DWs who say they never turn down DH, how does DH initiate?

[Anonymous]

I read posts of DWs saying if DH initiates, they are not turned down. How does your DH initiate? Is it as simple as, honey...im in the mood, can we..."? I am curious...

[Anonymous]

Mine says "want to do it?" Or grabs my butt/boobs etc.

[Anonymous]

I don't always say yes, but mine usually raises his eyebrows and tells me to gird my loins.

[Anonymous]

Either rubs my back/butt/chest or says "Maybe we can go to bed a little early tonight?"

[Anonymous]

I always say yes. DH had a good sex drive (happy with 3-4 times a week) and I have a high one so that's part of it.

Anyways, It depends. Sometimes it's a back rub in bed and some cuddling. Sometimes it's playing with my boobs if we are on the couch watching tv. Sometimes itS direct and he just tells me what he wants to do to me.

[Anonymous]

We actually have a mating dance, won't go into details because it borders on ridiculous. We then say death by snu snu aka futurama. Yes dh and I are strange.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I read posts of DWs saying if DH initiates, they are not turned down. How does your DH initiate? Is it as simple as, honey...im in the mood, can we..."? I am curious...

I wish my dh would use actual words! Just being extra affectionate is not enough of a clue for me if I'm not already in the mood myself -- but I can get in the mood if I know what dh really wants.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We actually have a mating dance, won't go into details because it borders on ridiculous. We then say death by snu snu aka futurama. Yes dh and I are strange.

Lol you guys are awesome.

[Anonymous]

My husband spoons me all night. So I can tell when he wants to have sex.

[Anonymous]

This isn't for me, but my other friends--find out what is on DW's ToDo list. It's hard to get in the mood when you have 17 things to do before bed. So ask what needs to be done before she can relax, then do half of it.

For DH and I, the key is that we super affectionate even when there is no sex involved. Then we usually say something to each other, like "in the mood for tonight?" But we both like words.

I have a friend who hates talking about it. When her DH asks for it, she instinctively wants to say (and usually does) No. For her, she wants him to snuggle on the couch and kiss her for a little while. Then she can decide if she is in the mood. And if she's not, he doesn't get hurt and walks away. She hates the fact that 1)he never kisses her and 2)any affection always has to lead to sex.

[Anonymous]

Mine goes to bed then hollers how about some p**** baby ? Romantic devil.

[Anonymous]

"Brace yourself, Brigit!"

(We're Irish)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Brace yourself, Brigit!"

(We're Irish)

Haha I love this!!

He somehow works his hands into my pants, or just comes up and removes them. Sometimes he'll try to be subtle and announce that he's taking a shower/ going to lay down/ going out to the garage, then prances himself there, and leaves the door cracked. If I don't immediately get up, he'll crack the door a little more. He's a goof.

[Anonymous]

"She hates the fact that 1)he never kisses her and 2)any affection always has to lead to sex."

I don't know if I speak for all men, but dw had to explain this to me to get it. When she was in a period of low drive, I tried my best to leave her alone, and only touched her when I really needed sex. This made sense to me, but now I get why she didn't like it. Now we're affectionate (but not intimate) every day, and it makes us both happy.

[Anonymous]

We have a code move because I can't always tell if he's being affectionate or wants to get it on.

When I want it, I just say, "Wanna do it?" and then start go down on him.