Need opinion on correcting husband in front of kids

[Anonymous]

My DD threw her fork on the floor. DS picked it up and fired it at DH, hitting him in the hand. DH was exasperated and slammed his fork on the rug under the kitchen table. I told him that was unacceptable in front of the kids, but he thinks I was off base in calling him out in front of the kids. I think if I had not said anything, then the kids would think this is ok. A very young child cannot always distinguish the nuances of throwing a fork at the ground vs at someone. Thoughts?

[Anonymous]

Did you call the kids out for their behavior? Is what they did acceptable?
IMO, you discipline your kids for what they did NOW (seriously, throwing forks?!) and discuss DH's reaction later, in private. Your DH is totally right

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DD threw her fork on the floor. DS picked it up and fired it at DH, hitting him in the hand. DH was exasperated and slammed his fork on the rug under the kitchen table. I told him that was unacceptable in front of the kids, but he thinks I was off base in calling him out in front of the kids. I think if I had not said anything, then the kids would think this is ok. A very young child cannot always distinguish the nuances of throwing a fork at the ground vs at someone. Thoughts?

Can they distinguish the nuances of NOT THROWING A FORK AT ALL?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you call the kids out for their behavior? Is what they did acceptable?
IMO, you discipline your kids for what they did NOW (seriously, throwing forks?!) and discuss DH's reaction later, in private. Your DH is totally right

This 1000 times.

[Anonymous]

I can't get past the title. If you think it is your job to "correct" your spouse, you've got a bigger issue than whether your kids are present. Yikes.

[Anonymous]

OP, what do you mean by "calling him out"?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DD threw her fork on the floor. DS picked it up and fired it at DH, hitting him in the hand. DH was exasperated and slammed his fork on the rug under the kitchen table. I told him that was unacceptable in front of the kids, but he thinks I was off base in calling him out in front of the kids. I think if I had not said anything, then the kids would think this is ok. A very young child cannot always distinguish the nuances of throwing a fork at the ground vs at someone. Thoughts?

You were wrong, OP. Don't undermine a co-parent.

[Anonymous]

I meant to add, no problem with you discussing it with DH in private, and been encouraging him to explain what happened to your DC later. But in the moment? You were wrong.

[Anonymous]

I correct any family member in front of any family member.

We can all stand correction from time to time, and this does not undermine DH's parental authority since he makes himself as authoritative as need be when he wants to (so do I). On the contrary, giving and accepting remonstrations gracefully is a good example for the children.

[Anonymous]

Daaaamn at your son though. No way in hell

[Anonymous]

My dad was a bully and my mom never stood up to him in front of us. It always felt like she wasn't protecting us and let him treat everybody like shit.

So, OP, if you need to stand up for yourself and the kids, do it. Slamming a fork down is not coparenting, it is having an adult tantrum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Daaaamn at your son though. No way in hell

We have no idea how old the DS is. OP said very young. 2? 3?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Daaaamn at your son though. No way in hell

We have no idea how old the DS is. OP said very young. 2? 3?

If the kid THREW the fork (not dropped), then he's old enough to know better.

[Anonymous]

He just turned 4, DS is 1.

[Anonymous]

And DH also threw fork albeit not at someone.