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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm not entirely sure why it's not appropriate to ask someone's full name before going on a date with them.  In fact, I was always told this was an important safety precaution.  To tell a friend I am meeting Joe Joblonski at XYZ Restaurant in case I don't return.[/quote]

I'm a very safety-conscious online dater, and I don't think it's necessary. I screenshot the guy's profile, and copy/paste that into an email with the info I know about him - name, phone number I have for him, if he's told me where he works, etc. I send that email to a friend before the date with the time and place we are meeting. I drive myself to early dates, and get in touch with the friend who I sent the email to after the date. If she doesn't hear from me, she knows something is wrong, everything I do about him, and where to tell the authorities to start looking, immediately.

Also, this may be a double standard (which I don't normally abide, but let's face it, statistically, women are the victims of men much more often than men are victims of women) but I think it's particularly inappropriate that a man asked a woman for her last name. He could use that to find her place of employment or home address to stalk her.

However, if she's otherwise interested in the guy, I don't think she needs to drop him immediately - she just needs to explain this. I've refused inappropriate offers from men I've met online (e.g. offering to pick me up, etc.) by just explaining that while I'm sure he's harmless, some people aren't, and I'm not comfortable accepting a ride/giving out that info until we've met in person/been out more times, etc. [/quote]

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