Question for Catholics re: marriage

[Anonymous]

I have not one, but two, Catholic friends who were horrified to find out that my Catholic husband and I are in an "invalid marriage due to lack of form". We were married in my Protestant church without dispensation from the Catholic church. One of them won't even speak to my husband because she considers him living in sin. The other mentions, every time he sees us, that we need to get our marriage convalidated so we're "really married".

But both are vehemently pro-same sex marriage. Can any Catholics explain why (some? most?) Catholics are accepting of same sex marriage, but consider my husband and I just live-in lovers? I know lots of Catholics pick and choose rules, but it seems strange to pick and choose rules specific to marriage (or any of subset of Catholic rules, but this is the one that affects me).

[Anonymous]

I'm Catholic. You have weird friends.

[Anonymous]

Catholic here. Traditional Catholic actually.

You have weird friends. Sounds like they have some sort of hybrid belief system with regards to marriage.

[Anonymous]

The term "cafeteria Catholic" was invented to describe exactly this.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cafeteria_Catholicism

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm Catholic. You have weird friends.

Agree.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The term "cafeteria Catholic" was invented to describe exactly this.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cafeteria_Catholicism

Right, and I alluded to that. I should have added that I can't figure out why cafeteria Catholics would be the type to care about an invalid marriage.

[Anonymous]

You friends are looney!

My kids go to Catholic school. I would say at least 25% of the marriages are "invalid"... gross, who even says that.

Here are examples: Divorced and remarry, did not want to convert (Jewish, Buddhist, etc), eloped and never went back and did the sacrament of marriage...

How do you friends even know, who asks that question.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm Catholic. You have weird friends.

Agree.

+2

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You friends are looney!

My kids go to Catholic school. I would say at least 25% of the marriages are "invalid"... gross, who even says that.

Here are examples: Divorced and remarry, did not want to convert (Jewish, Buddhist, etc), eloped and never went back and did the sacrament of marriage...

How do you friends even know, who asks that question.

They were at our wedding. The one who won't speak to my husband told me once she wouldn't have gone if she'd known there wouldn't be a priest co-officiating.

And no, she's clearly not a good friend. Facebook only at this point, obviously.

[Anonymous]

Weird friends.
Catholic here and no idea what you are going for here except another Catholic bashing post.
Anyone of any denomination who has such strong feelings about a personal choice is not your friend.
Move on

[Anonymous]

Strange friends.

[Anonymous]

Cradle Catholic here. Could be that your friends don't care who is married to whom as long as they get the form right. Possibly a consistent position? Agree your friends are looney on this one. But at least you know that now.

[Anonymous]

And you consider someone a friend who won't speak to your husband?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You friends are looney!

My kids go to Catholic school. I would say at least 25% of the marriages are "invalid"... gross, who even says that.

Here are examples: Divorced and remarry, did not want to convert (Jewish, Buddhist, etc), eloped and never went back and did the sacrament of marriage...

How do you friends even know, who asks that question.

They were at our wedding. The one who won't speak to my husband told me once she wouldn't have gone if she'd known there wouldn't be a priest co-officiating.

And no, she's clearly not a good friend. Facebook only at this point, obviously.

The Lord works in mysterious ways!

Good to find out now that they are not good friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Cradle Catholic here. Could be that your friends don't care who is married to whom as long as they get the form right. Possibly a consistent position? Agree your friends are looney on this one. But at least you know that now.

Ah, interesting thought, that would be more consistent.