Was on the phone with ex wife for 45 mins yesterday

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hey ladies. Serious question. And be honest. Will you be comfortable if your boyfriend spent 45 mins on the phone with his ex wife and the topics they talked about were not urgent?

I would not care. They have kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know a lot of divorced couples who remain friendly or even friends. I don't find this unusual.

+1

[Anonymous]

I'm always shocked by the level of jealousy and suspicion on dcum. Is that unique to the posters here?

[Anonymous]

I would not care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The fact that you think a 45 minute conversation is some romantic overstep may be a clue into one of the reasons for your divorce.

Amen to this.

[Anonymous]

I am super confused how OP is implying that someone having a 45 minute conversation with someone is suspicious, when he also had a 45 minute conversation. If OP suspects she is having an affair with him does he suspect he is having an affair with her? Don’t most people know whether they are having affairs? If he knows he didn’t, then doesn’t he know she didn’t?

[Anonymous]

lol

I talked to my ex about four times a week about unimportant things.

WTF with all the insecurity.

[Anonymous]

A 45 minute conversation between people who share children, where nothing sexual or suggestive was said, is crossing a line?

You crazy, OP.

Even if she was rambling, you could have hung up the phone at any time. “Hey, gotta run – good to catch up. Bye.”

It’s not that hard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A 45 minute conversation between people who share children, where nothing sexual or suggestive was said, is crossing a line?

You crazy, OP.

Even if she was rambling, you could have hung up the phone at any time. “Hey, gotta run – good to catch up. Bye.”

It’s not that hard.

I agree. I'll have to admit though I'm not sure most divorced people ever spend more than 20 mins talking to each other. We have friends who are divorced and the hatred is visible even if they hide it. Of course some are still cordial, but most are not.

OP and his ex are probably in good terms

Anyways people can just text. Most issues can be handled via text or email.

[Anonymous]

I don't understand why you didn't get off the phone with her.

[Anonymous]

I'm picturing John Updike in the afterlife reading this thread and laughing his head off. People were a lot less uptight in the 1970s.

[Anonymous]

OP it's normal.

Couple of years ago I went through s serious health scare and we thought it was the end. My ex wife couldn't stop crying. She even texted me that she loved me. She ended breaking up with her boyfriend during that period. Now she wasn't crying because she wanted us to get back together. And we had a horrible divorce. In fact even post divorce we were still arguing every other day. But at the end of the day at one point in time we were deeply in love.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do have extended conversations with my ex wife, but my girlfriend is not thrilled about it. If it were up to her all communications would have been cut off. One time she told me that everytime I hand up the phone after talking to my ex I am in a good mood.

Sock puppet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yesterday ex wife is called me briefly discussed about the kids return to school but Everytime I was going to hand up she brought something else. We ended up speaking on the phone for 45 mins and her doing 95% of the talking.

She is in a serious relationship and I am not sure how her bf will fell if he finds out that his gf spent 45 mins talking to her ex husband.

How do I nicely tell her that she crossed a line? Nothing romantic or sexual was said but I don't it's appropriate for her to be telling about her life because not only I don't care, but it's annoying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP has a point. I will not be comfortable if I am dating someone and she spent 45 mins talking to her ex husband.

Folks, 45 mins? Come on now. They clearly still have a strong bond and it's a slippery slope.

And why would the ex wife talks to him about her personal life? It's weird as f**k

They have kids together. You sound insecure.