Another example of why I won’t contribute to Go Fund Me requests anymore

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Neither will I. Have a neighbor who posted one seeking $50k. It went over that. They are by no means poor and I know based on their jobs they each make well over $150k a year. Their baby tragically died of SIDS but they didn’t need the funeral expenses and a funeral for a baby is not $50k. The same year they gutted their house and bought a new car. I have zero doubt that’s where the funds for that came from.

I'm not willing to judge anything done by parents who lost a baby to SIDs. Check yourself.

Please. Having a baby die is not an excuse to ask for $50k and renovate your kitchen.

+100000 AND buy a car! These people are freaking MONSTERS!

[Anonymous]

When Lahaina burned I sent $2000 to various GoFundMes for people and tour activities that moved me or that I had enjoyed.i also donated $500 to Maui Humane Society.
I sent about $1000 in GoFundMes and Amazon lists for LA fires. Mostly animal shelters and JPL employees.
I don't care they aren't tax deductions

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I have never donated to one. We have student loans and already give some to charity.
Sorry.

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Anonymous wrote:Neither will I. Have a neighbor who posted one seeking $50k. It went over that. They are by no means poor and I know based on their jobs they each make well over $150k a year. Their baby tragically died of SIDS but they didn’t need the funeral expenses and a funeral for a baby is not $50k. The same year they gutted their house and bought a new car. I have zero doubt that’s where the funds for that came from.

I'm not willing to judge anything done by parents who lost a baby to SIDs. Check yourself.

Hmmwell. Not the PP, but... it still smacks of subterfuge. My aunt gave birth to a stillborn at 42 weeks. They were middle class and didn't ask anyone for money. No parent should ever lose a child, and those that do usually don't do a cash grab. Grief does not suddenly transform you into someone you're not. It just shows others who you really are.

And apparently you are willing to judge people you don't even know who lost a child to SIDs. Disgusting.

You have it backwards. Using your child's death to bilk friends and family out of money for home renovation is disgusting. I don't know if disgusting is harsh enough.

And you know that this is what was happening ... how?

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve donated to two in the last month and I hope both these families go to Disney or renovate their house or buy a neverfull because they have gone through something so painful that they should do whatever they need to get through the day. I am glad someone set up go fund mes for them both because I’m not close enough to make them dinner or babysit their kids, but I’m happy to help them in some way. It’s just money, can’t bring their child back.

It would be one thing if the GFM said, hey, we just went through tragedy and need to take a vacation for our mental health. Then people could choose to support or not. But they never say that because most people wouldn't.

[Anonymous]

I have never donated to a GFM in my life and have no plans to start. If I knew the person close enough to donate to them, I’d just write them a check.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Neither will I. Have a neighbor who posted one seeking $50k. It went over that. They are by no means poor and I know based on their jobs they each make well over $150k a year. Their baby tragically died of SIDS but they didn’t need the funeral expenses and a funeral for a baby is not $50k. The same year they gutted their house and bought a new car. I have zero doubt that’s where the funds for that came from.

I'm not willing to judge anything done by parents who lost a baby to SIDs. Check yourself.

Losing a baby is tragic, but has no bearing or relationship to begging people for money and then spending it on material things. It's still gross.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Neither will I. Have a neighbor who posted one seeking $50k. It went over that. They are by no means poor and I know based on their jobs they each make well over $150k a year. Their baby tragically died of SIDS but they didn’t need the funeral expenses and a funeral for a baby is not $50k. The same year they gutted their house and bought a new car. I have zero doubt that’s where the funds for that came from.

I'm not willing to judge anything done by parents who lost a baby to SIDs. Check yourself.

Losing a baby is tragic, but has no bearing or relationship to begging people for money and then spending it on material things. It's still gross.

Agree. It’s pretty gross to take money from people who felt sorry for you and then renovate your kitchen. I’m honestly shocked anyone still donates.

[Anonymous]

A friend of mine asked for money on Facebook during Covid when her senior parents passed away. She then posted photos of her on the beach with her kids where she owned a summer house.

[Anonymous]

Chiming in with a recent example of a couple who posted a GFM within the last month who “desperately needed family and friends to help cover medical bills, equipment, and caregivers” who are currently posting videos of their family at Disney with all the fancy bells and whistles (first class flights, lounge, fanciest Disney resort, VIP escort, etc.).

I feel like a chump for having donated last month. I thought they were really in a jam, but apparently they just needed some money for an expensive trip.

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what’s the tax burden for the recipient? sounds like easy pickings but maybe the IRS is too busy rn surviving

[Anonymous]

I know a violent criminal whose family set up a GFM to repair damage caused by the SWAT team who broke in to arrest the person. It was cast in terms of mental health. Still…they left out why SWAT felt the need to break in!

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Anonymous wrote:I know a violent criminal whose family set up a GFM to repair damage caused by the SWAT team who broke in to arrest the person. It was cast in terms of mental health. Still…they left out why SWAT felt the need to break in!

I’d rather help the poor family in that situation (to fix their house after dealing with a presumably adult child with MH issues) than a family exaggerating a medical issue and financial hardship who immediately fly to Disney.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not one but TWO families I know who circulated “urgent” Go Fund Me requests within the last year or so are both on major vacations for spring break (think: Disney, Caribbean, Europe, etc.). Both GFM campaigns had significant targets to cover pressing financial issues tied to a crisis (think: medical or housing crisis).

I will never fall for the sob stories again.

But where is your compassion? Where is your concern for humanity??

[Anonymous]

I am close with a family going through medical stuff. Another friend set up a GoFundMe for them and they were sort of taken aback because they really don't need the money. But what were they supposed to do, refund it all and disappoint the helpful friend?
The husband said "maybe I'll buy a better boat" and I don't know if he was kidding!