If your grandparents are dead, how often do you see your first cousins?

[Anonymous]

I almost never see my paternal cousins. I moved across the country before my grandparents died and even though I go back to visit my ILs (my parents have also moved away), I don't reach out to my cousins. My brother who stayed in the area gets together with a handful of them every few months.

I do make an effort to see a couple of my maternal cousins, but they also moved away, so it's more rare, when we happen to be traveling near each other. I see one cousin every couple years, and the other maybe every six months.

[Anonymous]

Never!

[Anonymous]

Funerals bring some out of the woodwork. Other than that FB.

[Anonymous]

I see my first, second and third cousins on a regular basis.

[Anonymous]

Never. My mom and my uncle got into a huge fight after my grandfather died (my grandmother had died a decade earlier) and none of us have spoken since the funeral.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just curious.

What does one have to do with the other?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have 52 cousins on my dad’s side (he was one of 18 siblings). I barely know most of my aunts and uncles. Some of them I never met. We have a family reunion once a year and there are usually a couple hundred people there.

Wow, who plans it? How do the logistics of something like that work?

[Anonymous]

I also come from a very large family and it depends on the cousins. I have some first cousins I think I met maybe met once 20 years ago and some I see a few times a year. In my case my grandparents aren't just deceased but my older aunts and uncles were actually significantly older than my mom, so they are gone too. Honestly don't have contact info for said cousins and age wise they're closer to my parents than to me. Probably wouldn't recognize them if we walked by on the street.

But my closer in age cousins, we'll meet up for dinner if one of us is in the other's town for work or similar. Not super close but enough to say hi.

[Anonymous]

I haven’t seen my cousins in a decade. Closeness is not a thing in my extended family. My husband sees his (out of town) cousins multiple times per year and is really close with them, because that is the culture that is promoted within his family.

[Anonymous]

Maybe once a year. We don’t have a lot in common.

[Anonymous]

I have two on my mother’s side. Not only the grandparent but my mother and my ucle are dead as well. I see them once every few years but we aren’t anything alike, so.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have 19 first cousins. About half of them I haven't seen in 30 years. I can't even name all of them.

I have 17 and haven’t seen any since my grandmother’s funeral in 1998

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just curious.

Never. All of us live in different countries.

[Anonymous]

My parents both came from large families and I have a lot of cousins. I see about half of them 2-3 times per year - they live relatively close by and are around the same age as me. I rarely see the others - usually at weddings and funerals only.

One set of my grandparents died before I was born. The others passed 15-20 years ago.

[Anonymous]

Only at large milestone events. Our fathers (siblings) were never close so it seems like reuniting is out of obligation more than desire.