Grandma with no drivers license.

[Anonymous]

My 86 y/o grandma does not have a license due to her poor vision, not to mention her response time to things that could occur. She lives out of state and has someone there to drive her, get her groceries, etc. Yet, she still insists on driving. She recently got ahold of her keys and will not listen to reason. What can I do? Sit back and hope she doesn't injured or kill someone? Contact the local authorities? Wwyd?

[Anonymous]

TAKE THE KEYS....

[Anonymous]

Is it her car? Get rid of it. Make everyone else keep their keys in their pockets/purses.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it her car? Get rid of it. Make everyone else keep their keys in their pockets/purses.

+1

[Anonymous]

https://www.caring.com/articles/dangerous-senior-drivers

http://www.forbes.com/sites/carolynrosenblatt/2012/08/15/dangerous-older-drivers-a-car-is-a-lethal-weapon/

[Anonymous]

OP here. It is her car. My worthless a$$hole father is living with her, for his convenience. Though he has been taking her to Dr.s, grocery shopping, and taking her around a bit. He was tired of hearing her constant complaining and just gave her the keys. I am livid! What is my next move. She won't listen, not at all!

[Anonymous]

What state is she in? You need to report her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. It is her car. My worthless a$$hole father is living with her, for his convenience. Though he has been taking her to Dr.s, grocery shopping, and taking her around a bit. He was tired of hearing her constant complaining and just gave her the keys. I am livid! What is my next move. She won't listen, not at all!

Okay totally different story. Is it her car or dad's car? Dad needs to speak up and not give her keys. Tell her that she's not insured.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. It is her car. My worthless a$$hole father is living with her, for his convenience. Though he has been taking her to Dr.s, grocery shopping, and taking her around a bit. He was tired of hearing her constant complaining and just gave her the keys. I am livid! What is my next move. She won't listen, not at all!

Okay totally different story. Is it her car or dad's car? Dad needs to speak up and not give her keys. Tell her that she's not insured.

It is her car. My father had the keys, but was tired of her asking for the keys, so he gave hem to her. Having him take the keys is not an option.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. It is her car. My worthless a$$hole father is living with her, for his convenience. Though he has been taking her to Dr.s, grocery shopping, and taking her around a bit. He was tired of hearing her constant complaining and just gave her the keys. I am livid! What is my next move. She won't listen, not at all!

Okay totally different story. Is it her car or dad's car? Dad needs to speak up and not give her keys. Tell her that she's not insured.

It is her car. My father had the keys, but was tired of her asking for the keys, so he gave hem to her. Having him take the keys is not an option.

Your beef is actually with your dad then and not your mom. If you have power of attorney, sell the car. If you don't, then call the authorities.

[Anonymous]

OP here. So, there are no family members that will take her keys. What do I do??? Do I call the police on my grandma? That seems a little extreme. And possibly cause some serious tension in the family. I am just at a loss right now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. So, there are no family members that will take her keys. What do I do??? Do I call the police on my grandma? That seems a little extreme. And possibly cause some serious tension in the family. I am just at a loss right now.

So you guys are just going to wait until she kills herself or someone else? Really?

[Anonymous]

What about getting grandma an uber account with your father's help? Tell him that if you hear he gave her the keys again you will call the cops on him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. So, there are no family members that will take her keys. What do I do??? Do I call the police on my grandma? That seems a little extreme. And possibly cause some serious tension in the family. I am just at a loss right now.

You can try the police-- they're used to doing these kinds of interventions. Check the police website in the area and it may have something on what they can do. Or you could try having her doctor speak with them. But the more effective thing would be to figure out an alternate transportation plan for her. If there is a car service, shuttle, Metro Access type thing, that may at least cut down on her driving.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. So, there are no family members that will take her keys. What do I do??? Do I call the police on my grandma? That seems a little extreme. And possibly cause some serious tension in the family. I am just at a loss right now.

So you guys are just going to wait until she kills herself or someone else? Really?

This. This is nothing compared to the tension that will be caused when your grandma is hurt or killed in a car accident, or runs over a little kid, or something. Call the cops and tell them the situation. It will not be the first time they've dealt with this.