DH is turning me into a very grumpy nag.

[Anonymous]

We have a nearly 4 month old who is going through sleep regression. For the sake of my sanity I put the baby in the family room swing for the first part of the night so he will go to sleep without a fuss and will also sleep longer - this gives me the opportunity to get some sleep. The problem here is that the only tv shows dh is interested in watching are action films which involve machine guns, explosions, loud music etc. I don't know what the series is he's watching but he's watching it (on demand) every freaking night. I have to tell him at least 10 times to turn it down (at some point he's turning it back up because I see the volume number on the tv). And of course the baby is waking up only 2 hours later (when dh isn't home he will sleep 3 hours plus in the swing) so I give up on my own nap and take the baby upstairs pissed. Then when I take the baby upstairs he puts the tv volume on full blast. Then the baby is up every two hours after that and I can't help but feel maybe he was sleeping to the sound of machine guns for 2 hours.

I don't understand why a grown ass man is putting his own needs before the baby's?? I have explained to him that the baby is no longer a newborn and doesn't just sleep through everything as easily as before. I have legitimately told him to get his hearing checked because he wants the TV SO loud. I have asked him this and am ignored. I ask him why is he watching these types of movies and to watch something more calm while the baby is napping in the room and am ignored. I ask him at that point to at least turn it down low but he says he can't hear it and keeps turning it up and causes me to snap at him at every loud ass action scene. I do 100% of the childcare and I don't complain because he works and I don't but I am becoming extremely resentful. And then he wonders why I'm never in the mood. Having a baby is hard but I feel that he's making it 1000 times harder.

[Anonymous]

Put the baby in the swing in the family room, and then go sleep in your bedroom. Let him deal with the wakings while you get rest, and maybe he'll start to realize the problem he's creating.

[Anonymous]

Get him some earphones and a baby monitor for you when you're sleeping and baby is in the family room..he sounds like a bit of a jerk to be honest (there's no reason he shouldn't some child care even if he's the bread winner)...

[Anonymous]

Put the swing in your bedroom. Problem solved.

[Anonymous]

Um.... move the swing?

[Anonymous]

Ugh. Sleep is the most important thing in the world right now for your own health. I fell into PPD due to, in part, a lack of sleep. If he cares, he would keep the quiet.


That he doesn't speaks volumes. Please don't have any more kids with this man. If he doesn't get it straight, I would probably and actively consider divorce. When people show them who they are, believe them.

[Anonymous]

You are so naive.
Let DH handle the baby and go to sleep.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ugh. Sleep is the most important thing in the world right now for your own health. I fell into PPD due to, in part, a lack of sleep. If he cares, he would keep the quiet.


That he doesn't speaks volumes. Please don't have any more kids with this man. If he doesn't get it straight, I would probably and actively consider divorce. When people show them who they are, believe them.

4 months is really hard. You have lack of sleep, and you feel like things should be better by now. And they aren't. Probably not the best time to divorce DH.

[Anonymous]

OP, you are thinking straight because of sleep deprivation.

You need to move the swing. Do you have a living room, dining room, hallway, etc. where you can put the swing?

Remember, it's not a permanent fixture. It'll be gone in a couple months.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Um.... move the swing?

+1

Or let your husband deal with the consequences.

[Anonymous]

Make him use headphones. Problem solved.

[Anonymous]

Move the swing and make hin use "tV ears" or headphones. I've observed that, for some reason, menlike to hear things explode to relax. Don't get it myself.

[Anonymous]

So the noise is still a problem upstairs?

Headphones for DH--though maybe he could also just grow up and not watch tv and instead help with the baby for a few weeks?

[Anonymous]

Why haven't you moved the swing? Put it in your room or the baby's room.

[Anonymous]

Dh is being really insensitive. Get him so earphones or have him deal with the baby.

You shouldn't have to move the swing from room to room to accommodate DH (I am assuming during the day, the baby takes naps in the swing in the living room)?