No response from baby announcement-- odd or normal now?
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Anonymous
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I wouldn't say you got "no response". You did get lots of nice responses. A few of those close to you didn't make as big a fuss as you wanted, I'm sorry about that. But it seems like you've had lots of people who did reach out and offer congrats.
I'm much less likely to send a gift for a 3rd baby. Sorry! |
Anonymous
| I didn't know that people were supposed to respond to card announcements. I've only received two ever. Every other time I've heard by phone or email. |
Anonymous
| I think its a sign of the times. I aimed to tell most people in person that I was expecting my second child, but for the few people I wasn't able to meet up with, I let them know over email messages. From some of the people I considered friends, it took over a week to even send an email saying 'congratulations' when they are clearly all over FB and instagram. Some people I still haven't heard back from. I didn't expect anything big but I think just a note to say something kind (even over email) in a timely way would have been nice. I'm sorry this is bothersome for you, OP. I hear you! |
Anonymous
| I'm super excited for your first kid, moderately excited by your second and over it by your third. Just being honest. |
Anonymous
| For my first I had no baby shower and no food delivered after the birth. I'm not sure what you're complaining about. |
Anonymous
| If I get a baby announcement, to me it's just that. An announcement. I say, "Oh how cute, good for them," send a text/email/FB message, and that's it. |
Anonymous
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OP, I just wanted to be the voice of dissent here. I always send a card and/or gift when I receive a birth announcement or announcement of other major life event for a relative or close friend who lives far away (whose shower or other related events I couldn't attend). I like receiving and sending mail the old fashioned way and I appreciate it when people send me nice cards/announcements so I return a card (and sometimes a gift, depending on the circumstances).
I am not saying this is the norm or should be expected just that it makes me happy to send and receive mail so I am trying to do my part to not resort to e-mail/text/FB for every congratulatory sentiment that I send. I'm also not trying to sound like doing this makes me better than anyone else. I'm just a sucker for old fashioned things like this. |
Anonymous
| I only get a gift for a third child if it is a very, very close friend. I'm really surprised that OP is surprised. You (probably) aren't royalty, your baby is (probably) not the messiah, I would suggest you stop expecting people to give you so much attention. |
Anonymous
Me too! Congrats sweetie!! |
Anonymous
Nobody sends gifts/cards in response to birth announcements anymore, I'm sorry 
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Anonymous
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OP here- just to clarify- it wasn't "mass mailing" or 100 cards. It was like 40 and I said it was basically just closest circle of family and friends from xmas list. Clearly no one sends gifts from xmas card, so I don't think sending mail suggests a gift.
As stated, I don't Facebook, Twitter or Instagram-- so no one sent me notes that way. I absolutely expected acknowledgement from a handful of those folks- like three of my bridesmaids and close friends, my husbands best friend and his brother and sister. I think that would have been thoughtful and appropriate. A text or call or nothing from more distant friends was fine. Although I send a gift for any announcement... Baby, high school graduation.. Even take housewarming gifts when friends invite us to their new home. Guess I think it's polite and I like doing it. And it's not about getting attention- or needing something. It's just what I think would have been the right gesture I guess. I'm not losing sleep, but making observation. |
Anonymous
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[quote=Anonymous]OP here- just to clarify- it wasn't "mass mailing" or 100 cards. It was like 40 and I said it was basically just closest circle of family and friends from xmas list. Clearly no one sends gifts from xmas card, so I don't think sending mail suggests a gift.
As stated, I don't Facebook, Twitter or Instagram-- so no one sent me notes that way. I absolutely expected acknowledgement from a handful of those folks- like three of my bridesmaids and close friends, my husbands best friend and his brother and sister. I think that would have been thoughtful and appropriate. A text or call or nothing from more distant friends was fine. Although I send a gift for any announcement... Baby, high school graduation.. Even take housewarming gifts when friends invite us to their new home. Guess I think it's polite and I like doing it. And it's not about getting attention- or needing something. It's just what I think would have been the right gesture I guess. I'm not losing sleep, but making observation.[/quote] Don't you see and talk with these people (like your husband's best friend, your bridesmaids, your sil) often enough that sending an announcement is over kill? You named these people as "close". |
Anonymous
| Why would they send a card? I'm sure your husbands siblings have congratulated you and sweet things to you on the phone if they have not yet seen the baby. I never send a card for a new baby, even the first. I like pics on fb or will reply to an email if a pic is sent that way. |
Anonymous
| Well i never knew FB txt and email were not enough. I didn't know I was supposed to respond to a birth announcement t to begin with. |
Anonymous
| This is why I detest graduation announcements. I do send a check each time but absolutely a gift grab. |