Did you marry who you believe to be your 'true' love?
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Anonymous
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How is it working out?
How long have you been married? Was it like 'wow love at first sight' or did you come to know gradually they were your 'true love'? |
Anonymous
| Not a man I lusted for but I know when dating that we belong together. I'm happy in our marriage but not happy with our sex life. |
Anonymous
| Yup. Still madly in love after 10 years. Happier, if possible, than when we met. Definitely not love at first sight on my part. He pursued me for four years before I finally agreed to let him out of the friend zone. |
Anonymous
| Nope. |
Anonymous
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Married 12 years. There have been major upheavals in our life together, but now we seem to have reached a stable harmony. I don't believe that there is one soul-mate out there for anyone, but that making love last in any relationship takes work. I could have fallen in love with and married another man, with different qualities, if the timing had been different - provided he was intellectual. For me that is the only prerequisite. I'm not teaching my kids that their one true love is out there. Sets up unrealistic expectations. I will say that the longer they look, the more confident they will be to find someone really suited to them. However the downsides to this are that the older they get, the less likely they will be to find someone acceptable to them and who will in turn accept them for who they are (because the older you get, the pickier and less flexible you are). There is no magic formula, except commitment and the continual adjustment to living with someone else. If they want marriage and kids, at some point they will have to take a certain amount of risk. |
Anonymous
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We met at 15. Dated all through high school and college. Got married our senior years of college. That was 5 kids and 29 years ago. It was not "love at first sight". It was "like" at first sight. We were best friends for almost a year before we started dating. He is still the best friend I have ever had. He is also the sexiest man on the planet. He is my whole world.
Our kids are grown. Our oldest just gave us our first grandchild. Our life has changed dramatically over the last few years. I cannot wait to see what the next few years hold! |
Anonymous
| Similarly to PP, I don't think there is a one true love for anyone, but I can't imagine a partner more perfect for me than my DH. We have been together for 8 years, married for 3. We were friends for a few years before dating, so it certainly wasn't love at first sight but we developed a close friendship over time and that led to a passionate relationship. We have a great marriage and passionate sex life and I am grateful every day that he is mine. |
Anonymous
That's awesome. I'm jealous. I love my spouse but we don't have a passionate sex life. |
Anonymous
| No, because I wasn't an immature 16 year old when I got married who believed in "true love". My marriage is great. |
Anonymous
Oh hey, Debbie Downer just arrived. |
Anonymous
Well we've only been married for three years so time will see, right? But I do feel grateful every day. I lucked out with him. |
Anonymous
| I don't really believe in having one true love or anything. I married someone who cared about me for me, and not for what I did for him. I married someone who made me feel cared about, who makes me laugh, who gives me orgasms, who is kind to his mother and animals, who is responsible, and is one of my best friends. We've been married for four years, though it feels like a lot longer. We have two kids, one with special needs, and a dog. It's going well. We've been together for 11 years. I think it's going well so far. I think the future looks bright. |
Anonymous
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We were the friends with that underlying chemistry that we both felt and that everyone else noticed (or so we found out later). When we finally got together no one was surprised.
So it wasn't one of those sweep me off my feet the moment I met you sort of romances. But it was more like a click - as in we clicked. We just felt so right together. |
Anonymous
| No |
Anonymous
Can't tell if you have kids. If not, report back after that if you're planning on having them. I'd be genuinely interested to hear an update. |