are these red flags?

[Anonymous]

Spoke to a guy recently from online dating website. He asked me for my full name. Maybe he wants to Google me. I said no. He also mentioned he feels like a kid in a candy shop . I'm not sure what that means. Please help.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, approach with caution.

[Anonymous]

Listen to your gut. If this is sending up red flags for you, move on.

[Anonymous]

Eww..What a freakin' creep OP.

Stay far away from this one. Far away.

No stranger has any right asking for your Full Name right away. Yes, he probably wants to "Google" you. Or more.

As for his comment, he means that he feels he has his pick of many different women + is all giddy about it.

In other words, he feels as if his options are unlimited which means he sure has a huge ego.

[Anonymous]

Gross, yes those are most definitely red flags. Run away from dudes like that.

[Anonymous]

Op here: he gave me his real name and I was able to Google him. I confirmed his job and found more pictures.

[Anonymous]

Op here : I let him know I am no longer interested. He asked why. Maybe I should leave him in the dark about the reasons?

[Anonymous]

I think you are being a bit oversensitive. In fact, you could see the candy shop comment in a highly flattering light. He feels that you are a bevy of riches. But if it bothers you that much, move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Eww..What a freakin' creep OP.

Stay far away from this one. Far away.

No stranger has any right asking for your Full Name right away. Yes, he probably wants to "Google" you. Or more.

As for his comment, he means that he feels he has his pick of many different women + is all giddy about it.

In other words, he feels as if his options are unlimited which means he sure has a huge ego.

That's a stretched interpretation.

[Anonymous]

I'm not entirely sure why it's not appropriate to ask someone's full name before going on a date with them. In fact, I was always told this was an important safety precaution. To tell a friend I am meeting Joe Joblonski at XYZ Restaurant in case I don't return.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Eww..What a freakin' creep OP.

Stay far away from this one. Far away.

No stranger has any right asking for your Full Name right away. Yes, he probably wants to "Google" you. Or more.

As for his comment, he means that he feels he has his pick of many different women + is all giddy about it.

In other words, he feels as if his options are unlimited which means he sure has a huge ego.

That's a stretched interpretation.

Sounds like an accurate one to me, though.

OP, this guy is gross. Don't bother telling him why you're put off by him; just move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Eww..What a freakin' creep OP.

Stay far away from this one. Far away.

No stranger has any right asking for your Full Name right away. Yes, he probably wants to "Google" you. Or more.

As for his comment, he means that he feels he has his pick of many different women + is all giddy about it.

In other words, he feels as if his options are unlimited which means he sure has a huge ego.

That's a stretched interpretation.

Sounds like an accurate one to me, though.

OP, this guy is gross. Don't bother telling him why you're put off by him; just move on.

More bad advice from DCUM. I hope OP didn't reject him based on the gormless, unreasonably suspicious comments that seem to be a staple of this place.

He's "gross" why? Because of the candy store comment? It sounds like he is just amazed at all of the attractive profiles. How is that "gross"?

I personally think that asking for a full name when you haven't met is a bit demanding and forward, though. I don't think it's "gross." If anything, it suggests that he is interested in an LTR. Otherwise, he wouldn't care enough to ask.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm not entirely sure why it's not appropriate to ask someone's full name before going on a date with them. In fact, I was always told this was an important safety precaution. To tell a friend I am meeting Joe Joblonski at XYZ Restaurant in case I don't return.

I'm a very safety-conscious online dater, and I don't think it's necessary. I screenshot the guy's profile, and copy/paste that into an email with the info I know about him - name, phone number I have for him, if he's told me where he works, etc. I send that email to a friend before the date with the time and place we are meeting. I drive myself to early dates, and get in touch with the friend who I sent the email to after the date. If she doesn't hear from me, she knows something is wrong, everything I do about him, and where to tell the authorities to start looking, immediately.

Also, this may be a double standard (which I don't normally abide, but let's face it, statistically, women are the victims of men much more often than men are victims of women) but I think it's particularly inappropriate that a man asked a woman for her last name. He could use that to find her place of employment or home address to stalk her.

However, if she's otherwise interested in the guy, I don't think she needs to drop him immediately - she just needs to explain this. I've refused inappropriate offers from men I've met online (e.g. offering to pick me up, etc.) by just explaining that while I'm sure he's harmless, some people aren't, and I'm not comfortable accepting a ride/giving out that info until we've met in person/been out more times, etc.

[Anonymous]

I would just stop responding at this point OP. You've made it clear that you're not interested. It might be good for him I you provided constructive criticism, but that's not your job and, personally, I don't have the energy to provide a written analysis of why I'm just not into someone, or worse, get stuck in an argument about why I'm not into someone.

I love the kid in a candy shop comment-soon he's going to realize that online dating is like being a kid in a candy shop that's packed with stale circus peanuts and Chuckles that someone licked and dropped on the floor and then put back the package (I kid! I'm one of those Chuckles!)

[Anonymous]

If you're turned off by his comments, that's well within reason. But they are not "red flags" of anything.