BIL and family are ALWAYS late

[Anonymous]

Start telling them the event/dinner starts an hour or 30 min. before the actual start time. If they can't be on time you start without them.

[Anonymous]

I have a brother like that and my parents were the total opposite. They were always on time or early - dad was career military. It drove everyone nuts, especially my parents. We started telling my brother to be at places 30 minutes before everyone else arrived. If he was running super late, we started dinner without him. It was still annoying, but his chronic lateness didn't affect us as much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ugh this is my DH’s sibling and his family. And MIL won’t move ahead without them so everything gets held up, she gets pissy, and they roll in whenever TF they want. I hate it.

My MIL will actually propose we reschedule if The Flakes decide to cancel or come separately or suddenly can't make it before 45 minutes late.

I'm always the one saying, nope, that doesn't work. We're all here already so let's move ahead. Maddening.

"The Flakes"--love it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a brother like that and my parents were the total opposite. They were always on time or early - dad was career military. It drove everyone nuts, especially my parents. We started telling my brother to be at places 30 minutes before everyone else arrived. If he was running super late, we started dinner without him. It was still annoying, but his chronic lateness didn't affect us as much.

Pp with late brother who drove my on-time dad insane. My dad was also career military. I always wondered if it was a rebellion against my dad's punctuality.

[Anonymous]

I have a friend like this. I give them an earlier time if we must have a reservation. And I offer to host more so it doesn’t matter if she’s late. That only works because it’s one person and she fits in with our family so it isn’t extra work for me.

[Anonymous]

Is there something going on with one of the children of which you are not aware? That they don't transition easily or even with foreplanning?

How is their relationship? Could there be stress there about coming to see you all?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is this?

We get together with DH’s family once every month or two, and every single time BIL’s family is late by 30 minutes - 1 hour, and sometimes more.

Most recently, I booked a table for us around Christmas at a nice restaurant. (This was planned months in advance.) MIL came in and said that one half of the family - mom and kid 1 - would be there about 45 minutes late, and the other half - dad and kid 2 - wouldn’t make it. Neither texted me nor my husband, who planned the gathering. Mom did not apologize at all when she got there.

What is this? These are two adults in their 40s with full-time jobs, so presumably they are able to manage their time in that context. I think it’s extremely rude and it makes me want to exclude them.

Wasn’t this posted some months ago?