Bullying in pre k 3

[Anonymous]

My son is in a Spanish immersion program for pre k 3 in a DCPS school. He is fluent in Spanish, from me plus he attended a Spanish immersion preschool. A classmate has as of today hurt him three times, once he came home with a big red scratch on his back and twice he reported being hit. I have reported it to the teacher each time, who has talked to the other child and his parents. I have told my son to speak out and say no hitting and also to tell the teacher if this happens. The teacher also said my son did not say anything the first two times. What else should we do? It really bothers me. The other boy is Hispanic. My son is half Hispanic. I am considering purchasing the book Hands are not for hitting and donating it to the class.

[Anonymous]

Donating a book is not going to help. Talk to the teacher and if that does network, go to the principal.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry. You're calling a 3 year old a "bully"? Get a grip.

[Anonymous]

Okay you choose the words. Same kid repeatedly harming my child. Serial aggressor?

[Anonymous]

If your son was half Italian and the other boy was all Italian, would it change the story?

[Anonymous]

Many 3 year olds hit and bite. It is not bullying. Heck your son might even develop it in a few months. My son tried hitting someone in pk3 one time after another kid kept hitting him. We quickly addressed it and it stopped. Kids are trying to figure out limitations and it's really not something I'd expect to continue. Not saying it's ok abs you should do nothing but just wanted to point out its not considered bullying.

[Anonymous]

Well the book is geared to younger kids. These children are almost four. Old enough to know better, able to express themselves in words. I only mentioned the ethnicity to demonstrate that it is not frustration at being in a new language setting, as both kids speak Spanish.

[Anonymous]

I have seen a newly 4yo being a bully. She knows what buttons to push on another child in the class and she pushes them, everyday.

[Anonymous]

These kids have been on earth for 3 years. Please do not label a 3 year old a bully.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:These kids have been on earth for 3 years. Please do not label a 3 year old a bully.

This

[Anonymous]

this happened to my son at a private preschool. It was very frustrating. The teacher and parents of kid were on it - but the kid kept targeting my child with unkind words, exclusion, and hitting/hairpulling/biting. I remember he had a bite mark on his face for Thanksgiving. It was a school with a gentle discipline program and it eventually worked though the kid remained somewhat of a problem all year. Lovely parents - just a kid who was having a hard time, as me and my son would say "figuring it out." As long as the teacher is working on it seriously, I think you are OK. Any hint of it being blown off, and move up to principal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Many 3 year olds hit and bite. It is not bullying. Heck your son might even develop it in a few months. My son tried hitting someone in pk3 one time after another kid kept hitting him. We quickly addressed it and it stopped. Kids are trying to figure out limitations and it's really not something I'd expect to continue. Not saying it's ok abs you should do nothing but just wanted to point out its not considered bullying.

+100 I'm sure the school is working on it. It's not bullying.

[Anonymous]

I have seen bullying at this age. My 4 year is constantly being told he is too short play with one group of boys. He has come home and cried about being too short and how the other boys, especially Larlo, tell him all the time.

I'm not saying this instance is definitely bullying, but it is a possibility. Not on the same level as older kids but young kids do know how to hurt others using words and hands. They know how to find a weak spot in others- be it size or something else. They purposefully do hurtful things. That's bullying in my book.

[Anonymous]

Keep in mind that PK3 is largely teaching kids who have never experienced group care to learn social skills. Your child may adjust well and quickly, but he also may not. Continue teaching your child how to handle conflict and stay in touch with the teacher, but back off on the bullying language.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have seen bullying at this age. My 4 year is constantly being told he is too short play with one group of boys. He has come home and cried about being too short and how the other boys, especially Larlo, tell him all the time.

I'm not saying this instance is definitely bullying, but it is a possibility. Not on the same level as older kids but young kids do know how to hurt others using words and hands. They know how to find a weak spot in others- be it size or something else. They purposefully do hurtful things. That's bullying in my book.

First, there is a huge difference between 4 year olds and 3 year olds that have been in school for the first time for all of a month. Secondly, the OP is not describing such behavior. Her issue is only physical and in no way is bullying.