How's your Mother's Day going?

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Anonymous wrote:I’m going to go with the assumption that you have positive intent with this post, but how incredibly tone deaf to start out with “I am absurdly happy”. While that is great OP, you must realize that this day is difficult for many people for a variety of reason. Share your happiness sure but maybe in a different manner.

You are such a jerk! Do you know the trauma you probably inflict on those around you? My best friend’s mom has given her a massive guilt trip every single year about how evil Mother’s Day is. Friend’s grandma died. Of course that’s super sad but my friend would have liked to have celebrate her mom once. Now that my friend has kids, her mom wants to celebrate Mother’s Day and give her grandkids a guilt trip too. It ended a few times with the grandsons crying about a great grandma they didn’t even know dying 40 years ago.

Friend now just celebrates with MIL and won’t even pick up the phone if her mom calls. Too many years of bitterness destroying my friends motherhood

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Anonymous wrote:I am trying not to be tone deaf while also being accurate. Last year's Mother's Day was terrible because it completely centered and catered to the preferences of my MIL who has been out of her active parenting years for 35 years. This year is a particuarly good one, and that is because of the boundaries I created and stuck to after last year's fiasco. My child will leave for college in the fall, so I feel bittersweet knowing next year's Mother's Day will be very different.

Same poster. With that being said, Husband and kids cooked and served me breakfast in bed (including chocolate covered strawberries), gave me a dozen beautiful roses in a vase, and a new bathrobe. They are taking me out to eat later this evening at a fancy bistro. I feel so grateful!!

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Anonymous wrote:I’m going to go with the assumption that you have positive intent with this post, but how incredibly tone deaf to start out with “I am absurdly happy”. While that is great OP, you must realize that this day is difficult for many people for a variety of reason. Share your happiness sure but maybe in a different manner.

You are such a jerk! Do you know the trauma you probably inflict on those around you? My best friend’s mom has given her a massive guilt trip every single year about how evil Mother’s Day is. Friend’s grandma died. Of course that’s super sad but my friend would have liked to have celebrate her mom once. Now that my friend has kids, her mom wants to celebrate Mother’s Day and give her grandkids a guilt trip too. It ended a few times with the grandsons crying about a great grandma they didn’t even know dying 40 years ago.

Friend now just celebrates with MIL and won’t even pick up the phone if her mom calls. Too many years of bitterness destroying my friends motherhood

Wow lady projecting much? PP didn’t say MD was evil or not to share. Seemed like they were pointing out the initial wording in the OP which seemed a little over the top.

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Anonymous wrote:Tweens/teens (12 and 14 girls) and my DH made me a nice breakfast with bagels from a place I love, the girls picked out a couple of e newton bracelets for me and then they gave me a huge basket of candy (I have a massive sweet tooth since I gave up drinking a while ago). They also threw in a book (huge reader) and some new tennis skirts that I love in my new size.

Played in a tennis tournament (won!) and hanging out in the AC until the second match starts at 3. Then off to my sister's to swim, dinner and celebrate my mom.

My life has NOT looked like this basically, ever. But a move closer to family, quitting a stressful DC job and prioritizing my health this past year has finally made me FEEL like a good mom and I'm grateful for a day like today after so many sub-par Mothers Days of past.

Sounds lovely; enjoy.

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Anonymous wrote:At peace - going through the hormonal release of yet another failed embryo transfer, and this time around was the first time I actually cried over it. Was worried I might get sad at Mothers Day brunch meeting BIL’s newborn, but seeing that sweet baby was like watching the ocean. Peaceful and joyful, like sunshine glittering on the waves

Oh, I feel this, PP. IVF is tough, I’ve been there. Best wishes to you and I’m
glad you went to the brunch and were okay.

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I’ve had better. Dh worked all day and forgot to plan anything/get a card. Kids did nothing. . . I had to take one kid to urgent care, the other on a million errands for things he needs and then he went I hang with friends . Drive all day, came home to messy house and no dinner planned. I went out again for groceries and got myself a cake. About to pour myself some wine and make dinner and then do some bills.. I also lost my mom a few months ago so that hurts too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m going to go with the assumption that you have positive intent with this post, but how incredibly tone deaf to start out with “I am absurdly happy”. While that is great OP, you must realize that this day is difficult for many people for a variety of reason. Share your happiness sure but maybe in a different manner.

I think you’ve misinterpreted. OP is having a lovely day and wishing others well. She made a thread to share experiences and she didn’t limit it to positivity. It’s a DCUM tradition to have holiday reporting threads- the winter holidays are legendary. Everyone is welcome to share their experience.

