Same grade but not twins? Redshirt?

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Anonymous wrote:It seems obvious that OP is in a place with a 9/1 cut off, so the question is to red shirt the daughter or not. The son obviously needs to go on time since he'll be almost 6 at the start of Kindergarten if he does.

I think OP needs to make the decision for your daughter that's right for her. If her development is such that redshirting might make sense anyway, then the sibling thing might be a deciding factor, but if she's clearly a kid who would go on time otherwise, then I'd have her go.

This is what I would do

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Anonymous wrote:I have "Irish twins" - boy born early September of 2020 and girl born July 2021. We could have them be in the same grade or have DS start K4 this year and then DD start next year so there would be a year in between but she would be a little older for her grade. DS is signed up to go but we can't decide what to do with DD. What's it like having two kids in the same grade but they are not twins?

Your kids are not Irish twins and honestly we should retire that phrase as it is offensive to people of Irish descent.

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Anonymous wrote:I would call your local public school and ask if redshirting your daughter is allowed and explain the reason. If it is you really should have them in separate grades.

For those saying redshirting is not allowed, what do the schools do with these kids then? Just put them straight into 1st grade? Just curious. I have never heard of this.

Yes, for DC, straight to first. That is what I read in the news. This kind of enforcement is new, but supposed to be in effect for the upcoming school year.

DC has free pre-k, so I don't think most families would be blindsided, as they would be registered for the correct school year during preschool registration.

Bunch of articles this week on no more redshirting in WDC so easy google search of want to read more about it. Bottom line: “Any child aged 6 years old by September 30 would be required to attend first grade, officials said, according to WJLA, even if they had not attended kindergarten.” May be other places too but 1 article online says NYC and public Chicago schools don’t allow and Oklahoma has restrictions.

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Of course you should redshirt her. Why would you put them in the same grade if you have a choice?

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I have a boy and girl close in age and they are in the same grade. They have always been at schools with at least two classes per grade so they have been in separate classes. Most people assume they are twins and the kids decided if they want to explain or not. They are now going to high school and agree that they sometimes just say they are twins. They have been at different schools for the past two academic years as the middle school we started with was a good fit for one, but not entirely for the other. They have liked having overlapping friend circles, but that would still be possible if they were in different grades. Just to say there are some cases where it worked out fine to be in the same grade. My daughter is the older, so we have run into some instances where she feels responsible for her brother’s behavior, but I think that would be the older sister mentality same grade or not.

[Anonymous]

The question here is really whether to redshirt your DD or not. What is best for her given those two options?

Imagine that you are your DD- if asked HER opinion later on about on what you should have done, how do you imagine she would respond? When she is a senior in HS? When she is 35? Truly put yourself in her shoes.

And go with that. The answer here is extremely obvious, IMHO— unless there are special considerations with either child that you have not mentioned.

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Anonymous wrote:The question here is really whether to redshirt your DD or not. What is best for her given those two options?

Imagine that you are your DD- if asked HER opinion later on about on what you should have done, how do you imagine she would respond? When she is a senior in HS? When she is 35? Truly put yourself in her shoes.

And go with that. The answer here is extremely obvious, IMHO— unless there are special considerations with either child that you have not mentioned.

Ask yourself the same question of DS too. If the answers fall the same lucky you.

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Anonymous wrote:Split them up. Horrible idea to put them in the same grade.

+1

Don’t do this. They (and you) will get constant questions about this for the next 12+ years, and people will assume there is something “wrong” with your son if he is in the same grade as his younger sister. Sorry to put it that way, but it is the truth.

Whatever start date you choose, put them in separate grades for sure. They will be glad you did, later on. Being in the same grade as different aged sibling is just bizarre.

Maybe the boy will be glad.

His sister surely won’t be.

It’s likely that she’ll wonder she was held back. Heaven help you if she figures it out and starts telling people her parents held her back so her brother wouldn’t feel stupid.

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Make sure they’re in different classrooms if they go at the same time.

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Anonymous wrote:I would call your local public school and ask if redshirting your daughter is allowed and explain the reason. If it is you really should have them in separate grades.

For those saying redshirting is not allowed, what do the schools do with these kids then? Just put them straight into 1st grade? Just curious. I have never heard of this.

Yes! There were a couple news articles about this. Kids at a preschool where parents frequently redshirted were placed directly into first grade and skipped kindergarten completely.

Parents were pissed

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I would put the son in early, not the daughter late. I’m not sure why they have to be in the same grade.

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Anonymous wrote:NP: Am I missing something here?

If this is what OP is considering: Sept 2020 kid will turn 5 this Sept and be in 4K. Next year he will turn 6 in Sept 2021 as he begins Kindergarten. No?

Which would be redshirting for sure, but I don’t know where people get the idea he will be turning 7 in K.

I’m not sure what K4 is.

OP should put her DS in kindergarten this fall, not next fall. He will turn 5 in September. Then her daughter can go to kindergarten in 2021.

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Anonymous wrote:NP: Am I missing something here?

If this is what OP is considering: Sept 2020 kid will turn 5 this Sept and be in 4K. Next year he will turn 6 in Sept 2021 as he begins Kindergarten. No?

Which would be redshirting for sure, but I don’t know where people get the idea he will be turning 7 in K.

I’m not sure what K4 is.

OP should put her DS in kindergarten this fall, not next fall. He will turn 5 in September. Then her daughter can go to kindergarten in 2021.

Depending on the age cutoff, she might not be able to enroll her son for K this fall. MoCo has a September 1 cutoff (and you have to do an evaluation if you want to put the kid in early if you have a September bday).