Is it wrong to be slightly offput about this?

[Anonymous]

My mom lives about 10 blocks from us, and we have a good relationship with her overall. She had a friend from college visiting her this week who has never met 6 year old DS and last saw me when I was 15. She never suggested bringing the friend by to say hi to us, or having us stop by briefly to say hi to the friend. When I offered, she said, "maybe" and never followed up. I don't expect that she would want to spend a great deal of time hanging out with us, but I sort of felt that it was cold that she didn't want to bring the friend by for 5 minutes to say hello. Does that seem a little weird, or am I just overthinking it?

[Anonymous]

Let your mom have her time with her friend. She had a whole life before you and she wants to go back there for a day or two.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mom lives about 10 blocks from us, and we have a good relationship with her overall. She had a friend from college visiting her this week who has never met 6 year old DS and last saw me when I was 15. She never suggested bringing the friend by to say hi to us, or having us stop by briefly to say hi to the friend. When I offered, she said, "maybe" and never followed up. I don't expect that she would want to spend a great deal of time hanging out with us, but I sort of felt that it was cold that she didn't want to bring the friend by for 5 minutes to say hello. Does that seem a little weird, or am I just overthinking it?[/quote]
Yes,
now let it go

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't be upset. I'd be kinda jazzed that Mom had a meaningful friend come by.

[Anonymous]

I think you're being a bit sensitive. It's okay for your mom to catch up with her friend without including you & your family.

[Anonymous]

Ok, fair enough. I thought that since the friend was here for a week maybe she would want her to see us briefly, but I guess it doesn't really matter if they'd just prefer to spend time together alone.

[Anonymous]

You are being silly. Why would your mom and her friend feel the need to come say hi? Why would you think she wants to spend time meeting your kid?

I love my kids, and I sometimes enjoy meeting my friends kids. But I really can't imagine being super motivated to meet my friend's kid's kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you're being a bit sensitive. It's okay for your mom to catch up with her friend without including you & your family.

+1. Some people love drama too much.

[Anonymous]

I think it's fine. Your mom's friend doesn't have a connection to your child so I wouldn't expect her to want to come by. I'd just be happy my mom is spending time with her old friend.

[Anonymous]

Be glad. When we were visiting with 1 year old DC MIL had a constant stream of people she wanted to visit with us. It was exhausting and we had to tell her that it was too much.

[Anonymous]

I would be stoked that I didn't have to hang out with some stranger making meaningless small talk. But I'm an introvert.

[Anonymous]

Let it go. She probably has her reasons-- maybe the friend isn't a kid person, or grandchildren are a sensitive subject... or maybe they're going on a day trip somewhere. Just let your mom decide.

[Anonymous]

I must be in the minority because I'd actually want to meet my friends grandkids, especially if I had met the kid at some point in the past. I think it's weird that someone would care about her friend but not her friends family, even enough to say hi. Honestly, I'd find it strange not to go out to lunch together. But,maybe the friend hates kids or something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I must be in the minority because I'd actually want to meet my friends grandkids, especially if I had met the kid at some point in the past. I think it's weird that someone would care about her friend but not her friends family, even enough to say hi. Honestly, I'd find it strange not to go out to lunch together. But,maybe the friend hates kids or something.

Maybe she hates kids. Or, more likely, she feels like some of he other PP's here. No strange aversion to children, but no compulsion to get together with anyone other than her friend on this trip.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I must be in the minority because I'd actually want to meet my friends grandkids, especially if I had met the kid at some point in the past. I think it's weird that someone would care about her friend but not her friends family, even enough to say hi. Honestly, I'd find it strange not to go out to lunch together. But,maybe the friend hates kids or something.

I'm with you … I wonder if mom was waiting for an invite from you? OP, I would ask your mom. "Hey mom! Did you have a nice time with Susie? I was surprised I didn't see the two of you while she was in town. You must have been tearing it up reminiscing the good old days!"