How to handle this cousin
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Anonymous
Ok, obviously. But what about him influencing DS? |
Anonymous
| I guess my concern is that there's something wrong with him emotionally, that he enjoys this kind of thing. |
Anonymous
What influence is he having on your ds? I do think it's weird that his parents like the gory pictures but is he suggesting that they act out the scenes? I think the gory stuff is a typical phase at this age. It's just unfortunate that he's allowed to use facebook. |
Anonymous
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I still remember 40+ years ago when my older brother would spend a lot of time describing gory scenes that he had heard about, read about, or imagined himself. Amazingly, we all turned out normal.
If the parents are permissive enough to let him use Facebook (a violation of Facebook rules), then they might be allowing him to see horror movies as well which would certainly enhance his interest in the subject. It does not mean that he is disturbed or will be a bad influence on your son. |
Anonymous
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Defriend or hide him. I have a nephew like this, it's my SIL's child. He is 11 years old and has been like this for years because his parents let him watch south park and bunch of other inappropriate shows since he was 7 years old. He curses and is very crude. I've told Dh, I don't want him around our daughter and luckily he agrees. If you think he's a bad influence try and limit his time around your child.
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Anonymous
I agree. Know who the kids are that influence your children. |
Anonymous
| I don't friend little kids. It's creepy. |
Anonymous
He sent me the request and I thought it rude to reject it. And I find it creepy that you think there's anything untoward about being Facebook friends with your nephew. |
Anonymous
| Personally, I would not unfriend him bc I would want to know what he was up to in order to regulated DS's involvement with him. On a side note, I absolutely loved horror movies as a child. Loved them! I wouldn't allow my kids to watch the sorts of things I watched, but it did not affect my personality or compassion in any way. |
Anonymous
| Just hide his posts. His parents are aware so now it becomes not your business. And there are a lot worse things in the world that your son may be influenced by. I agree with a PP- unclench. |
Anonymous
He curses?!?! Oh noes! Well, obviously he's a budding serial killer. You need a drink, and to relax, in the worst way. |
Anonymous
| Was I the only one who used to sneak watching Faces of Death back in the 80s? I was 14, not 10, but still. As a pp eloquently put it, unclench. |
Anonymous
Like what? I find being fascinated by a man blowing a woman's head off a little disturbing. |
Anonymous
I agree -- disturbing. And the "unclench" and "back in the 80s I watched so and so gory stuff" posters didn't have access to a whole world of gory images to pore over (and over and over) and share with anyone and everyone back then. This kid doesn't just watch horror; he's got access to images that his parents probably have no idea he's seeing. Disturbing indeed. OP, block his stuff, and since you know his parents are OK with it (though they're being naive --what he's posting very likely isn't all he's seeking or seeing), well, I'd be sure he did not spend time alone with my kid. You have every right to determine what your own child is exposed to. |
Anonymous
Get that but plug out of your uptight ass and focus on your children instead. Bet they still watch "The Wiggles."
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