Yes, we love our families. But: Petty Vents 2022

[Anonymous]

"I went out to Target and bought a few sets of pillowcases that I said I’d be happy to leave with her or take home with me..."

Buy or bring your own pillows, too. That way, the shams can stay intact.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m finally getting around to me petty vent. My parents “hosted”. I ended up cooking the entire meal by myself (my mom spent 2 hours online shopping, my sister helped with the kids but the spent the rest of the time sitting on the couch on her phone, and I’m not sure what my dad was doing). My husband came down the day of thanksgiving (parents live 6 hrs away and we came down a few days before). Everyone was dressed in their thanksgiving dress, on the couch and I was in the kitchen still in my sweats cooking.

After dinner was 2 hrs late, I cleaned and washed all the dishes.

And yes, I did use my words. Multiple times I said can you help woth X, I still need to take a shower. It all fell on deaf ears. At one point I asked my sister if she could finish the dishes when I was putting the kids to sleep. I came back out and she was still on her phone and a single dish hadn’t been washed.
The reason for the 2 hr delay in dinner, my mom had said she was going to make it and then I guess decided not to and didn’t tell anyone. I saw the time and realized nothing had been done and did everything.
The cherry on top, was when my dad came in the kitchen, he had just taken a shower and gotten dressed and said “don’t forget the corn” right after I said I still need to take a shower.

Your family sucks! We validate you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m finally getting around to me petty vent. My parents “hosted”. I ended up cooking the entire meal by myself (my mom spent 2 hours online shopping, my sister helped with the kids but the spent the rest of the time sitting on the couch on her phone, and I’m not sure what my dad was doing). My husband came down the day of thanksgiving (parents live 6 hrs away and we came down a few days before). Everyone was dressed in their thanksgiving dress, on the couch and I was in the kitchen still in my sweats cooking.

After dinner was 2 hrs late, I cleaned and washed all the dishes.

And yes, I did use my words. Multiple times I said can you help woth X, I still need to take a shower. It all fell on deaf ears. At one point I asked my sister if she could finish the dishes when I was putting the kids to sleep. I came back out and she was still on her phone and a single dish hadn’t been washed.
The reason for the 2 hr delay in dinner, my mom had said she was going to make it and then I guess decided not to and didn’t tell anyone. I saw the time and realized nothing had been done and did everything.
The cherry on top, was when my dad came in the kitchen, he had just taken a shower and gotten dressed and said “don’t forget the corn” right after I said I still need to take a shower.

That’s not even petty, that’s just unfair to you. I would book a vacation for next thanksgiving already.

I would stay at home and do your own thing next year OP, or go on a trip somewhere else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m finally getting around to me petty vent. My parents “hosted”. I ended up cooking the entire meal by myself (my mom spent 2 hours online shopping, my sister helped with the kids but the spent the rest of the time sitting on the couch on her phone, and I’m not sure what my dad was doing). My husband came down the day of thanksgiving (parents live 6 hrs away and we came down a few days before). Everyone was dressed in their thanksgiving dress, on the couch and I was in the kitchen still in my sweats cooking.

After dinner was 2 hrs late, I cleaned and washed all the dishes.

And yes, I did use my words. Multiple times I said can you help woth X, I still need to take a shower. It all fell on deaf ears. At one point I asked my sister if she could finish the dishes when I was putting the kids to sleep. I came back out and she was still on her phone and a single dish hadn’t been washed.
The reason for the 2 hr delay in dinner, my mom had said she was going to make it and then I guess decided not to and didn’t tell anyone. I saw the time and realized nothing had been done and did everything.
The cherry on top, was when my dad came in the kitchen, he had just taken a shower and gotten dressed and said “don’t forget the corn” right after I said I still need to take a shower.

That’s not even petty, that’s just unfair to you. I would book a vacation for next thanksgiving already.

I would stay at home and do your own thing next year OP, or go on a trip somewhere else.

Definitely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m finally getting around to me petty vent. My parents “hosted”. I ended up cooking the entire meal by myself (my mom spent 2 hours online shopping, my sister helped with the kids but the spent the rest of the time sitting on the couch on her phone, and I’m not sure what my dad was doing). My husband came down the day of thanksgiving (parents live 6 hrs away and we came down a few days before). Everyone was dressed in their thanksgiving dress, on the couch and I was in the kitchen still in my sweats cooking.

After dinner was 2 hrs late, I cleaned and washed all the dishes.

