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Should I let my 14 yr.old daughter go to Merriwether post pavilion alone with girlfriend?
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Anonymous
| Am I being overprotective--I am afraid there will be alot of drunk people and that she and her friend might be targeted or taken advantage of. The group she is seeing is Fall-Out Boy--but they have just added the rapper Fifty Cent to the line-up and I am afraid the crowd might be rowdy. Anyone faced a similar situation? We are considering buying a ticket for my husband so he can watch over them. My daughter and her friend are extremely naive and I am worried that this is throwing them into a situation that could easily go bad. Any advice appreciated! |
Anonymous
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No, don't let them go there alone. You or your husband should go with them. If they don't want you to sit with them (I remember that age -- parents are embarassing at that age to teens), perhaps you could buy seats a row or two back?
My husband and I went to a rock concert in New York City last year. Regarding teens, I did notice that the few that were there were with a parent. The bulk of the rest of the crowd looked like they were in their 20s. |
Anonymous
| No. You should definitely go with them. |
Anonymous
| I agree...go with them! |
Anonymous
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OP, has your kid been to a concert before? How trustworthy is she? How about her friend?
This is a time for you to DECIDE (you, DH, AND daughter) what is appropriate and when. Are rock concerts not okay but classical concerts are? Try to suss out these details now before your daughter started to resent you. Let her in on the rules and start giving her freedom sooner rather than later, esp if she shows good judgement. I go to Merriweather all the time for shows...and while there can be a bit of drunkeness, it is no Nissan Pavilion situation. 50 cent will not make that show rowdy, trust me. It is going to be a bunch of G-town kids... I went to my first concert at 14...no biggie, but I will say that my parents SHOULD have maybe gone the first couple of times! Work something out where everyone has a say! |
Anonymous
| Too many things can go wrong OP, it's a great idea for your husband to go with them. |
Anonymous
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I grew up with a dad in the music business and I went to my first concert alone with a girlfriend when I was 15 or 16 -- George Michael at the Cap Center. Parents dropped us off and picked us up. I think 14 might be a little young for an outdoor concert venue, but I agree with PP that this has to be a decision you make as a family based on your CHILD.
Best of luck, this can't be an easy decision. |
Anonymous
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Can't remember if it was Merriweather or not but at a local outdoor venue like it awhile back, a young woman who went off into the woods to pee was sexually assaulted during a concert. I'm not one to get all hysterical about these things but I do remember reading about this a couple of years back.
I guess it depends on the kids. If they're level-headed and you know they will follow your instructions to stay out of the woods and generally be careful, I could see letting them go. On the other hand, 14 is very young and kids at that age don't have the best judgment so I could also see sending dad with them to keep an eye on them from a distance. As a pp mentioned, it might be different at an indoor venue such as the Verizon Center. Might want to use a little more caution at an outdoor venue. |
Anonymous
Oh for the love of pete.... |
Anonymous
| My son's a 9th-grader and when a group of kids in his class went to see Kanye West at Verizon Center last fall, two moms went along with the group. The moms who went told me that there were many in the crowd who were drunk or high, and that the kids were a little freaked out. This is the kind of situation that can become ugly if you don't know how to handle it. I think it's a very good idea for parents to go along, albeit keeping a low profile. |
Anonymous
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Whether or not you take your kid to the concert, you should be frank with them about who will probably be there and what they will probably be doing (smoking up, drinking, smoking).
There should always be a game plan of what DC should do when she gets uncomfortable, with or without Dad there. Roleplay it. Sounds goofy, but it works! |
Anonymous
| It would be easy at a place like Merriwether, with the lawn, for the adults to go and split up with the children... kids don't have to look like they're hanging with mom and dad, but you can keep an eye on them or have them check in with you, and they will know you're there if they need you. |
Anonymous
NO. She may be 14 but others will be older. Do you want her to be the cool kid who goes to concerts with friends? Older guys. |
Anonymous
| When I was a teenager back in the late 80's, we always had some parent go with us to a concert until we were 16 and old enough to drive ourselves there. The parent either hung out in those newly opened "parent's room" (do they still have those?) or bought a ticket. If it was my daughter, I would make sure there was an adult along. |
Anonymous
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Fall Out Boy fans are ok, but since 50 Cent was added it is now dangerous? What exactly do you think those ganster rap fans are going to do to your daughter?
No way you should let her go. And I wouldn't bother you or hubby going either. I mean you never know what could happen with all those rap fans. |