Nagging and how it destroys men and marriages

[Anonymous]

First disclosure - I am female. Second disclosure - I saw myself in this - used to be like this years ago. I woke up and my marriage is SO MUCH BETTER! Do I get bitchy sometimes? Sure. But I'm also quick to let him know when I'm overtired or PMSed, so that he doesn't take it personally. In fact, now we laugh a lot more than we did, because he will say something like "OK, you know this is not my fault, but you are giving me sh*t about it anyway, right?" Before he would be spinning trying to fix things that were NOT his fault. A huge catch-22 for men.

So take note and ask yourself if perhaps, there is any part of you in this. It just might save your marriage:

http://www.youngcons.com/woman-realizes-shes-been-verbally-abusing-her-husband-without-even-knowing-it/

[Anonymous]

TL;DR

[Anonymous]

Ugh! I hate the website it led me to.

Don't mind the article.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:TL;DR

Nag away

[Cogiteur]

Anonymous wrote:First disclosure - I am female. Second disclosure - I saw myself in this - used to be like this years ago. I woke up and my marriage is SO MUCH BETTER! Do I get bitchy sometimes? Sure. But I'm also quick to let him know when I'm overtired or PMSed, so that he doesn't take it personally. In fact, now we laugh a lot more than we did, because he will say something like "OK, you know this is not my fault, but you are giving me sh*t about it anyway, right?" Before he would be spinning trying to fix things that were NOT his fault. A huge catch-22 for men.

So take note and ask yourself if perhaps, there is any part of you in this. It just might save your marriage:

http://www.youngcons.com/woman-realizes-shes-been-verbally-abusing-her-husband-without-even-knowing-it/

+1M

This article could also be titled, "The Other Reason Men Have Affairs."

[Anonymous]

Cogiteur wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First disclosure - I am female. Second disclosure - I saw myself in this - used to be like this years ago. I woke up and my marriage is SO MUCH BETTER! Do I get bitchy sometimes? Sure. But I'm also quick to let him know when I'm overtired or PMSed, so that he doesn't take it personally. In fact, now we laugh a lot more than we did, because he will say something like "OK, you know this is not my fault, but you are giving me sh*t about it anyway, right?" Before he would be spinning trying to fix things that were NOT his fault. A huge catch-22 for men.

So take note and ask yourself if perhaps, there is any part of you in this. It just might save your marriage:

http://www.youngcons.com/woman-realizes-shes-been-verbally-abusing-her-husband-without-even-knowing-it/

+1M

This article could also be titled, "The Other Reason Men Have Affairs."

OP here - EXACTLY!!!

[Anonymous]

Wow! I need to show this to my DH so he stops nagging me over things like how I load the dishwasher.

Just tonight he looked in the garbage and grilled me on why I had thrown some piece of food away.

[Anonymous]

I think both sides are guilty of nagging, but women tend to nag over more "silly" things. I mean, I load the dishwasher horribly. It drives DH nuts and when I do load it (rare) he will usually comment on it. The thing is, he's right. There really IS a proper way to load the dishwasher because when I load in my way, not everything is clean. When I load it his way, everything is clean. So nagging? Yes. But with good reason.

I remember nagging DH about something stupid (I can't remember exactly what) and he just looked at me and said "is there a different outcome between how I do and and how you want me to do it?" and when I realized the answer was no, I shut my mouth.

Some nagging is constructive. Most is not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think both sides are guilty of nagging, but women tend to nag over more "silly" things. I mean, I load the dishwasher horribly. It drives DH nuts and when I do load it (rare) he will usually comment on it. The thing is, he's right. There really IS a proper way to load the dishwasher because when I load in my way, not everything is clean. When I load it his way, everything is clean. So nagging? Yes. But with good reason.

I remember nagging DH about something stupid (I can't remember exactly what) and he just looked at me and said "is there a different outcome between how I do and and how you want me to do it?" and when I realized the answer was no, I shut my mouth.

Some nagging is constructive. Most is not.

At least you own the dishwasher loading, my wife has chipped dishes and glasses and all cause she refuses to change her loading technique.
I told her here the owners manual look at pg 44, it even has pictures.

Another example of nagging, she let me know when my scrambled eggs are lumpy.
I told her God I am so lucky that you let me cook you sloppy breakfast.
I will do better tomorrow.

Yup, we have issues due to nagging.

[Anonymous]

Cogiteur wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First disclosure - I am female. Second disclosure - I saw myself in this - used to be like this years ago. I woke up and my marriage is SO MUCH BETTER! Do I get bitchy sometimes? Sure. But I'm also quick to let him know when I'm overtired or PMSed, so that he doesn't take it personally. In fact, now we laugh a lot more than we did, because he will say something like "OK, you know this is not my fault, but you are giving me sh*t about it anyway, right?" Before he would be spinning trying to fix things that were NOT his fault. A huge catch-22 for men.

So take note and ask yourself if perhaps, there is any part of you in this. It just might save your marriage:

http://www.youngcons.com/woman-realizes-shes-been-verbally-abusing-her-husband-without-even-knowing-it/

+1M

This article could also be titled, "The Other Reason Men Have Affairs."

Perhaps we're getting hints into the reason behind your inability to sustain intimacy with a partner.

[Anonymous]

Nagging wife here. So, how so I stop?

[Anonymous]

Men are so fragile.

[Anonymous]

DH nags me over stupid stuff and it makes me crazy. I hide stuff from him just to avoid the nagging like in the article. I guess we have problems.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH nags me over stupid stuff and it makes me crazy. I hide stuff from him just to avoid the nagging like in the article. I guess we have problems.

My wife nags me about not closing my drawers properly. I tell her I will try to do better after I get home from HH with the guys.
What a bitch, huh?

[Cogiteur]

Anonymous wrote:

Cogiteur wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First disclosure - I am female. Second disclosure - I saw myself in this - used to be like this years ago. I woke up and my marriage is SO MUCH BETTER! Do I get bitchy sometimes? Sure. But I'm also quick to let him know when I'm overtired or PMSed, so that he doesn't take it personally. In fact, now we laugh a lot more than we did, because he will say something like "OK, you know this is not my fault, but you are giving me sh*t about it anyway, right?" Before he would be spinning trying to fix things that were NOT his fault. A huge catch-22 for men.

So take note and ask yourself if perhaps, there is any part of you in this. It just might save your marriage:

http://www.youngcons.com/woman-realizes-shes-been-verbally-abusing-her-husband-without-even-knowing-it/

+1M

This article could also be titled, "The Other Reason Men Have Affairs."

Perhaps we're getting hints into the reason behind your inability to sustain intimacy with a partner.

Perhaps you are.