Am I right to be made over lost urn?

[Anonymous]

My cousin lost her grandma's (my god mother's) ashes. I'm kind of pissed off but then I think, those ashes are just her body and not her soul. Cousin thinks she's left them somewhere in the process of her travels over the last few years. I should get over this right?

[Anonymous]

How do you lose something like that. Very strange.

[Anonymous]

I would do my best to get over it. It was a mistake, not something she consciously did to someone. We're you expecting to get some portions of the ashes? I assume.not since it's been a few years now. I realize it stings, but ultimately it's not something that impacts you, and means nothing for how important she was to all of you.

[Anonymous]

Yes, you should get over your cousin losing the urn containing her grandmother's ashes.

[Anonymous]

It wasn't your grandmother, and if it were, she is already lost to you. A bottle of burned bones is meaningless.

[Anonymous]

Pp's would you be okay if the funeral home lost a loved ones body?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, you should get over your cousin losing the urn containing her grandmother's ashes.

+1

Circle of grief, your cousin is one ring inside of you. Don't shit on the inner ring.

[Anonymous]

She may be my cousins grandma, but she was very close to me. I know ashes don't mean much but it's kind of the symbolism I guess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pp's would you be okay if the funeral home lost a loved ones body?

To me that's different because the loss would impact me, I wouldn't be able to have the burial or ash scattering that I wanted to say goodbye. OP is talking about he ashes of a person who passed years ago and whose ashes belonged to someone else, and the loss doesn't affect her in any concrete way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, you should get over your cousin losing the urn containing her grandmother's ashes.

+1

Circle of grief, your cousin is one ring inside of you. Don't shit on the inner ring.

This. You can be mad, but don't say anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pp's would you be okay if the funeral home lost a loved ones body?

Not the same thing, unless I expected the funeral home to just keep the body for years without payment.

A better analogy would be if my cousin buried grandma in her background and later lost the headstone and cant remember where grandma got buried.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My cousin lost her grandma's (my god mother's) ashes. I'm kind of pissed off but then I think, those ashes are just her body and not her soul. Cousin thinks she's left them somewhere in the process of her travels over the last few years. I should get over this right?

If she had lost your mother's or grandmother's ashes, I could understand your being upset. But as the direct descendent, the ashes were hers to do with as she chose, including treating them casually.

[Anonymous]

I can understand ins a WTF way. Who loses something (one) like that? But you can't do anything about it.

[Anonymous]

It's understandable that you are mad. Really, WTF cousin! I would be mad too. But at this point, realistically, what are you going to do? Surely a rift between you and your cousin is not what she would have wanted, right?

[Anonymous]

I'd be mad and I wouldn't trust her to do anything important in the future. That said, being mad won't change or fix anything so you may as well make peace with it.