Talk some sense into me - weight loss/TTC

[Anonymous]

I'm 37 and three months out from a late first-tri miscarriage. I'm still carrying extra pounds from that pregnancy as well as the weight I never lost after DS was born, making me the heaviest I've ever been. I have about 20 pounds to lose to get back to my ideal weight (and I'm petite, so it's very obvious). Right now I'm extremely torn between getting right back to TTC despite my weight or putting it off until I'm in better shape. I'm very unhappy at this weight but also worried about my fertility.

Can anyone relate or just talk some sense into me from either angle?

[Anonymous]

Just go for it. I'm a year out from a stillbirth, 30lbs heavier than I was before baby and almost 36. I'm also petite...so I say go for it. You know there are no guarantees. So go for it.

[Anonymous]

I just went for it. Now 3 months pregnant and a little bigger than I was with my first pregnancy, but whatever. I don't care. Really what is the point-- you're going to have to lose a ton of weight after the baby is born anyway, so you can do it then. Exercise, stay off junk food, and let it work itself out.

You are 37. Don't delay!

[Anonymous]

I am quite a bit younger, but lost a pregnancy at 16 weeks last year. That weight, combined with PPD from my first pregnancy, made me 170 pounds (at 5'4) when I conceived my 2nd a few months later. I was careful during the pregnancy and gained 20 pounds exactly. I'm happy to report that my little one is 10 months old, and I weighed in at 145 this morning. Still about 10 pounds to go, but so glad I didn't wait to lose the weight first. You can do it!

[Anonymous]

Do not wait OP, TTC. You sound like you've had a lot of weight struggles in the past (I don't know any other kind of person who thinks in terms of their "ideal weight"). I doubt you are anywhere near big enough for your weight to impair your fertility. You can get to where you want to be when you're done having your kids.

[Anonymous]

At 37, I wouldn't wait. Start TTC and also work on exercising and cleaning up your diet. It won't be harmful to lose a few lbs while TTC if you're overweight. Good luck to you!

[Anonymous]

OP here - thanks for the responses. To the PPs who've experienced losses, I'm so sorry. I've been down about the miscarriage and hard on myself about the weight gain, which hasn't fostered the best mental place for TTC. I'm already eating well and exercising but the weight persists. I think I need the "do it now" encouragement, as well as a positive attitude adjustment!

[Anonymous]

You don't have time to wait.

[Anonymous]

Different situation, but I got pregnant on my first month of trying while weighing 180lbs (I'm 5'3"). I lost 10 lbs in my first trimester, and overall gained 15 lbs from my starting weight. I weighed less 2 weeks after delivery than when I started. When I stopped nursing after a year, I weighed 165. Then promptly gained it all back and then some. Am just starting to TTC now and am also working out and eating healthily to lose that weight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Different situation, but I got pregnant on my first month of trying while weighing 180lbs (I'm 5'3"). I lost 10 lbs in my first trimester, and overall gained 15 lbs from my starting weight. I weighed less 2 weeks after delivery than when I started. When I stopped nursing after a year, I weighed 165. Then promptly gained it all back and then some. Am just starting to TTC now and am also working out and eating healthily to lose that weight.

Forgot to mention I was 38 and baby was 5'11oz and at 2.5 years old is still very slim, very healthy, and knows half the alphabet, can count to 10, and knows approximately 4 colors.

[Anonymous]

A friend of mine who is quite overweight worked with a nutritionist while she was pregnant (she also had a touch of gestational diabetes) and she didn't gain much weight during the pregnancy. So I would say to go for it.

I gained weight from 2 miscarriages but did chose to wait a little bit before trying again because I didn't feel I was int he right mental state and for some reason that I couldn't put my finger on just didn't feel healthy (trouble sleeping, trouble with bowels). I took a 6 month break (yes, 6 months, I know) and while I didn't lose much weight I do feel much better physically. I'm starting to try again this month.

What I'm trying to say is that there is no guarantee that this weight will just go away and it unfortunately won't go away overnight. I would start making changes to your diet now while you are trying to conceive.

[Anonymous]

Go ahead and TTC while trying to be more active and healthy. Trying to put your life on hold to achieve an ideal weight will just create more stress for you.

[Anonymous]

You're 37... don't wait. Clock is ticking (sorry).

[Anonymous]

I would TTC but start making some healthy lifestyle changes as much as possible. It's possible to not gain as much if you start off at a higher weight when you get pregnant. What's most important is making these healthy changes so you are eating better and working out. It might be hard during the first trimester, but do your best and then continue throughout the pregnancy. At 37, I wouldn't weight to lose the weight because losing 20 pounds can take a while!

[Anonymous]

Just go for it OP - I got pregnant on my cycle trying at 36 and I weighed 185.