How many times a day do you hear from your boyfriend, spouse or significant other?

[Anonymous]

I've been dating a guy for about a year now and we don't talk everyday. Is that weird? He may text while he's at work, but he doesn't even call when he gets home sometimes. Lately he's been working out after work, and I've met him a few times at the gym, but that isn't an excuse for not calling me.


I don't think he's cheating, but I do think he's not really ready for a full-time relationship.

[Anonymous]

He's sounds normal. You sound clingy.

[Anonymous]

Don't care how long you've been dating if you two aren't sharing the same domicile you can't expect to be given minute by minute updates of his whereabouts and activities.

[Anonymous]

If you guys never talked every day it's not weird at all. If his level of communication has undergone a huge change I'd ask him about it.

[Anonymous]

You must be kidding me, PP. This is supposed to be the honeymoon period and he can't call her every day?

[Anonymous]

I don't need (or even want) my boyfriend to call me every day. If that's what you need then decide if you'd rather accept him as he is or find a boyfriend that will call you daily.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You must be kidding me, PP. This is supposed to be the honeymoon period and he can't call her every day?

Every day????

That seems super clingy.

[Anonymous]

There are some emotionally damaged people posting in thread. OP, your instinct is right. This is not how someone who is into you should be behaving, frankly. Other people will tell you otherwise, but you are looking for relationship material, not just some random to date.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are some emotionally damaged people posting in thread. OP, your instinct is right. This is not how someone who is into you should be behaving, frankly. Other people will tell you otherwise, but you are looking for relationship material, not just some random to date.

+1. Yes, I absolutely expect the person I'm in a relationship with to contact me daily.

[Anonymous]

I speak to DH twice a day, and we live together LOL

(Used to talk about once a day before we had a baby.)

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't want to call every day either, I'd have nothing to talk about.

[Anonymous]

So he's not calling you.. If you know he's home, are you calling him?

Because phones really do work both ways.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are some emotionally damaged people posting in thread. OP, your instinct is right. This is not how someone who is into you should be behaving, frankly. Other people will tell you otherwise, but you are looking for relationship material, not just some random to date.

+1. Yes, I absolutely expect the person I'm in a relationship with to contact me daily.

Yup, I'm happily married with a child and I work long hours. My husband and I still are in regular touch throughout the day. We can't easily talk on the phone because of work, but we send each other funny articles via e-mail, we chat, we text. During our first year together, we were in even more frequent touch. We were calling each other constantly. When you are in love, you are excited and crave each other's company. Something happens -- funny, sad, bizarre, gross -- and the first person you want to share it with is your significant other. A coworker says something annoying and you shoot your significant other a text like "that idiot is at it again." You come up with nicknames for other people and have ongoing story lines about your boss, coworkers, family, friends. I don't know who some of the people in this thread are hanging out with, but I would wager that happily married people and people in happy relationships leading to marriage are closer to my dynamic than to a dynamic in which they don't call for days.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are some emotionally damaged people posting in thread. OP, your instinct is right. This is not how someone who is into you should be behaving, frankly. Other people will tell you otherwise, but you are looking for relationship material, not just some random to date.

+1. Yes, I absolutely expect the person I'm in a relationship with to contact me daily.

+2 I do too. But whether he just started communicating less often or was always that way makes a difference here, I think.

[Anonymous]

Either way, I will be concerned going forward. If this behavior bothers you now, it will only bother you more in years to come.