Spin off: have you ever coerced someone into a physical relationship

[Anonymous]

or one night stand, knowing full well that they did not want it or preferred not to? In some cases, perhaps they were desperate, insecure, lower intellect, impoverished, drunk, or misguided. Maybe you led them to believe you would marry them?
If so, any regrets?
I expect few to admit to this, but I think deep down inside anyone would know when they've crossed that line.
I suspect it is more likely a thing a man would do to a woman (yes, sexist) because of dominance issues.

[Anonymous]

Why don't you answer first, OP?

[Anonymous]

This is called rape. Call it what it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is called rape. Call it what it is.

Having sex with someone who consents to sex, knowing that the other person may change his or her mind later about the relationship, is not considered the legal definition of rape. Consensual sex is not rape.

[Anonymous]

OP hereunto talking about rape, just about people who string someone along or use unfair means to get them to go along.
Bet this is one of the hardest questions on DCUM to answer.

[Anonymous]

uhh.no. I have some pride. If someone didn't want to be with me, I wouldn't coerce them. That's pretty pathetic.

[Anonymous]

Jeezus. No. That's mean, horrible, nasty, and pretty close to the lowest level of relationship decency (outside of rape). It is a kind of "cheating."

[Anonymous]

I've never done that exactly. I did beg for someone to stay, and he stayed longer than he would if I hadn't made him felt guilty for leaving. I'm not proud of it, but it is what it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is called rape. Call it what it is.

No, it's manipulation by misleading someone as to your true state of mind, getting them to voluntarily agree to something to which they might not agree if they had full information or full control of the situation (drunk.) Or maybe the seduced party is too optimistically hopeful that the ONS will lead to more intimacy, willfully deceiving themselves in hope of a different outcome.

ONS happen all the time in OP's stated circumstances. I remember an earlier thread asked women who agreed to have sex all the worst reasons they did, even if they knew it they weren't into it or it wasn't going to last - one of the funniest comments there was the lady who agreed to have sex because she was too lazy to say no, so she did it anyway.

I have to say this sounds consensual but manipulative, and that OP is also implying that one party has an unfair advantage.

OP, why do you ask?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've never done that exactly. I did beg for someone to stay, and he stayed longer than he would if I hadn't made him felt guilty for leaving. I'm not proud of it, but it is what it is.

This. My college boyfriend, I cried and begged him to stick around when he tried to dump me. Not a proud moment for me but I was young and scared of being alone. I realized the next day what a horses ass I'd been and apologized.

[Anonymous]

It's rape or at minimum abuse (whether physical or emotional) and possibly assault. And those who've done should get some help.

[Anonymous]

What is this a spin-off of?

[Anonymous]

I dunno why everyone is so horrified.

I think a lot of people in affairs do it...ie. "I'll leave my wife when xyz"... "We'll be together some day", all the while having no intent of splitting up their family.

People seeking out ONS when they're married, but hiding their regular wedding ring when out at the bar.

Both these come to mind for manipulation of facts that get people sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous



This is called rape. Call it what it is.

Only if it's a man doing it to a woman. A woman doing it to a man is not rape.

[Anonymous]

I am a man and I have been coerced/seduced a few times over my resolve to not have it happen. In most cases I did regret it later.