How to be Brutally Honest

[Anonymous]

How to I be brutally honest with my DW? She asked me last night why we no longer have sex. While she is totally hot in the physical sense, I can no longer stand being in the same room with her. She drains all the joy out of everything. She literally thinks as far as sex is concerned I should just pop a boner and get on her. She has no interest in orgasm, no interest in seduction, no fun at all. She simply is hoping I will impregnate her again. The last thing I want is another child. She is desperate for one. It is so sad.

[Anonymous]

Couples therapy!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How to I be brutally honest with my DW? She asked me last night why we no longer have sex. While she is totally hot in the physical sense, I can no longer stand being in the same room with her. She drains all the joy out of everything. She literally thinks as far as sex is concerned I should just pop a boner and get on her. She has no interest in orgasm, no interest in seduction, no fun at all. She simply is hoping I will impregnate her again. The last thing I want is another child. She is desperate for one. It is so sad.

Yes, if you want to save this marriage, get therapy.

If not, get out.

Don't get her pregnant, whatever you do.

If you want to be brutally honest, show her this post and brace yourself for the fallout.

[Anonymous]

I'm a DW and have no trouble telling DH stuff like this. Better to be honest than tiptoe around.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How to I be brutally honest with my DW? She asked me last night why we no longer have sex. While she is totally hot in the physical sense, I can no longer stand being in the same room with her. She drains all the joy out of everything. She literally thinks as far as sex is concerned I should just pop a boner and get on her. She has no interest in orgasm, no interest in seduction, no fun at all. She simply is hoping I will impregnate her again. The last thing I want is another child. She is desperate for one. It is so sad.

The problem with giving advice is no real knowledge of you or her. The only recommendation that can be made to insure the best possible outcome is professional help.

BTW, I am a man and while a lot of women think that a boner is a given when a woman wants sex it isn't always true. AND, while I have gotten one in spite of the fact I shouldn't, did the deed, and even been complimented afterwards on how well I did it, I have at times resented that it did work and I gave in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How to I be brutally honest with my DW? She asked me last night why we no longer have sex. While she is totally hot in the physical sense, I can no longer stand being in the same room with her. She drains all the joy out of everything. She literally thinks as far as sex is concerned I should just pop a boner and get on her. She has no interest in orgasm, no interest in seduction, no fun at all. She simply is hoping I will impregnate her again. The last thing I want is another child. She is desperate for one. It is so sad.

The problem with giving advice is no real knowledge of you or her. The only recommendation that can be made to insure the best possible outcome is professional help.

BTW, I am a man and while a lot of women think that a boner is a given when a woman wants sex it isn't always true. AND, while I have gotten one in spite of the fact I shouldn't, did the deed, and even been complimented afterwards on how well I did it, I have at times resented that it did work and I gave in.

Poor you and your manipulative penis.

[Anonymous]

There is no way to get around the issue if you don't tell her directly.

Yes, it may be awkward for you + I am sure she won't be thrilled to hear what you have to say, but you should feel comfortable enough in your marriage that you should be able to discuss these types of issues together.

If you feel you cannot express yourself the way you would like to her, then your marital woes go beyond the bedroom.

Hope this helps.

[Anonymous]

You can be honest without being brutal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How to I be brutally honest with my DW? She asked me last night why we no longer have sex. While she is totally hot in the physical sense, I can no longer stand being in the same room with her. She drains all the joy out of everything. She literally thinks as far as sex is concerned I should just pop a boner and get on her. She has no interest in orgasm, no interest in seduction, no fun at all. She simply is hoping I will impregnate her again. The last thing I want is another child. She is desperate for one. It is so sad.

The problem with giving advice is no real knowledge of you or her. The only recommendation that can be made to insure the best possible outcome is professional help.

BTW, I am a man and while a lot of women think that a boner is a given when a woman wants sex it isn't always true. AND, while I have gotten one in spite of the fact I shouldn't, did the deed, and even been complimented afterwards on how well I did it, I have at times resented that it did work and I gave in.

Poor you and your manipulative penis.

I didn't say that my penis was to blame and I did take responsibility. I gave in instead of taking my hardon and walking away. Which btw, I have in fact done at times.

[Anonymous]

How do other couples separate love making from baby making? We got pregnant right away each time, so we didn't experience a period of time when one meant the other.

Is it possible to take the baby issue off the table for a while in order to maintain intimacy without the pressure?

[Anonymous]

Easy - show her this thread.

[Anonymous]

It's never okay to be brutally honest.

Get individual therapy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's never okay to be brutally honest.

Get individual therapy.

This is so stupid. Why is it NOT okay to be outright honest and instead get therapy? Should the wife prefer to listen to a stranger than her own husband? how is that a good way to keep a marriage together?

[Anonymous]

OP it sounds like she is not as passionate as she might have been before. That is probably because of stress or other stuff going on with her. If she is hot like you say have you not tried seducing her or try being spontaneous?

[Anonymous]

It sounds to me like your marriage is over. It's sad that your wife would even think that conception is on the table when you can't stand to be in the same room with her. You need to be honest. Whether you need to be brutal...no, of course not. But you have to communicate with her that conceiving another child is out of the question and that you are very unhappy in the marriage. How could you not let her know that? At this point, you are being passive aggressive and manipulative, OP. Your wife expects to conceive a child with you and you can't stand her? You have a responsibility to be an adult and tell her how you feel. No, you don't have to be brutal. You have to be a big boy and say "I'm not ready for another child because I feel there are some fundamental problems here that have to be worked out first." Open your mouth and speak.