Gifts for 7th grade girls

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Anonymous wrote:I have a 13yo DD. Her favorite gifts she got 2 weeks ago on her birthday were a pair of Snoopy slides, a pair of soccer PJ pants and Dicks gift cards.
She would not use Ulta/Sephora gift cards.

Ask the parents for ideas/suggestions OP. Or ask what hobbies she has.

She’s probably in the minority then. Most teenage girls don’t want Snoopy slides or Dick’s gift cards. Is she a tomboy?

Mine would love! She's not vain like yours.

Why are you insulting my daughter? I didn’t insult yours. It makes sense a tomboy wouldn’t like Sephora. But liking Sephora doesn’t mean my daughter is vain.

Not PP, but “tomboy” isn’t typically used in a complimentary sense. So you might not have intended to insult, but….

I’ve never heard that tomboy is an insult. In fact, I’m a tomboy. I am not into skincare or a makeup. But my daughter is. I did not intend to insult anyone’s child by asking if they were a tomboy. But there was clear intent to insult my child. Gross.

There was a generation for which it wasn’t really an insult and was sometimes a point of pride. But it’s definitely now considered an insult. Lots and lots of girls are athletic or into outdoorsy stuff so implying that there is anything “boyish” about this is insulting now. The more you know, the more you grow….

Calling someone’s child vain because they like Sephora is extremely insulting. I suggest you take your own advice and “grow.” Also I find it hard to believe someone couldn’t find anything at Sephora. They sell all kinds of shampoo, skin care, and lip balms. It’s not just makeup.

DP but I don't let my 7th grader shop at Sephora. It's overpriced. If she gets a gift card, fine, I'll let her splurge, but I would rather people not buy her gift cards for stores that we don't regularly shop at and that are teaching impressionable girls that it's okay to spend $40 on a lipstick or an unnecessary skincare product at their age.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a 13yo DD. Her favorite gifts she got 2 weeks ago on her birthday were a pair of Snoopy slides, a pair of soccer PJ pants and Dicks gift cards.
She would not use Ulta/Sephora gift cards.

Ask the parents for ideas/suggestions OP. Or ask what hobbies she has.

She’s probably in the minority then. Most teenage girls don’t want Snoopy slides or Dick’s gift cards. Is she a tomboy?

Mine would love! She's not vain like yours.

Why are you insulting my daughter? I didn’t insult yours. It makes sense a tomboy wouldn’t like Sephora. But liking Sephora doesn’t mean my daughter is vain.

We don't call people Tomboys anymore, PP. That's an insult. Why on earth would you consider a sporty girl boy-like? How rude!!!

What’s wrong with Tomboy? I was a Tomboy; lots of girls were. I dont consider it an insult.

That's because you're 45. Try calling a 13 year old a tomboy. It's rude. No need to compare an athletic and outdoorsy girl to a boy. She's just an athletic and outdoorsy boy. Do you tell boys to their face that they are effeminate and girly? Nope. Then don't call a girl a boy-like.

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Anonymous wrote:Brandy Melville top and candy

God no, not Brandy Hellville. What a shit store.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a 13yo DD. Her favorite gifts she got 2 weeks ago on her birthday were a pair of Snoopy slides, a pair of soccer PJ pants and Dicks gift cards.
She would not use Ulta/Sephora gift cards.

Ask the parents for ideas/suggestions OP. Or ask what hobbies she has.

She’s probably in the minority then. Most teenage girls don’t want Snoopy slides or Dick’s gift cards. Is she a tomboy?

Mine would love! She's not vain like yours.

Why are you insulting my daughter? I didn’t insult yours. It makes sense a tomboy wouldn’t like Sephora. But liking Sephora doesn’t mean my daughter is vain.

We don't call people Tomboys anymore, PP. That's an insult. Why on earth would you consider a sporty girl boy-like? How rude!!!

What’s wrong with Tomboy? I was a Tomboy; lots of girls were. I dont consider it an insult.

+1 I still am one!

Why are your ideas of gender so rigid that you have to call yourself a boy if you aren't wearing pink and sparkles and makeup?

No one is being called a boy. And what is wrong with having similar interests as a boy?

It's the fact that you consider those to be boy characteristics. They're not. Someone can just be athletic without you gendering it.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a 13yo DD. Her favorite gifts she got 2 weeks ago on her birthday were a pair of Snoopy slides, a pair of soccer PJ pants and Dicks gift cards.
She would not use Ulta/Sephora gift cards.

Ask the parents for ideas/suggestions OP. Or ask what hobbies she has.

She’s probably in the minority then. Most teenage girls don’t want Snoopy slides or Dick’s gift cards. Is she a tomboy?

Mine would love! She's not vain like yours.

Why are you insulting my daughter? I didn’t insult yours. It makes sense a tomboy wouldn’t like Sephora. But liking Sephora doesn’t mean my daughter is vain.

We don't call people Tomboys anymore, PP. That's an insult. Why on earth would you consider a sporty girl boy-like? How rude!!!

What’s wrong with Tomboy? I was a Tomboy; lots of girls were. I dont consider it an insult.

