Was on the phone with ex wife for 45 mins yesterday

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP trying really hard to look/feel important when his ex was probably talking about back to school logistics and basic kid shit.

Dude, she's not that into you, and you're not that important. Get over it. She didn't "cross a line" at all, and you said as much yourself.

Drama whore.

This is like my exh. He thinks I still want him because I want to make sure he gets with the program re the kids for the kids' sake.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yesterday ex wife is called me briefly discussed about the kids return to school but Everytime I was going to hand up she brought something else. We ended up speaking on the phone for 45 mins and her doing 95% of the talking.

She is in a serious relationship and I am not sure how her bf will fell if he finds out that his gf spent 45 mins talking to her ex husband.

How do I nicely tell her that she crossed a line? Nothing romantic or sexual was said but I don't it's appropriate for her to be telling about her life because not only I don't care, but it's annoying.

What was the subject matter? That is more relevant than the length of the call.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yesterday ex wife is called me briefly discussed about the kids return to school but Everytime I was going to hand up she brought something else. We ended up speaking on the phone for 45 mins and her doing 95% of the talking.

She is in a serious relationship and I am not sure how her bf will fell if he finds out that his gf spent 45 mins talking to her ex husband.

How do I nicely tell her that she crossed a line? Nothing romantic or sexual was said but I don't it's appropriate for her to be telling about her life because not only I don't care, but it's annoying.

Weird post.

Weird that you think talking about your mutual kids during the back to school transition time is “crossing the line.”

Grow up or go away Troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP has a point. I will not be comfortable if I am dating someone and she spent 45 mins talking to her ex husband.

Folks, 45 mins? Come on now. They clearly still have a strong bond and it's a slippery slope.

And why would the ex wife talks to him about her personal life? It's weird as f**k

Troll sock puppet

[Anonymous]

I don't understand why a mature adult couldn't have, at any point in the coversation, said "Hey, Larla, I'm really glad to hear that recipe worked out but I've gotta get to a meeting. Have a good weekend. Bye."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yesterday ex wife is called me briefly discussed about the kids return to school but Everytime I was going to hand up she brought something else. We ended up speaking on the phone for 45 mins and her doing 95% of the talking.

She is in a serious relationship and I am not sure how her bf will fell if he finds out that his gf spent 45 mins talking to her ex husband.

How do I nicely tell her that she crossed a line? Nothing romantic or sexual was said but I don't it's appropriate for her to be telling about her life because not only I don't care, but it's annoying.

Lemme guess, during most conversations you only talk 1% of the time and mainly just sit there.

Bet you can’t even remember what was said over 10 minutes let alone 45 minutes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hey ladies. Serious question. And be honest. Will you be comfortable if your boyfriend spent 45 mins on the phone with his ex wife and the topics they talked about were not urgent?

I wouldn't care. Nothing undoes the past between two people.

I would care if he still was in love not if he talked her ear off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hey ladies. Serious question. And be honest. Will you be comfortable if your boyfriend spent 45 mins on the phone with his ex wife and the topics they talked about were not urgent?

Any woman here who says no is lying. Women are very protective and paranoid. They don't trust men and for good reasons. They won't admit it. But trust me they are paying attention. In 7 months on a random Friday night after a glass of wine she will be like "so Lady, what were you talking about with Sarah for 45 mins, you guys were having a lively conversation"

Protective / concerned is fine. Paranoid is not. Mentally healthy people can lightly check up on things they notice without ot being a big deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP trying really hard to look/feel important when his ex was probably talking about back to school logistics and basic kid shit.

Dude, she's not that into you, and you're not that important. Get over it. She didn't "cross a line" at all, and you said as much yourself.

Drama whore.

45 mins to talk about back to school logistics that's a long time lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hey ladies. Serious question. And be honest. Will you be comfortable if your boyfriend spent 45 mins on the phone with his ex wife and the topics they talked about were not urgent?

What is your first language?

[Anonymous]

I only talk to my ex because I adore my kids. No way we will be on the phone for 45 mins. We can discuss by text. My head will explode if I have to hear her voice for 45 mins.

OP and his ex both need some boundaries.

[Anonymous]

The length of the phone call would not bother me at all. My exH would easily talk my ear off if I let him, but I insist on keeping all our communication limited to logistics and necessities about kids. Anything the convo starts to go towards personal updates, opinions about parenting styles, I end the convo. We’ve been divorced almost 10 years now so he has long since gotten the picture.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hey ladies. Serious question. And be honest. Will you be comfortable if your boyfriend spent 45 mins on the phone with his ex wife and the topics they talked about were not urgent?

If it happened every couple of months? Not a problem. Every couple of days? That would be a problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hey ladies. Serious question. And be honest. Will you be comfortable if your boyfriend spent 45 mins on the phone with his ex wife and the topics they talked about were not urgent?

NP. This sounds absurd to me. I'm a guy. At various times my (now) wife has talked to, or had lunch with, ex-boyfriends. Same for me and ex-girlfriends. These were people that were huge parts of our lives at one point, and significantly impacting who each of us became. Why would you expect someone to cut them off?

[Anonymous]

OP is right. If I’m the new bf, I would be mad. She should set boundaries.