No response from baby announcement-- odd or normal now?

[Anonymous]

We had third baby-- surprise after 7 years since last baby. I sent out announcements as did with my other two. Same family and friends as our holiday cards to share good news, weight, sex, pic--- all that. I'm not complaining because we already had girl and boy so I know this bsby didn't "change our dynamics".... And we can buy anything we need-But I think it's odd that we got nothing really from any long distance family or friend. Even from my husbands siblings and my three best friends-- nothing... Not even card. Our neighbors brought food which was the nicest gesture of all since I had c section-- but I think it's odd that not even family and close friends bothered to send a card. Our local friends came by to see baby- both our offices and local friends sent gifts. Our parents came to visit, etc.
Is this because third baby or just people don't send cards, etc anymore? They congratulated husband on Facebook.. Maybe that's modern card??? Whenever I get announcement for baby, graduation, etc I always send card and gift-- enjoy doing it-- but was just surprised a bit.

[Anonymous]

I never send a card, but I like the hell out of new baby pics on FB and send a gift if it's the first kid.

I'd chalk this up to FB.

[Anonymous]

Oh, I'm sorry, OP. That's sad. I know you would have liked a phone call, text, email, card, something! Well, let me say it... I'm so happy for you!! Congratulations on the birth on the new blessing in your family! <3

[Anonymous]

I'm busy, overwhelmed and depressed. It has nothing to do with that it's your third - I just don't have it in me.

[Anonymous]

My #3 got very little acknowledgement and that was 12 years ago. Many people surprised me that just blew it off that I thought were close, especially when we had acknowledged all of their kids' births. Didn't need a thing, but still upsetting.

[Anonymous]

We're just kind of over it. "oh look dear, Jim and Susan had another baby." "Oh, really, that's nice." "Can you start the pot roast?" "Sure, no problem."

[Anonymous]

I put every new announcement I get on the fridge, but don't send cards. I think cards are kind of silly in general. I always make sure to reach out in some way though. Mainly FB.

[Anonymous]

Your husband got acknowledgments on FB- did you get any texts or calls? I wouldn't have expected a card.

[Anonymous]

I wish there were more celebrations for subsequent babies. I am not talking gifts but it feels like after the first it is no big deal. 3+ and no one cares. I like the idea of celebrating each baby! it is just not how it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We're just kind of over it. "oh look dear, Jim and Susan had another baby." "Oh, really, that's nice." "Can you start the pot roast?" "Sure, no problem."

That's really sad for you.

Congrats, OP!

[Anonymous]

I agree with you, OP. I think it's odd and sad. I would have sent at least a card. Congrats! And try not to take it personally.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your husband got acknowledgments on FB- did you get any texts or calls? I wouldn't have expected a card.

I don't Facebook- but Yes, I got some calls and texts. My best friend sent flowers. That's about it long distance wise.
To all of you---thanks all for the nice congrats on here--- I'll print and post in his baby book! Haha. Here these strangers took more time to welcome you than our good friends and family! And I think you're right that no one sends cards anymore..

[Anonymous]

Congrats OP! Unless I was very close with that person I wouldn't send a card/gift. Probably an email or text and I would definitely like/congrats on Facebook.

[Anonymous]

Mail is so hard and I am sick of buying gifts for everyone. I am shocked when people have the bandwith to get us gifts. None of my friends who had frist ir second kids sent us announcements. I love the picture postcards, though. I put them on my wall, and we keep them around.

We would have brought you a meal and offered to babysit your kids or do errands. Via text, that is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your husband got acknowledgments on FB- did you get any texts or calls? I wouldn't have expected a card.

I don't Facebook- but Yes, I got some calls and texts. My best friend sent flowers. That's about it long distance wise.
To all of you---thanks all for the nice congrats on here--- I'll print and post in his baby book! Haha. Here these strangers took more time to welcome you than our good friends and family! And I think you're right that no one sends cards anymore..

Not trying to sound snarky, but FB posts, calls and texts seem like proper acknowledgment from long-distance friends and relatives to me. What else could they have done that wouldn't have left you feeling slighted OP?