In-laws and vacation house bs with SIL

[Anonymous]

My in-laws have a winter house that we have never stayed at before. My SIL stays almost every weekend and brings friends, etc to stay with her all the time by herself with no one batting an eyelash.

My dhs best friend is going through a divorce and I prescheduled with MIL and made sure that the house was available and the rooms were not being used and then invited some of DHs friends to join us this weekend for a mini trip.

Well now the day we are leaving, MIL just called and said SIL is going to be at the house and wants her room to use. So I have to shove two grown adult men onto a pullout couch when they were told they would have their own sleeping areas with private bathrooms.

I'm so annoyed. Can we have one time down without them taking it over? SIL was just there last weekend with 3 friends and got a limo wine tour from MIL for them to just go and have fun. I'm pissed and want to cancel the whole trip and just plan something up here. It's their house I understand, but we have never asked to use it before. This is the first and last time.

[Anonymous]

That sucks all around. Plenty of people will flame you for being ungrateful and say "get your own place," but still, your SIL is a leech.

[Anonymous]

Dh needs to call SIL and say no. Quit being doormats. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Sorry pressed send too soon. I do have a right to be annoyed yes? They absolutely favor SIL, but always offer the house to us. DH has not been with his friends for the past year, and we had reservations and the car planned for one vehicle. Now with her there, we will have to take two cars. I feel like DH can never just have a time to himself. It's always his sister or both of them. I'm fuming right now. I have been planning this for 2 months and followed up just two weeks ago to make sure it was still okay for us to use the house.

[Anonymous]

Seriously--- tell DH to call SIL and tell her not to come.

[Anonymous]

This is the time when everyone needs to tell SIL to stay away.

Was she warned the rooms would be used? You said you prescheduled with MIL, but it looks like SIL calls the shots there - she should also have been given a heads up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seriously--- tell DH to call SIL and tell her not to come.

Depending on family dynamics, I would definately consider this option. Maybe SIL doesn't know you're bringing friends?

[Anonymous]

Rich people problems.

[Anonymous]

I think you or DH need to talk to SIL directly. Just explain that you already had plans, you made them months ago, and that she needs to pick another weekend.

[Anonymous]

DH needs to step up here. Call his parents and explain. Call his sister and tell her to back off.

[Anonymous]

Your husband needs to handle this. Have him call his sister.

But even then, you know what? It's your MIL's house, and if she's OK with your SIL staying there, even though you already booked it, that's her choice, and you actually DON'T have a right to be pissed about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dh needs to call SIL and say no. Quit being doormats. Good luck.

EXACTLY. DH needs to have a conversation with SIL. But at the end of the day, MIL gets to decide who stays at her house when.

[Anonymous]

Your husband needs to step up already.

[Anonymous]

Sorry but if sil is there, your guests get the rooms and either you or sil get the couch. Don't put your guests on the couch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dh needs to call SIL and say no. Quit being doormats. Good luck.

This. Aren't you guys adults? Does SIL know the situation? If she's a decent person if hope she would not go.