I think I may be gay?

[Anonymous]

I got married very young to my DH (22 and 23, just out of college, both of us are southern) and we have been married for 10 years. Through my DDs preK class I have become close with a single mom, who is a lesbian, we clicked when we met last fall and do things regularly with and without our kids all the time. I am really attracted to her and wonder what it would be like to be with her, rather than my husband. We just get along so well and have any amazing time together. I feel so energized with her. Does this mean I am gay or bisexual?

[Anonymous]

Sounds more like a good friendship, unless you are having sexual feelings towards her that you are not articulating here.

[Anonymous]

Maybe. Or bisexual. But what you certainly are is married. I'm gay and have always known, but some people do figure it out later in life. It sounds like more than anything you need to figure out what to do about your husband.

[Anonymous]

Most people, male and female are bisexual to some degree. Are you sexually and romantically attracted?

[Anonymous]

You are bisexual like most people.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you married too young to a guy you have very little compatibility with and are now experiencing the " boring" phase of marriage. You are no longer 20 somethings and you have a child. /it's a common feeling.
From what you have listed it sounds like you've met a cool person and a great friend.
Having a strong friendship with someone who is gay/lesbian does not mean you yourself are gay/lesbian.

[Anonymous]

You need Jesus

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most people, male and female are bisexual to some degree. Are you sexually and romantically attracted?

She is based on this: "I am really attracted to her and wonder what it would be like to be with her, rather than my husband."

Sounds like the friend might be a soulmate.

[Anonymous]

Why don't you see if DH will give you a free pass. Mine did and it has worked out very well for all three of us.

[Anonymous]

OP, you should watch a movie with two female relationship and am not talking about porn. If after that and you still feel strongly about your single mom friend then you maybe or it may kill any fantasy you have!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe. Or bisexual. But what you certainly are is married. I'm gay and have always known, but some people do figure it out later in life. It sounds like more than anything you need to figure out what to do about your husband.

Yes, this. And it's worth talking to your husband about and feeling him out - as another PP said, maybe he'd agree to let you explore these feelings?

What is your relationship with your DH like? How close are you? What's your sex life like (not asking details, but are you happy with it or what's the intimacy like)?

Sort out stuff with your DH first, because if you and this woman really have a mutual connection, it could take off fast and if I were your DH I'd want to have your commitment to me and our family respected by communicating with me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need Jesus

You need to stop being an asshole.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need Jesus

You need to stop being an asshole.

seriously... she should explore one on one with this woman before broaching a three-way. Also, probably better to include the husband for that rather than a guy named jesus.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are bisexual like most people.

+1

We're all on a spectrum. Some days I'm pretty straight. Other days, Not so much. Hasn't hurt my relationships with men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need Jesus

You need to stop being an asshole.

I am quite certain the Jesus poster was joking. A real fundy would either ignore this thread or post a very long diatribe about Sodom and Gomorrah.