How to handle this cousin

[Anonymous]

DH has a 10 year old nephew who has been posting some things on Facebook that I find inappropriate (let's ignore the fact he's 10 and on Facebook). Lots of graphic Walking Dead screenshots, captures from some kind of video game with a man standing over a headless woman with a bazooka, and so on.

I personally don't want to see the stuff in my feed, but DH says it's rude to defriend him. What does DCUM think?

The bigger issue is that I don't think I want this child around my son. Maybe I'm uptight, but I don't think any of this is normal and I don't want my son thinking it is. How do I deal with this without offending anyone?

[Anonymous]

Defriend, tell the parent why if they ask.

[Anonymous]

1) You don't have to defriend him to not see his crap in your feed. You can just block his stuff from showing up.

2) I don't know that you can avoid having the kid around your son completely - but just always be too busy for 1-on-1 play dates.

[Anonymous]

You can take his posts out of your newsfeed without defriending him.

[Anonymous]

1) You can remove him from your newsfeed without unfriending him.

2) You're uptight. Yes, the stuff is edgy for a 10-year old but it's not anything that would cause me to isolate my kid from his cousin. He's just a 10-year-old trying to act provocative. You should probably ask his parents if they see what he posts.

[Anonymous]

10 is way too young for that crap! Am I wrong? Am I wa behind the times? Wtf is a 10 year old doing watching walking dead?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1) You can remove him from your newsfeed without unfriending him.

2) You're uptight. Yes, the stuff is edgy for a 10-year old but it's not anything that would cause me to isolate my kid from his cousin. He's just a 10-year-old trying to act provocative. You should probably ask his parents if they see what he posts.

His parents like his photos, so they know.

[Anonymous]

You can hide the posts from your news feed, problem solved

[Anonymous]

Unclench

[Anonymous]

Wow, I'm really surprised people thinks it's ok for a 10 year old to be on Facebook and that he's posting and watching violent, graphic TV shows and video games.

[Anonymous]

Don't defriend him. You're better off having the information.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't defriend him. You're better off having the information.

How so?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, I'm really surprised people thinks it's ok for a 10 year old to be on Facebook and that he's posting and watching violent, graphic TV shows and video games.

I don't think that people think it's OK so much as they think there's not much OP can do about it, given that his parents already know and apparently approve.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Defriend, tell the parent why if they ask.

Yep, did it with a cousin's teenager.

[Anonymous]

Just hide him from your newsfeed