Wasted my youth: major regrets

[Anonymous]

I am a 28 year old virgin who spent her twenties being super boring and socially awkward. I have no fun memories of my twenties to remember.

Please help me make a change.

[Anonymous]

Well, sometimes I wish I'd been more "boring" in my 20s. There are trade-offs for any choices you make.

[Anonymous]

Well, stop spending time regretting the time you wasted and go out there and do something.

[Anonymous]

Make your 30s super fun then. You can't change the past.

[Anonymous]

I partied my face off all through high school and college (and for a while after) ... then I got a crap job and it took me 15 years to work my way into a profitable position. If I'd worked harder sooner, I'd be much better off financially ... and probably wouldn't have herpes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a 28 year old virgin who spent her twenties being super boring and socially awkward. I have no fun memories of my twenties to remember.

Please help me make a change.

Mine were boring, too, due to lack of time and funds. I suggest you join a Meetup type group in an area you are interested in. If you would like to try outdoorsy stuff, take a beginner REI course. Often alumni associations will have educational trips.

[Anonymous]

My 30s were way better than my 20s. There's hope for you yet, op!

[Anonymous]

I agree with the posters who say you can make your 30's fun now. Have you talked to a professional about your social issues? That could help.

[Anonymous]

My mom always had a motto - you only peak once. Do you really want to peak in your 20s? Then it's all downhill from there.

My 20s sucked. I think I preferred high school.

And you would be surprised how many 28+ virgins there are. They mostly just lie. (3 of my closest friends used to fit in that category. NOT ANYMORE!)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, sometimes I wish I'd been more "boring" in my 20s. There are trade-offs for any choices you make.

+1

[Anonymous]

What change do you want to make? If it's to become less socially awkward, maybe you can find some sort of therapist or classes for that. If it's to find a boyfriend or girlfriend, try online. If it's to party, you can do that.

I spent my 20s being pretty boring too, if boring means not partying. I don't regret it at all. I am not a partier. It's okay if you aren't, too. Figure out what you want to do, not what you think you should do.

[Anonymous]

You're still very young. Travel! Drink wine! Have (safe)sex!

[Anonymous]

If I had the time, money and no children I'd go on one of those volunteer vacations.
You'd get to meet interesting people and work on being outgoing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I had the time, money and no children I'd go on one of those volunteer vacations.
You'd get to meet interesting people and work on being outgoing.

This one:
http://www.outwardbound.org/

[Anonymous]

travel