Men who turned out to be creeps/predators

[Anonymous]

I had a coworker who was laid off and escorted from the building by security. His boss never explained why he was fired. We were all kind of upset on his behalf. How dare they treat a respected coworker this way?

And a few months later, we read that he'd been arrested for possessing child porn. Everyone was shocked. No one would have guessed it about him. And we figured that probably had something to do with him being fired.

My coworker who had small kids at the time worked pretty closely with this guy, and she never get any creepy vibes from him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I assume most men are inclined to perversion and don’t respect boundaries until proven wrong.

Men are truly a threat to public health and safety - across nations and time. We just don’t talk about it (or care, evidently) because patriarchy, I guess.

You do realize that when you post something so broad, people stop caring what you say.

[Anonymous]

Here’s the thing: there are plenty of bad people doing bad things who never get caught. You think you know. You point to examples where you just had a feeling. Some people think they always know. But you don’t. Most bad people, including creeps, don’t get caught.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I find going onto the VA registered Sex Offender website shows how similar a lot of them look. Usually weird facial features...small close set eyes, overly small or long foreheads, strange jaw and chin shapes. There is definitely a look. I wonder if someone studies facial features and could weigh in?

People have. Short slippery slope to racism, if there is a slope at all.

But no surprise that extremely unattractive men are highly dysfunctional.

Wait so you either support judging the character of random people by their physical features or you don’t? You just said both things even though they are opposites.

Your reading comprehension skills are poor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“Last week, College Republicans of America appointed a new political director, Kai Schwemmer, who is a Fuentes crony and Fishback admirer. [b]“James fishback has trustworthy physiognomy, [\b]Byron Donalds’ on the other hand is deceitful and suspicious,” he posted on X. Fishback doesn’t represent the mainstream of the Republican Party today, but he’s showing us one vision of a post-Trump Republican future.”

All of you who subscribe to this physiognomy concept are ironically on the exact same wavelength as the MAGA patriarchy. Idiots all the same. Misogyny/misandry are the same.

The Nazis were pretty big on physiognomy.

[Anonymous]

Low set ears.

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had a coworker who was laid off and escorted from the building by security. His boss never explained why he was fired. We were all kind of upset on his behalf. How dare they treat a respected coworker this way?

And a few months later, we read that he'd been arrested for possessing child porn. Everyone was shocked. No one would have guessed it about him. And we figured that probably had something to do with him being fired.

My coworker who had small kids at the time worked pretty closely with this guy, and she never get any creepy vibes from him.

My husband had a very kind and skilled manager who retired from the federal government at the GS-15 level and went on to be CEO of a government contractor. He was married to a woman who was in charge of a Maryland county's public school system's nutrition/school lunch program and they had a successful young adult daughter. He was seemingly respectable in every way and was a mentor to my husband.

A few years after he'd retired and went to work for the contractor, we heard he was going to federal prison. I joked with my husband that he was probably going to prison for child p0rn because we thought it would be so preposterous that would be the case. We figured it was some financial crime since he'd worked in the finance field. Turns out, he'd solicited illegal images, which he got by mail, and served 5 years.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I’ve always gotten an accurate creepy feeling from bad people from
Day 1, even as a tiny child. I’m angry that we were essentially coached in those days to ignore those feelings in favor of being polite, being respectful, etc. It led me to ignore instincts later when I was an adult.

Along the way I’ve had the feeling about molesters, abusers, and an eventual murderer. It was the murderer that my gut feeling was the most mixed/least clear about. I wonder if the worse the person, the better they are at masking vibes.

Now that I am released from a bad marriage and no longer in a male-dominated workplace, it is interesting to see my life shrink when I have the ability to now choose to avoid people who give off bad signals.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have no idea who turned out to be creepy or a predator. How do you guys know?

Confirmation bias / toupee paradox

[Anonymous]

All men are creepy, so obviously the bad ones are also creepy.

[Anonymous]

Some are so good at hiding it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some are so good at hiding it.

+1M but most men these days are super creepy they're just so much better at hiding it.