Talk some sense into me - weight loss/TTC

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just go for it OP - I got pregnant on my cycle trying at 36 and I weighed 185.

Me again - I REALLY watched what I ate and lightly exercised throughout my pregnancy. I gained 15 lbs total (which is what my OB recommended), and most of that was in my third trimester.

[Anonymous]

Don't wait, OP. I had this mindset too -- I was carrying 20 pounds from my first pregnancy and could've stood to lose 10 more on top of that to be at my ideal weight. We put off TTC for 3 months so I could try to lose weight. I tried, but I didn't lose. So then I said screw it, I'll get pregnant and watch what I eat while pregnant. And I did. And then I miscarried at 10 weeks. So now I am sitting around waiting for my cycle to regulate, still fat, when I could potentially have gotten pregnant 6 or 7 months ago and be well on my way to baby #2. Instead of my kids being just 2 years apart, like I wanted, they will now be 2.5 or 3 years apart at best, which isn't the end of the world but not what we had hoped. Nothing I can do about it now but I really regret waiting, because I should have known it was unlikely I'd really lose that weight. I never have before (which is why I was 10 pounds over my ideal weight when I got pregnant the first time!), so I don't know why I convinced myself it would be any different.

Learn from my mistake. If you really want another baby, just go for it, and let the weight take care of itself later.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't wait, OP. I had this mindset too -- I was carrying 20 pounds from my first pregnancy and could've stood to lose 10 more on top of that to be at my ideal weight. We put off TTC for 3 months so I could try to lose weight. I tried, but I didn't lose. So then I said screw it, I'll get pregnant and watch what I eat while pregnant. And I did. And then I miscarried at 10 weeks. So now I am sitting around waiting for my cycle to regulate, still fat, when I could potentially have gotten pregnant 6 or 7 months ago and be well on my way to baby #2. Instead of my kids being just 2 years apart, like I wanted, they will now be 2.5 or 3 years apart at best, which isn't the end of the world but not what we had hoped. Nothing I can do about it now but I really regret waiting, because I should have known it was unlikely I'd really lose that weight. I never have before (which is why I was 10 pounds over my ideal weight when I got pregnant the first time!), so I don't know why I convinced myself it would be any different.

Learn from my mistake. If you really want another baby, just go for it, and let the weight take care of itself later.

What makes you think that if you started 3 months earlier you would have carried to term?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 37 and three months out from a late first-tri miscarriage. I'm still carrying extra pounds from that pregnancy as well as the weight I never lost after DS was born, making me the heaviest I've ever been. I have about 20 pounds to lose to get back to my ideal weight (and I'm petite, so it's very obvious). Right now I'm extremely torn between getting right back to TTC despite my weight or putting it off until I'm in better shape. I'm very unhappy at this weight but also worried about my fertility.

Can anyone relate or just talk some sense into me from either angle?

I say go for it now. I had wanted to lose all the weight from #1 before getting pregnant with #2 but I didn't and now I'm 4 months into baby #2. I've been working hard by doing home videos when I can and eating well --- I'm still 9 lbs. away from my pre-pregnancy weight but it feels good knowing this is it and I'll never have to deal with all the excess weight again. I am sorry for your loss and I hope you have a happy, healthy pregnancy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 37 and three months out from a late first-tri miscarriage. I'm still carrying extra pounds from that pregnancy as well as the weight I never lost after DS was born, making me the heaviest I've ever been. I have about 20 pounds to lose to get back to my ideal weight (and I'm petite, so it's very obvious). Right now I'm extremely torn between getting right back to TTC despite my weight or putting it off until I'm in better shape. I'm very unhappy at this weight but also worried about my fertility.

Can anyone relate or just talk some sense into me from either angle?

I say go for it now. I had wanted to lose all the weight from #1 before getting pregnant with #2 but I didn't and now I'm 4 months into baby #2. I've been working hard by doing home videos when I can and eating well --- I'm still 9 lbs. away from my pre-pregnancy weight but it feels good knowing this is it and I'll never have to deal with all the excess weight again. I am sorry for your loss and I hope you have a happy, healthy pregnancy.

To clarify, baby 2 is 4 months old.

[Anonymous]

I don't really understand why you would consider waiting. Are you healthy? Do you want to try to conceive? Then try. I was 270 pounds when I conceived at 40. I waited literally decades of my life to live fully because of the dream of being thin. Starting with when I was just 20-30 pounds overnight, I waited, dieted, measured, waited, hated myself, punished myself, blamed myself, waited. Stop waiting. You are worthy of happiness at your size right now. Just live.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't wait, OP. I had this mindset too -- I was carrying 20 pounds from my first pregnancy and could've stood to lose 10 more on top of that to be at my ideal weight. We put off TTC for 3 months so I could try to lose weight. I tried, but I didn't lose. So then I said screw it, I'll get pregnant and watch what I eat while pregnant. And I did. And then I miscarried at 10 weeks. So now I am sitting around waiting for my cycle to regulate, still fat, when I could potentially have gotten pregnant 6 or 7 months ago and be well on my way to baby #2. Instead of my kids being just 2 years apart, like I wanted, they will now be 2.5 or 3 years apart at best, which isn't the end of the world but not what we had hoped. Nothing I can do about it now but I really regret waiting, because I should have known it was unlikely I'd really lose that weight. I never have before (which is why I was 10 pounds over my ideal weight when I got pregnant the first time!), so I don't know why I convinced myself it would be any different.

Learn from my mistake. If you really want another baby, just go for it, and let the weight take care of itself later.

What makes you think that if you started 3 months earlier you would have carried to term?

Nothing specific. But at least I wouldn't have wasted 3 months doing nothing. A different egg might not have miscarried. And if it had, I could have tried again sooner. Of course who knows if I would have gotten pregnant, but I got pregnant on the first try with both pregnancies -- one successful and one miscarriage -- so there's a good chance I would have. The point is, I wasted time solely because I thought I might lose weight. I didn't lose weight. And I regret having waited.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't really understand why you would consider waiting. Are you healthy? Do you want to try to conceive? Then try. I was 270 pounds when I conceived at 40. I waited literally decades of my life to live fully because of the dream of being thin. Starting with when I was just 20-30 pounds overnight, I waited, dieted, measured, waited, hated myself, punished myself, blamed myself, waited. Stop waiting. You are worthy of happiness at your size right now. Just live.

You're right. I'm the OP and we started trying again this month...keep your fingers crossed for me!