Don't be Surprised When a Cornered Animal Fights Back

[Anonymous]

I am curious about something my DW does. I will not attribute it to other it most women, but maybe other women can shed insight into her behavior.

My wife has a big case of double standards. She behave in the rudest, bitchiest manner but when the tables turn on her she is suddenly upset and offended. She really can't argue or fight fair and will get into using language I consider borderine abusive. For example, she feels free that she can say whatever she wants - no matter how offensive or denigrating - about me, my mother or my family, but if I would do the same she would completely lose her sh*t. Most of the time, I just walk away. But there have been a few occasions when she has cornered me and, well, you know what they say about cornered animals: don't be surprised when they fight back.

[Anonymous]

Let's see you. You compared her to an animal and called her a bitch in the next breath?

Yeah, we're done here. Your problem is your an asshole. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

"But there have been a few occasions when she has cornered me and, well, you know what they say about cornered animals: don't be surprised when they fight back."

Is this a threat of physical violence?

[Anonymous]

She has a double standard, do as I say not as I do. Nothing really novel there.

[Anonymous]

Are you implying that you've gotten physical?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let's see you. You compared her to an animal and called her a bitch in the next breath?

Yeah, we're done here. Your problem is your an asshole. Good luck.

No, he compared himself to a cornered animal and called her a bitch.

He's a stupidly macho, pointless human who should just divorce. He doesn't have the emotional maturity to be married. She doesn't sound any better. Sometimes the best thing to do for a relationship is put it out of its misery.

[Anonymous]

OP if you want to fix this, you need to lower your heat shields. You need to talk about this calmly, in an anger-free tone, when both of you are calm. And use specifics.

"Larla, last week you called my mother a hairy toad. When you do that, no matter how awful she may have been, I get upset. I recognize that I say nasty things about your family that upset you as well. How can we change this dynamic?"

[Anonymous]

Can you give us your wife's name? So I can print out this page, send it to her, and let her use it in court for the inevitable restraining order filing?

[Anonymous]

I didn't threaten violence and I don't know how that was inferred. As I said, I tend to walk way when she gets abusive but I've had her physically stand in front of me dating me to push her out of the way. Last week, I was in the car when I pulled over and got out beside she was on a tirade that was distracting to my driving. If anything, I should get a restraining order on her, boot her out of the house and take the kids. My ribs still ache from where she kicked me three weeks ago. I think she is mentally ill. I want her committed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I didn't threaten violence and I don't know how that was inferred. As I said, I tend to walk way when she gets abusive but I've had her physically stand in front of me dating me to push her out of the way. Last week, I was in the car when I pulled over and got out beside she was on a tirade that was distracting to my driving. If anything, I should get a restraining order on her, boot her out of the house and take the kids. My ribs still ache from where she kicked me three weeks ago. I think she is mentally ill. I want her committed.

And why are you still in this marriage, OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I didn't threaten violence and I don't know how that was inferred. As I said, I tend to walk way when she gets abusive but I've had her physically stand in front of me dating me to push her out of the way. Last week, I was in the car when I pulled over and got out beside she was on a tirade that was distracting to my driving. If anything, I should get a restraining order on her, boot her out of the house and take the kids. My ribs still ache from where she kicked me three weeks ago. I think she is mentally ill. I want her committed.

And why are you still in this marriage, OP?

because of the kids. and unless the wife is an axe murderess who is also a crack whore, men don't get custody.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I didn't threaten violence and I don't know how that was inferred. As I said, I tend to walk way when she gets abusive but I've had her physically stand in front of me dating me to push her out of the way. Last week, I was in the car when I pulled over and got out beside she was on a tirade that was distracting to my driving. If anything, I should get a restraining order on her, boot her out of the house and take the kids. My ribs still ache from where she kicked me three weeks ago. I think she is mentally ill. I want her committed.

Wow. You pulled over the car and just walked away. That's really safe.

You're lucky I'm not your wife. I would have hopped n the driver's seat and left your ass on the highway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I didn't threaten violence and I don't know how that was inferred. As I said, I tend to walk way when she gets abusive but I've had her physically stand in front of me dating me to push her out of the way. Last week, I was in the car when I pulled over and got out beside she was on a tirade that was distracting to my driving. If anything, I should get a restraining order on her, boot her out of the house and take the kids. My ribs still ache from where she kicked me three weeks ago. I think she is mentally ill. I want her committed.

Wow. You pulled over the car and just walked away. That's really safe.

You're lucky I'm not your wife. I would have hopped n the driver's seat and left your ass on the highway.

So what should OP have done in this situation, where his wife is yelling at him while driving?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I didn't threaten violence and I don't know how that was inferred. As I said, I tend to walk way when she gets abusive but I've had her physically stand in front of me dating me to push her out of the way. Last week, I was in the car when I pulled over and got out beside she was on a tirade that was distracting to my driving. If anything, I should get a restraining order on her, boot her out of the house and take the kids. My ribs still ache from where she kicked me three weeks ago. I think she is mentally ill. I want her committed.

Wow. You pulled over the car and just walked away. That's really safe.

You're lucky I'm not your wife. I would have hopped n the driver's seat and left your ass on the highway.

You sound like you could be his wife, completely over the top and unreasonable.

[Anonymous]

This is I Hate My Wife and She's Insane and Horrible About My Mom and 16 Year Old Daughter guy... Again. You can always tell its him because he makes the most outrageous claims about his hideous beast wife who has to be the devil herself the way he describes her, and it always involves his mother or teenage daughter.