Bullying in pre k 3

[Anonymous]

Hands are Not for Hitting is a good book for that age. Donate it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well the book is geared to younger kids. These children are almost four. Old enough to know better, able to express themselves in words. I only mentioned the ethnicity to demonstrate that it is not frustration at being in a new language setting, as both kids speak Spanish.

The other child may not be almost 4. Some kids start PK3 at barely 3 years old. And using their words? Maybe your child is very emotionally mature, but my son was not using his words every time he got frustrated at 3. In fact, 3 was worse than 2 by a lot. I would also add that when my son was 3 he was a terribly unreliable narrator. He reported getting hit constantly, but when I observed the class (including recess), it was boys being rough with each other and my son have as good as he got. They weren't hitting, they were running and playing and occasionally running into each other, or getting knocked down.

I think you could be overreacting.

[Anonymous]

The best thing to do is mention it to the teacher (WITHOUT using the word 'bully' because that will make you seem like a crazy person) and ask (POLITELY AND NEUTRALLY) what is being done to keep your child safe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well the book is geared to younger kids. These children are almost four. Old enough to know better, able to express themselves in words. I only mentioned the ethnicity to demonstrate that it is not frustration at being in a new language setting, as both kids speak Spanish.

The other child may not be almost 4. Some kids start PK3 at barely 3 years old. And using their words? Maybe your child is very emotionally mature, but my son was not using his words every time he got frustrated at 3. In fact, 3 was worse than 2 by a lot. I would also add that when my son was 3 he was a terribly unreliable narrator. He reported getting hit constantly, but when I observed the class (including recess), it was boys being rough with each other and my son have as good as he got. They weren't hitting, they were running and playing and occasionally running into each other, or getting knocked down.

I think you could be overreacting.

My daughter would have been eligible for PK3 this year, but would not have turned three until the end of September. PK3 kids are very young. And a huge part of preschool is teaching kids social skills.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well the book is geared to younger kids. These children are almost four. Old enough to know better, able to express themselves in words. I only mentioned the ethnicity to demonstrate that it is not frustration at being in a new language setting, as both kids speak Spanish.

The other child may not be almost 4. Some kids start PK3 at barely 3 years old. And using their words? Maybe your child is very emotionally mature, but my son was not using his words every time he got frustrated at 3. In fact, 3 was worse than 2 by a lot. I would also add that when my son was 3 he was a terribly unreliable narrator. He reported getting hit constantly, but when I observed the class (including recess), it was boys being rough with each other and my son have as good as he got. They weren't hitting, they were running and playing and occasionally running into each other, or getting knocked down.

I think you could be overreacting.

My daughter would have been eligible for PK3 this year, but would not have turned three until the end of September. PK3 kids are very young. And a huge part of preschool is teaching kids social skills.

+100. It's not just knowing what to do but having the ability to keep it together when you (preschooler) are upset etc, in the spur of the moment, when angry etc. it's a skill learned in PreK and some kids are slower than others.

You can and should still ask in a constructive fashion about what is being done to keep your child safe but it is not bullying.

[Anonymous]

Another thing to consider is how the kids in the class are experiencing two things ... one, being in school for a long time every day. (This is very different from being in daycare in regards to expectations, transitions, and overall environment.) Second, the immersion experience, while rewarding, can be very challenging for kids. Even though they might have some experience with the language- there is understandable frustration at the lack of comprehension, or ability to communicate fully. And this is for an age group who is just learning the social norms expected of them.

We've been there ... in PS3, PK4 and now K. It will get better. Patience, modeling to your child what is expected- and how to get help is key. And keep on being your child's advocate, they understand and know you are doing so on their behalf.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These kids have been on earth for 3 years. Please do not label a 3 year old a bully.

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"These" was grammatically correct in the sentence it was used FYI grammar police

[Anonymous]

OP is right to be concerned about her child being targeted by a physically aggressive child.

You can label it whatever you want, but it is not normal. It's mean and nasty.

Tell the teacher if it happens again, you'll need to check in with the principal about the school policy on this kind of ongoing problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP is right to be concerned about her child being targeted by a physically aggressive child.

You can label it whatever you want, but it is not normal. It's mean and nasty.

Tell the teacher if it happens again, you'll need to check in with the principal about the school policy on this kind of ongoing problem.

No one is saying that the OP would not be right in being concerned if her child were being targeted. People are just not sure that what the OP describes falls outside the realm of normal behavior for a 3 year old entering school for the first time. PK3 kids are basically still toddlers, whether they're in an elementary school or a daycare.

Also, the OP needlessly made it about ethnicity as though that was relevant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The best thing to do is mention it to the teacher (WITHOUT using the word 'bully' because that will make you seem like a crazy person) and ask (POLITELY AND NEUTRALLY) what is being done to keep your child safe.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These kids have been on earth for 3 years. Please do not label a 3 year old a bully.

This

"These" was grammatically correct in the sentence it was used FYI grammar police

I suspect they were not correcting your grammar, but affirming what you said as in "This (is correct)"

Welcome to the shorthand of DCUM

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These kids have been on earth for 3 years. Please do not label a 3 year old a bully.

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You obviously don't know the research. Yes, 3 year olds DO bully.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These kids have been on earth for 3 years. Please do not label a 3 year old a bully.

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You obviously don't know the research. Yes, 3 year olds DO bully.

OP's description of physical behavior is not bullying. Also OP is getting even the physical play by play from a 3 year old. Who's to say her kid isn't hitting as well?

[Anonymous]

You are trying to make a class thing out of something that isn't a class thing.

[Anonymous]

Is your child being targeted? Or is the other child an equal opportunity aggressor?