Ending the awkwardness

[Anonymous]

So I went on an online date recently with a woman. Within 10 minutes I could tell there was no chemistry and she was acting very distant towards me. Which I thought was fine. I finally said listen no hard feelings, but this is not a good fit for either of us. I then began to ask her how she liked the site we met on. The conversation went pretty well after I did that. We finished our drinks after a decent talk and parted ways. And no I am not going to call her again.

I told my female friend I did this and she went nuts saying that was a huge mistake. That I got lucky that this girl didn't freak out on me. I ask whats the big deal of what I did? I think being open and honest upfront is better than the awkwardness.

[Anonymous]

Female here. I think what you did was fine. Obviously it worked with the woman you went on the date with, right? Ignore your female friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Female here. I think what you did was fine. Obviously it worked with the woman you went on the date with, right? Ignore your female friend.

+1
Sounds like you handled it very well and salvaged the evening for both of you

[Anonymous]

I find it awkward that you couldn't find anything else to talk to your date about except for the online dating site.

[Anonymous]

You handled it fine. Your friend sounds like the unhinged one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You handled it fine. Your friend sounds like the unhinged one.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Female here. I think what you did was fine. Obviously it worked with the woman you went on the date with, right? Ignore your female friend.

+1
Sounds like you handled it very well and salvaged the evening for both of you

+2

[Anonymous]

Sometimes there's just no chemistry or spark. It's O.K. to do what you can to salvage the situation. There's a paperback which describes my take of the situation: "It's Just A Damn Date!!!: Why We Expect Too Much Too Soon"

[Anonymous]

I thought you sounded kind of awkward. Maybe you were sensing rejection and wanted to stave it off? Either way, i would think it was a bit weird. Probably would have made my apologies and left rather than staying to chat about the dating site, after that.... so in that sense yes you got lucky.

[Anonymous]

Honesty is always right. No harm, she felt the same way.

[Anonymous]

I don't see anything wrong with it.

[Anonymous]

That actually sounds fine to me. You guys didn't have much in common, so you resorted to talking about the thing you had in common. Had I been this woman, I probably would have appreciated that you brought up a subject we could actually talk about. Sitting in silence with a stranger is so awkward.

Let's face it - some people just don't have chemistry. and some people are socially awkward. I'm pretty good at carrying on conversations, but occasionally I will find myself in a situation where I'm not getting any help at all, carrying on the conversation. Some people are not skilled at this at all.

[Anonymous]

I would actually welcome this kind of honesty.

[Anonymous]

I think you did great.

[Anonymous]

You should've at least sucked her asshole.