+1 I still am one!

Why are your ideas of gender so rigid that you have to call yourself a boy if you aren't wearing pink and sparkles and makeup?

No one is being called a boy. And what is wrong with having similar interests as a boy?

It's the fact that you consider those to be boy characteristics. They're not. Someone can just be athletic without you gendering it.

NP but enough already, you’ve explained your point several times. It’s like me continuing to argue with my parents about my 19 year old daughter wearing cheeky bikini bottoms or explaining why some boys/men who are not queer wear nail polish.

OP — if you know the kid or their parents well, ask for recs. If not, get a gift card to Target or Nordstrom, add a pair of simple medium size hoop earrings from Macy’s or Claire’s and call it a day. I used to spend waaayyy too much time overthinking gifts but have found most tweens/teens prefer gift cards.

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PP who just posted and meant to add I’m not trying to minimize the issue but that’s not the point of this post. I grew up using the word tomboy and while I don’t have an issue with it, once my kids pointed out the implications of using it to describe someone, I now understand that some consider it offensive or limiting so I try not to use it.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a 13yo DD. Her favorite gifts she got 2 weeks ago on her birthday were a pair of Snoopy slides, a pair of soccer PJ pants and Dicks gift cards.
She would not use Ulta/Sephora gift cards.

Ask the parents for ideas/suggestions OP. Or ask what hobbies she has.

She’s probably in the minority then. Most teenage girls don’t want Snoopy slides or Dick’s gift cards. Is she a tomboy?

Mine would love! She's not vain like yours.

Why are you insulting my daughter? I didn’t insult yours. It makes sense a tomboy wouldn’t like Sephora. But liking Sephora doesn’t mean my daughter is vain.

We don't call people Tomboys anymore, PP. That's an insult. Why on earth would you consider a sporty girl boy-like? How rude!!!

What’s wrong with Tomboy? I was a Tomboy; lots of girls were. I dont consider it an insult.

+1 I still am one!

Why are your ideas of gender so rigid that you have to call yourself a boy if you aren't wearing pink and sparkles and makeup?

No one is being called a boy. And what is wrong with having similar interests as a boy?

It's the fact that you consider those to be boy characteristics. They're not. Someone can just be athletic without you gendering it.

NP but enough already, you’ve explained your point several times. It’s like me continuing to argue with my parents about my 19 year old daughter wearing cheeky bikini bottoms or explaining why some boys/men who are not queer wear nail polish.

OP — if you know the kid or their parents well, ask for recs. If not, get a gift card to Target or Nordstrom, add a pair of simple medium size hoop earrings from Macy’s or Claire’s and call it a day. I used to spend waaayyy too much time overthinking gifts but have found most tweens/teens prefer gift cards.

Several people responded to the "tomboy" poster. It wasn't just one person.

And no, arguing about your child's clothing or cosmetics choices is not the same as calling someone a tomboy.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a 13yo DD. Her favorite gifts she got 2 weeks ago on her birthday were a pair of Snoopy slides, a pair of soccer PJ pants and Dicks gift cards.
She would not use Ulta/Sephora gift cards.

Ask the parents for ideas/suggestions OP. Or ask what hobbies she has.

She’s probably in the minority then. Most teenage girls don’t want Snoopy slides or Dick’s gift cards. Is she a tomboy?

DP but mine would also choose Dick’s over Ulta in a heartbeat. You have to know your audience.

+1 and honestly i'd be irritated if my kid got an Ulta giftcard because I don't want her to wear makeup. I'd probably give her the cash and use it to buy spf for me.

Oh please, there are lots of non-makeup items there. My kids have recently picked up sunscreen, hairbrushes, detanglers, toiletries case to use for mouth guards for lacrosse, hair ties that stay for sports, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a 13yo DD. Her favorite gifts she got 2 weeks ago on her birthday were a pair of Snoopy slides, a pair of soccer PJ pants and Dicks gift cards.
She would not use Ulta/Sephora gift cards.

Ask the parents for ideas/suggestions OP. Or ask what hobbies she has.

She’s probably in the minority then. Most teenage girls don’t want Snoopy slides or Dick’s gift cards. Is she a tomboy?

Mine would love! She's not vain like yours.

Why are you insulting my daughter? I didn’t insult yours. It makes sense a tomboy wouldn’t like Sephora. But liking Sephora doesn’t mean my daughter is vain.

Not PP, but “tomboy” isn’t typically used in a complimentary sense. So you might not have intended to insult, but….

I’ve never heard that tomboy is an insult. In fact, I’m a tomboy. I am not into skincare or a makeup. But my daughter is. I did not intend to insult anyone’s child by asking if they were a tomboy. But there was clear intent to insult my child. Gross.

There was a generation for which it wasn’t really an insult and was sometimes a point of pride. But it’s definitely now considered an insult. Lots and lots of girls are athletic or into outdoorsy stuff so implying that there is anything “boyish” about this is insulting now. The more you know, the more you grow….

