is anyone more pro-life since becoming a parent?

[Anonymous]

I was always pro-choice but mainly for extreme circumstances (rape, mother in danger etc) but knew you can't really separate the issue so always called myself pro choice. However since having kids I am now VERY pro choice in a way that I never would of expected. The fact is this shit is HARD and I have education, money, a supportive community, and access to good healthcare. I can't imagine how hard it is for impoverished teenagers or single parents who already have a few kids or really any un ideal circumstance. Adoption isn't perfect either and I think the "adoption bandaid" is used in theory too frequently. Now as a parent I realized that I really wouldn't want my own teenager to have to carry a pregnancy and delivery and then give up the baby...it just seems like way too much to emotionally endure as a child herself. I keep these feelings to myself because I feel they would come off as inhumane and shouldn't parenting make you more pro life? I kind of wonder if something is wrong with me. For the record I love being a parent and am happy with my life but its just a strange change of views I have experienced and was curious if anyone else has as well?

[Anonymous]

ahhh just realized i phrased my title backwards! DAMNIT!!!

[Anonymous]

I experienced the opposite. I'm still pro-choice but I used to think the fetus was just a clump of cells for much longer. It was shocking to me when I saw my 8 week old fetus flapping its limbs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I experienced the opposite. I'm still pro-choice but I used to think the fetus was just a clump of cells for much longer. It was shocking to me when I saw my 8 week old fetus flapping its limbs.

Shocks me too since it didn't happen.

[Anonymous]

I'm just as pro-choice as ever, but I was always strongly pro-choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I experienced the opposite. I'm still pro-choice but I used to think the fetus was just a clump of cells for much longer. It was shocking to me when I saw my 8 week old fetus flapping its limbs.

Shocks me too since it didn't happen.

+1

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I experienced the opposite. I'm still pro-choice but I used to think the fetus was just a clump of cells for much longer. It was shocking to me when I saw my 8 week old fetus flapping its limbs.

Shocks me too since it didn't happen.

+1

+2- At 8 weeks the fetus looks like a jelly bean- I know this because I had to have an ultrasound at 8 weeks.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, I got way more pro-choice. I have long lasting health problems that were caused by pregnancy and birth, not to mention that Sword of Diabetes that hangs over me; it is morally wrong for the state to require for religious reasons a woman to complete a pregnancy she doesn't want.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I experienced the opposite. I'm still pro-choice but I used to think the fetus was just a clump of cells for much longer. It was shocking to me when I saw my 8 week old fetus flapping its limbs.

Shocks me too since it didn't happen.

+1

+2- At 8 weeks the fetus looks like a jelly bean- I know this because I had to have an ultrasound at 8 weeks.

Pro lifers only sort of understand science. Just enough to get emotional about it.
Fwiw- I am pregnant right now and still feel very pro choice. Even after years of infertility and difficulty conceiving.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I experienced the opposite. I'm still pro-choice but I used to think the fetus was just a clump of cells for much longer. It was shocking to me when I saw my 8 week old fetus flapping its limbs.

Shocks me too since it didn't happen.

+1

+2- At 8 weeks the fetus looks like a jelly bean- I know this because I had to have an ultrasound at 8 weeks.

Pro lifers only sort of understand science. Just enough to get emotional about it.
Fwiw- I am pregnant right now and still feel very pro choice. Even after years of infertility and difficulty conceiving.

I find this comment curious.
You do realize that once you are pregnant, that “little clump of cells” grows into a human being, right?
Not an amoeba, not a reptile, not an alien.
Pro lifers understand science quite well - we understand that an abortions destroys a human life.

[Anonymous]

I've always been pro-choice, while always knowing I personally would not choose abortion barring extenuating circumstances. That's every woman's right to decide for themselves.

After two kids, I'm still very pro-choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I experienced the opposite. I'm still pro-choice but I used to think the fetus was just a clump of cells for much longer. It was shocking to me when I saw my 8 week old fetus flapping its limbs.

Be still my maternal heart! Webbed hands and feet and a tail?

It's the size of a kidney bean at that point. I could see movement, but could pick out nothing in particular. Which OB do you see that you got that high of an ultrasound to see limb buds that were a quarter inch long?

[Anonymous]

Much more pro-choice because pregnancy almost killed me. And I chose to have my tubes tied after so that I wouldn't risk my life again. It becomes infinitely more important that I stay alive now that I have a child to take care of.

[Anonymous]

More pro-choice, but I now wish that we lived in a world where this didn't have to be a conversation (birth control that works for all and is accessible for all, and the actual resources for people who do have children to be able to raise them right).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I find this comment curious.
You do realize that once you are pregnant, that “little clump of cells” grows into a human being, right?
Not an amoeba, not a reptile, not an alien.
Pro lifers understand science quite well - we understand that an abortions destroys a human life.

But it's not, it's only a maybe. We don't count birthdays from conception, we don't get to claim fetuses as dependent a for tax purposes, etc. Pro-choicers rightly believe that forced pregnancy and birth can ruin an actual, existing, contributing human life.