Adult son w good job came by asking for food

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So his dad's alive and living in a penthouse and his dad is dead and left him a truck?

not OP, but Dad is alive and the truck is dead. The Dad gave his old vehicle to the son when he didn't need it anymore.

Sometimes people use the word "inherited" figuratively to describe a situation like this. I don't know how common it is, but it's not entirely uncommon.

[Anonymous]

If you want him to have a car and he's mismanaging his money, you buy it. How will he pay for insurance, gas and maintenance? Why should your ex buy a 26 year old spoiled adult a car?

[Anonymous]

Family history of mental illness makes daily life a struggle

[Anonymous]

I’d offer to loan him money to buy a used car without financing at the dealer, if at all possible. He probably is too young to rent a vehicle unfortunately. Hope things get better!

[Anonymous]

He should live with other young people next to the hospital and just work as much as possible until he saves up.

[Anonymous]

How about if he just used his uber money toward a car payment instead?

[Anonymous]

Allowance???

[Anonymous]

Is there no public transport?? Or a rental car? Is he dumb?

[Anonymous]

I'm not that smart in math, but $140 a day for Uber to go to work every day equals $2800 every month.

Why doesn't he just lease a Bentley or Porsche or Maserati? It'd be much cheaper. And with his leased Bentley, he could afford food.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He sucks at managing his money or has a secret drug/gambling/etc. problem if he can't feed himself with a good job and both your kids should be able to get their own vehicles or figure out their own transportation. That's like bare minimum for adults.

He doesn't have any money. He's 26 and only just got kicked off our health insurance.

He doesn't have a secret drug habit, he works 5 days and nights at a hospital. They drug test. Where would he gamble

Maybe we can move on to the "how often do you change your sheets" part of the daily list to check off so we can start the conversation about how dirty Americans are. Or something

It's not really even about my son. I'm mad at my ex but there's no dedicated divorce forum for venting, so.

Y'all have a good night whatever time zone you're in

I am lost. What does any of this have to do with your ex? I am sure it makes sense in your addled mind so enlighten us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm not that smart in math, but $140 a day for Uber to go to work every day equals $2800 every month.

Why doesn't he just lease a Bentley or Porsche or Maserati? It'd be much cheaper. And with his leased Bentley, he could afford food.

Yes. This is so insane. Does he realize he can finance a car for $300 a month? Even with a limited credit history -- thats what I did when I was his age.

[Anonymous]

Apple doesn’t fall far from the tree here. Your son is an ER nurse and old enough to have a 14 YO (I think? Can’t tell from your post) and can’t figure this out? Doesn’t sound like the person I’d want taking care of me in an emergency…

[Anonymous]

Why did you feel the need to include that detail about your daughter’s car dying? Presumably she is not asking you for money.

[Anonymous]

He has a drug problem not an Uber problem. No one in their right mind spends $140/day on transportation to a job. Assuming he works 5 days a week that’s $720/week and $2880/month. Tell him to trade in the broken truck and buy a Kia or Hyundai.

The fact that you had that food on hand is another completely different issue but not subject of this post.

[Anonymous]

I thought a $15K sedan several years ago, put maybe $1,000 down and my car payment was under $200 a month. I currently drive a luxury brand SUV and my payment is $350. If he can afford thousands of dollars on uber, he could easily afford a car payment.