Re 6, my impression is that many (most?) boundary cheaters are rich white people living either outside Wilson’s boundary (cheating to get in to Wilson) or, for those with middle school students, within ward 3 in the Hardy boundary, and cheating to send their kids to Deal. Surprising numbers of parents will openly brag about how much they’re saving by not using private school. Method = using an office or relative’s address or renting a cheap apartment just for the address. I’m not lobbying against this or salivating, but I think these people are unethical and raising their kids to be cheaters and liars. |
I think for the vast majority of kids is really is not a problem. But for some ... If your kid is the type to be targeted for physical bullying, the longer it takes to get out of the hallways, the more likely you are to run into your nemesis bully. My child found some very circuitous routes to avoid specific people and had a lot of tardies in one class. |
Have you all forgotten what it’s like to be in MS?! My son complains but he really knows he shouldn’t be socializing and get to class! This really isn’t a problem!! |
Depends on the kid, children who already have behavior, anxiety, or social and emotional issues suffer those who are resilient, self-motivated and/or high achieving don't! Ask you child, not about him but about others behavior in hallway and bullying? |
There are over 1500 kids enrolled. The breaks between classes are 4 minutes. 12 years olds have to navigate the halls and get to the other side of the school. If you have a student at Deal, go to the office one day and experience a class change. It’s terrifying. Seriously. |
Go to stairwells, basement, 3rd floor and any other places not a lot of administrators i.e. not the main level! After lunch and recess! |
I've been there and it is chaotic but hardly terrifying. Or unusual for a middle or high school. Seriously. My kid is an introvert who hates being late and who frequently finds things to whine about but I had to ask him to learn that he has to hustle sometimes between classes. He also told me it is no big deal. This is an odd tangent to this thread. |
This was my Montgomery County, MD middle school in the late 90s. It's even bigger now. It was fine. But my main point is, this is an issue all over the area, not just in DCPS/at Deal. |
Mmmmm your kid is okay, so you dismiss others experience. Clearly not all children go to the same classes or same parts of the building or have same issues as this is not about "hustling" as you say. You have not been or seen what I've seen. Not a strange tangent, basically something has to give ...can't keep absorbing more and more students in a building not designed or staffed for that amount! |
NP here. Honest question: What is it about then? We're IB for Deal with a rising 6th grader and I really want to understand this. Is it about bullying? Assault? What? |
Overcrowding, which leads to other things ... |
DP. Ok helicopter mom. Your child should not be in a mainstream school if s/he can’t manage this. |
I would say let them live in your neighborhood but I suspect you already do. I am sorry you didn’t place in the race of life but I doubt anyone is going to give you their medal and certainly don’t think anyone else wants to run it repeatedly until you don’t suck. |
So then enlighten me because I've talked to my child at Deal and he shrugs it off - how is it terrifying to change classes at Deal? Is it terrifying that someone might be late? If so that person might need anxiety medication. Is it terrifying because the halls are crowded? If so maybe that person is claustrophobic and should not be at a large public school. Is it terrifying because of some social phobias? If so maybe that person should not be at a large public school. Is it terrifying because it is too far to walk? If so maybe that person needs some exercise. All of the things I can think of that might make changing classes "terrifying" are conditions common to most public middle and high schools and things that almost no one I know would describe as terrifying. Alternately if you want to drop the hyperbole and simply characterize it as crowded and chaotic we can end this nonsensical tangent that covers something I doubt very many Deal parents are concerned about. |
Its terrifying to an old person but for kids it is fine. Seriously people...stop projecting and go get a life. |