has somewhat limited emoji offerings. I just can't imagine being so provoked by the way she posted to have the extremely strong, negative reaction some of you are having. If OP was being a little overreactive in her response to seeing those women, so are many of you. At least OP actually knows those women and is part of the same community. You're flipping out on a total stranger over an emoji and some punctuation. Look in the mirror. |
REALLY ???? THE HORROR !!!! |
Ack, I meant hard to talk to people outside your circle. |
I know, right? So juvenile. |
Pot, meet kettle. It always fascinates me when people go after people doing the exact same thing they are doing. |
So...you knew 1/3 of the people at the event...got it. |