It’s low key for me this year as I’m sidelined with an injury and can’t go anywhere. My ACs all sent flowers so there are flowers all over the house, and my youngest is being very sweet. He gave me a Fahlo stuffed animal, which is actually kind of fun. The nicest thing was that two of my ACs sent a joint card and wrote very loving and personal messages.

It’s so much quieter now with older generations dead and the ACs launched. That’s a little bittersweet.

Hugs to those who are having a hard time to day and cheers to those who are joyful.

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve had better. Dh worked all day and forgot to plan anything/get a card. Kids did nothing. . . I had to take one kid to urgent care, the other on a million errands for things he needs and then he went I hang with friends . Drive all day, came home to messy house and no dinner planned. I went out again for groceries and got myself a cake. About to pour myself some wine and make dinner and then do some bills.. I also lost my mom a few months ago so that hurts too.

I'm sorry. My DH is similar and doesn't see the big deal either and never had my kids do anything. I now keep one Mother's Day card and have the kids sign it with the date each year. They are now 18 and 20, and this one card means so much to me.

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Pretty great for me. Asked my 16 year old only child to hang out/go to the mall and we had a blast. Didn’t even really buy much at all. Started out just wandering through the American Girl doll store and had so much fun looking at all of their stuff! Ate lunch and struck out on almost all of our hoped for finds but had fun together. One more Mother’s Day like PP above said and then she’ll be in college so I’m grabbing these experiences as much as I can. I’m most grateful to have raised a kid I want to hang out with and who wants to hang out with me. That’s the real celebration.

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve had better. Dh worked all day and forgot to plan anything/get a card. Kids did nothing. . . I had to take one kid to urgent care, the other on a million errands for things he needs and then he went I hang with friends . Drive all day, came home to messy house and no dinner planned. I went out again for groceries and got myself a cake. About to pour myself some wine and make dinner and then do some bills.. I also lost my mom a few months ago so that hurts too.

I'm sorry. My DH is similar and doesn't see the big deal either and never had my kids do anything. I now keep one Mother's Day card and have the kids sign it with the date each year. They are now 18 and 20, and this one card means so much to me.

What a cool idea!!!! I hope new moms see this and do the same! I write my daughter a letter every year on her birthday, and I seal it so I don’t look at it either, and will give them to her when she turns 18. That’s next year. Gulp.

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My son had a song made for me! And also his wife, who is celebrating her first Mother’s Day. They brought the baby to see us and he’s a hoot. Walking all over and pointing at things.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m going to go with the assumption that you have positive intent with this post, but how incredibly tone deaf to start out with “I am absurdly happy”. While that is great OP, you must realize that this day is difficult for many people for a variety of reason. Share your happiness sure but maybe in a different manner.

You are such a jerk! Do you know the trauma you probably inflict on those around you? My best friend’s mom has given her a massive guilt trip every single year about how evil Mother’s Day is. Friend’s grandma died. Of course that’s super sad but my friend would have liked to have celebrate her mom once. Now that my friend has kids, her mom wants to celebrate Mother’s Day and give her grandkids a guilt trip too. It ended a few times with the grandsons crying about a great grandma they didn’t even know dying 40 years ago.

Friend now just celebrates with MIL and won’t even pick up the phone if her mom calls. Too many years of bitterness destroying my friends motherhood

Wow lady projecting much? PP didn’t say MD was evil or not to share. Seemed like they were pointing out the initial wording in the OP which seemed

a little over the top.

The horror! How dare OP to be happy! Misery loves company.

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Why can't the miserable just let people be happy? What is the point in bringing others down? If you feel compelled to answer just say your day sucked but you don't get to control the conversation or silence others. This is my first Mother's Day since my mom died. It went ok.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m going to go with the assumption that you have positive intent with this post, but how incredibly tone deaf to start out with “I am absurdly happy”. While that is great OP, you must realize that this day is difficult for many people for a variety of reason. Share your happiness sure but maybe in a different manner.

Wow. I personally appreciate OP's positivity. There is so much negativity and grim news in the world today that someone being happy to enjoy their garden and dress makes me happy. And in fact, I am enjoying my roses and this awesome weather today as well! Though I am wearing grubby gardening clothes and not a pretty dress.

Ditto. It’s a tough day for me as I lost my mom last year, but this is a reminder to find happiness in good and simple moments in life, or happy memories. Just find the silver linings!

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I had a great day and a fun lunch. My kids are grown so I appreciate any chance to get together.