Calling someone’s child vain because they like Sephora is extremely insulting. I suggest you take your own advice and “grow.” Also I find it hard to believe someone couldn’t find anything at Sephora. They sell all kinds of shampoo, skin care, and lip balms. It’s not just makeup.

DP but I don't let my 7th grader shop at Sephora. It's overpriced. If she gets a gift card, fine, I'll let her splurge, but I would rather people not buy her gift cards for stores that we don't regularly shop at and that are teaching impressionable girls that it's okay to spend $40 on a lipstick or an unnecessary skincare product at their age.

Plus, they sell s*x toys, openly!

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Anonymous wrote:I have a 13yo DD. Her favorite gifts she got 2 weeks ago on her birthday were a pair of Snoopy slides, a pair of soccer PJ pants and Dicks gift cards.
She would not use Ulta/Sephora gift cards.

Ask the parents for ideas/suggestions OP. Or ask what hobbies she has.

She’s probably in the minority then. Most teenage girls don’t want Snoopy slides or Dick’s gift cards. Is she a tomboy?

Mine would love! She's not vain like yours.

Why are you insulting my daughter? I didn’t insult yours. It makes sense a tomboy wouldn’t like Sephora. But liking Sephora doesn’t mean my daughter is vain.

We don't call people Tomboys anymore, PP. That's an insult. Why on earth would you consider a sporty girl boy-like? How rude!!!

What’s wrong with Tomboy? I was a Tomboy; lots of girls were. I dont consider it an insult.

+1 I still am one!

Why are your ideas of gender so rigid that you have to call yourself a boy if you aren't wearing pink and sparkles and makeup?

No one is being called a boy. And what is wrong with having similar interests as a boy?

It's the fact that you consider those to be boy characteristics. They're not. Someone can just be athletic without you gendering it.

NP but enough already, you’ve explained your point several times. It’s like me continuing to argue with my parents about my 19 year old daughter wearing cheeky bikini bottoms or explaining why some boys/men who are not queer wear nail polish.

OP — if you know the kid or their parents well, ask for recs. If not, get a gift card to Target or Nordstrom, add a pair of simple medium size hoop earrings from Macy’s or Claire’s and call it a day. I used to spend waaayyy too much time overthinking gifts but have found most tweens/teens prefer gift cards.

Several people responded to the "tomboy" poster. It wasn't just one person.

And no, arguing about your child's clothing or cosmetics choices is not the same as calling someone a tomboy.

The poster who used the word tomboy explained that she didn’t mean it as an insult. Yet her daughter was called vain because she likes Sephora. That’s an intentional insult.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a 13yo DD. Her favorite gifts she got 2 weeks ago on her birthday were a pair of Snoopy slides, a pair of soccer PJ pants and Dicks gift cards.
She would not use Ulta/Sephora gift cards.

Ask the parents for ideas/suggestions OP. Or ask what hobbies she has.

She’s probably in the minority then. Most teenage girls don’t want Snoopy slides or Dick’s gift cards. Is she a tomboy?

DP but mine would also choose Dick’s over Ulta in a heartbeat. You have to know your audience.

+1 and honestly i'd be irritated if my kid got an Ulta giftcard because I don't want her to wear makeup. I'd probably give her the cash and use it to buy spf for me.

Oh please, there are lots of non-makeup items there. My kids have recently picked up sunscreen, hairbrushes, detanglers, toiletries case to use for mouth guards for lacrosse, hair ties that stay for sports, etc.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:I have a 13yo DD. Her favorite gifts she got 2 weeks ago on her birthday were a pair of Snoopy slides, a pair of soccer PJ pants and Dicks gift cards.
She would not use Ulta/Sephora gift cards.

Ask the parents for ideas/suggestions OP. Or ask what hobbies she has.

She’s probably in the minority then. Most teenage girls don’t want Snoopy slides or Dick’s gift cards. Is she a tomboy?

Mine would love! She's not vain like yours.

Why are you insulting my daughter? I didn’t insult yours. It makes sense a tomboy wouldn’t like Sephora. But liking Sephora doesn’t mean my daughter is vain.

We don't call people Tomboys anymore, PP. That's an insult. Why on earth would you consider a sporty girl boy-like? How rude!!!

What’s wrong with Tomboy? I was a Tomboy; lots of girls were. I dont consider it an insult.

That's because you're 45. Try calling a 13 year old a tomboy. It's rude. No need to compare an athletic and outdoorsy girl to a boy. She's just an athletic and outdoorsy boy. Do you tell boys to their face that they are effeminate and girly? Nope. Then don't call a girl a boy-like.

Do you mean girl???

Also, no one called the girl a tomboy to her face. I simply asked the parent. I see now that it was highly offensive. My apologies.

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Snoopy is for losers.

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My DD is almost 13. She’s very into the environment and soccer. She just asked for some expensive pants where a portion goes to help sharks. Recently I paid her $40 for helping me with her little sister’s bday party, and she asked me to put it toward an environmental nonprofit instead. Last year she wanted to go the nursery and pick out pollinator plants and she asked for a new soccer ball. I think at this age I’d ask the family since interests vary so widely. Otherwise I’d do a gift card to a bookstore or a place like target.