And yes, I did use my words. Multiple times I said can you help woth X, I still need to take a shower. It all fell on deaf ears. At one point I asked my sister if she could finish the dishes when I was putting the kids to sleep. I came back out and she was still on her phone and a single dish hadn’t been washed.
The reason for the 2 hr delay in dinner, my mom had said she was going to make it and then I guess decided not to and didn’t tell anyone. I saw the time and realized nothing had been done and did everything.
The cherry on top, was when my dad came in the kitchen, he had just taken a shower and gotten dressed and said “don’t forget the corn” right after I said I still need to take a shower.

That’s not even petty, that’s just unfair to you. I would book a vacation for next thanksgiving already.

I would stay at home and do your own thing next year OP, or go on a trip somewhere else.

Oh trust me that’s the plan. Next year we will go to in-laws but I think it’s the last year for travel. I called my youngest sister who didn’t come out and we couldn’t stop laughing at how horrible the whole thing was. It was just a maddening day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m finally getting around to me petty vent. My parents “hosted”. I ended up cooking the entire meal by myself (my mom spent 2 hours online shopping, my sister helped with the kids but the spent the rest of the time sitting on the couch on her phone, and I’m not sure what my dad was doing). My husband came down the day of thanksgiving (parents live 6 hrs away and we came down a few days before). Everyone was dressed in their thanksgiving dress, on the couch and I was in the kitchen still in my sweats cooking.

After dinner was 2 hrs late, I cleaned and washed all the dishes.

And yes, I did use my words. Multiple times I said can you help woth X, I still need to take a shower. It all fell on deaf ears. At one point I asked my sister if she could finish the dishes when I was putting the kids to sleep. I came back out and she was still on her phone and a single dish hadn’t been washed.
The reason for the 2 hr delay in dinner, my mom had said she was going to make it and then I guess decided not to and didn’t tell anyone. I saw the time and realized nothing had been done and did everything.
The cherry on top, was when my dad came in the kitchen, he had just taken a shower and gotten dressed and said “don’t forget the corn” right after I said I still need to take a shower.

That’s not even petty, that’s just unfair to you. I would book a vacation for next thanksgiving already.

I would stay at home and do your own thing next year OP, or go on a trip somewhere else.

Oh trust me that’s the plan. Next year we will go to in-laws but I think it’s the last year for travel. I called my youngest sister who didn’t come out and we couldn’t stop laughing at how horrible the whole thing was. It was just a maddening day.

NP. Why didn’t you at the very least just leave the dishes—you should have literally just left them as-is, and if they were still there the next morning, taken your nuclear family off to have breakfast out.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My cousins LOVE to bring extremely complicated board games over for holidays for the family to play. My kids are young and are the only kids in the family. So every year they get out some new game, the kids want to play, and they tell them to go amuse themselves because "this is a grownup game" and the kids get upset. Usually I end up playing some kids' game with them to keep them happy and I get remarks about not socializing with the extended family. Petty vent I know. I feel like they all still think of themselves as the "kids" of the family and these small people are just annoyances to be kept quiet.

Some of the most annoying and clueless adults I know are those that come over and then play a game or color with their children instead of being capable of adult conversation, not to mention encouraging their children to learn to entertain themselves for a short time.

Um, it's the HOLIDAYS. No the kids shouldn't be excluded b/c some man or woman-child needs to have "adult time."

Wow. Grow up. Your kids aren’t the center of anyone’s universe except yours. Yes, even on the HOLIDAYS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My cousins LOVE to bring extremely complicated board games over for holidays for the family to play. My kids are young and are the only kids in the family. So every year they get out some new game, the kids want to play, and they tell them to go amuse themselves because "this is a grownup game" and the kids get upset. Usually I end up playing some kids' game with them to keep them happy and I get remarks about not socializing with the extended family. Petty vent I know. I feel like they all still think of themselves as the "kids" of the family and these small people are just annoyances to be kept quiet.

Some of the most annoying and clueless adults I know are those that come over and then play a game or color with their children instead of being capable of adult conversation, not to mention encouraging their children to learn to entertain themselves for a short time.

Um, it's the HOLIDAYS. No the kids shouldn't be excluded b/c some man or woman-child needs to have "adult time."

Wow. Grow up. Your kids aren’t the center of anyone’s universe except yours. Yes, even on the HOLIDAYS.

+1. I enjoy seeing your kids when they are at their best, but if skipping a nap, eating next to nothing or all junk, staying up past bedtime or cramming on the floor of someone’s guest bedroom is going to put them at their worst, know that I’d rather enjoy quiet adult time then be forced to endure meltdowns. And I say this as a parent. No one wants to see your kids that much. It’s not that deep. I’d rather see my adult cousins than their kids.