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Married 12 years. There have been major upheavals in our life together, but now we seem to have reached a stable harmony.

I don't believe that there is one soul-mate out there for anyone, but that making love last in any relationship takes work. I could have fallen in love with and married another man, with different qualities, if the timing had been different - provided he was intellectual. For me that is the only prerequisite.

I'm not teaching my kids that their one true love is out there. Sets up unrealistic expectations. I will say that the longer they look, the more confident they will be to find someone really suited to them. However the downsides to this are that the older they get, the less likely they will be to find someone acceptable to them and who will in turn accept them for who they are (because the older you get, the pickier and less flexible you are). There is no magic formula, except commitment and the continual adjustment to living with someone else. If they want marriage and kids, at some point they will have to take a certain amount of risk.

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