Anonymous wrote:It sounds like your MIL cannot say no to her DD. She offered the place to her son to use, but then DD decided to go. SIL probably found out some people would be staying in her room and decided to go to prevent that from happening. SIL gets what she wants in that family. I would find another destination for your trip.
It's the IL's house and they can decide, even after offering and committing to their DS, to change the plans. Lesson learned. Next time MIL offers it up, just say thanks but no thanks. FWIW, my IL's have a vacation home and constantly tell us we are free to use it anytime. DH's sister uses it to host friends quite often. We've never taken them up on their offer though, because SIL is very territorial. When we all gather there (their 3 siblings, spouses and kids), SIL decides which rooms everyone stays in. Before the grandchildren, DH and I always ended up in the basement room with the twin beds. Once SIL had kids that were old enough to sleep in beds, we were kicked out of the bedroom with twin beds and had to sleep on pullout sofas in the living area in the basement. We all have kids the same age. SIL kids got the room with the twin beds to themselves, SIL and spouse a different room to themselves, and DH and I get to sleep with our kids on pullout sofas in the living area of the basement. This lasted one night - SILs kids got up at 5am and turned on the giant TV in front of our sofa beds and watched cartoons until we got up and gave them breakfast. SIL slept till noon. We checked into a hotel the next night and have stayed there every year since then. It's embarrassing to MIL/FIL that we stay in a hotel, but the alternative (having DD's kids sleep on a pullout sofa) is not an option. SIL gets what she wants - always.
Again, some more, you don't have a SIL problem, you have a DH problem.
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