DWs who say they never turn down DH, how does DH initiate?
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Anonymous
Same. |
Anonymous
I love my wife and am very affectionate But that said I am always in the mood. What DH isn't? Hard to imagine. Even when I'm sick I would be up for something! |
Anonymous
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Usually he just snuggles up to me when we get in bed, rather than playing on his phone or reading.
Unfortunately I recently joked about the phrase "sexy time", so now we'll be watching tv or whatever in the evening and he will ask "sexy time"? He thinks he's hilarious...LOL.... |
Anonymous
I totally agree. He's completely killed my drive, and could care less. I'm a living blow up doll.... how freaking depressing is that. |
Anonymous
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In my first marriage, I could tell when he wanted to have sex because he became very physically affectionate. All the stuff PPs describe, but they were not normal parts of our relationship. We were not a PDA couple, which was mostly him, so when he got physical, I knew what it meant. Our sex life was not great and felt very transactional.
I am remarried post-divorce, and my husband and I have a completely different dynamic. He is very physically affectionate and there are no transactional aspects to it. He will offer a massage or snuggling while watching a movie and it is not part of an agenda to get laid (though frankly, we usually end up having sex anyway because we are very attracted to each other and if we are alone, mostly we are having sex). |
Anonymous
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I'm the guy. I take off my clothes, and if I get caught up in my undies I turn it into a sexy dance. Like this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AqZcYPEszN8
Then it's Business Time. |
Anonymous
| Hope my DW is reading this thread. I am *this close* to abandoning efforts to initiate with her at all. |
Anonymous
My DH isn't. He never initiates and he turns me down. |
Anonymous
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I never say no to my DH-if I don't feel like having sex I give him a blow job or a hand job. My DH usually initiates 1-2 times a week so it's not like it's all the time, though. I'd say I probably am the initiator about 1-2 times per month. We have a deal-we don't turn each other down unless someone is feeling physically ill (in which case neither one of us would initiate anyway).
In terms of how each of us signals that we're in the mood it varies (sometimes words, sometimes physical affection). |
Anonymous
He watches the kids, helps load the dishwasher, takes out the trash, and gives me little nuzzles when he walks by me. |
Anonymous
| He texts me I need you or I crave you |
Anonymous
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I have turned down my hubby before.
What I like to hear is something nice about myself, "Honey you looked so beautiful tonight at the party...." OR "I am so grateful that I get to be married to such a sexy woman," etc. |
Anonymous
Yeah, I just gave up. Years of outright or passive-aggressive rejection were enough. Years. I finally adapted not to see her in that way. |
Anonymous
Damn, you beat me to it |
Anonymous
Pretty much this or once we start getting ready for bed we both know there is about to be some grown up time. He never says no to me either and I initiate as well. I like to initiate when he is in the shower or in his home office for a quickie. Married 20 years with 4 kids, because it is likely to be asked. |