He left me standed in any unkown city.

[Anonymous]

I just started graduate school in DC last August. I am from out-of-state and like most, have unresolved relationships back home. I met a guy one month before I was set to leave for DC. We went on a many dates - I really liked him! Something was so different but the relationship was so new and I was not giving up school to stay back. He wanted to do LD but I was unsure. Part of me wanted a fresh start and a whole new life here. We kept in touch but life interfered. I met a guy down here and things quickly escalated and I cut off contact. He was in and out of relationships as well. We always found a way to keep in contact. He was transplant and went back home when I was in town on holiday break. A few times he tried to get me to come back home but things came up or I was not able to. I had one trip made last month but had to cancel when a work issue came up.

Fast forward to now. We have been talking for the past few weeks, even though he was upset I canceled my trip last-minute. He wanted to see me so I booked a trip to his home state (NY) where he had been on business that week. We were suppose to spend the weekend together. I got in Friday and texted as planned but he never responded. Yesterday morning he apologized and said he fell asleep waiting for me. He said lets do lunch that afternoon. He never texted back to set thing up. I waited and then asked what time he wanted to get together. He replies " can't tonight".

Now I am livid. I made this trip specifically for him. The week leading up to it he was so happy and talked about me sleeping over the whole weekend. I text and then call inquiring why he would have me come down and not see me. He texts back hours later " NOW WE ARE EVEN!". Then he goes on to explain how upset he was when I didn't follow through with my plans and did this to show me what it felt like. I sent him one last text saying this was over and he never replied.

I guess this is just mainly a vent but also looking for opinions. This was such an asshole thing to do. This was also the weekend I would of slept with him for the first time. Now I am angry, confused, and hurt. I had legit excuses of not being able to come down but he orchestrated this whole thing just to hurt me. I can't begin to understand why a person would ever do this. It's so cold and heartless.

Fixing the paragraph. I never went " home" to Chicago. I went to NY where he is from, and a city I have never been to.

[Anonymous]

Why did you post this again the same day?

[Anonymous]

He completely played me. Help!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why did you post this again the same day?

+1

[Anonymous]

Not sure why you're confused. Dump him.

[Anonymous]

We will have no explanations for you, but obviously you are never to talk to him again. No texts, no emails, no phone calls, no looking for explanation or closure, nothing. He is dead to you.

[Anonymous]

Why are you posting this again?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are you posting this again?

I posted this again to update the paragraph of me going to him home state, not my home town.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are you posting this again?

I posted this again to update the paragraph of me going to him home state, not my home town.

You could have done that in your original thread. You're not really helping your cause by spamming the board with this.

[Anonymous]

Consider yourself lucky that this didn't go any further. He sounds like a real gem.

[Anonymous]

What a psychopath. It would hurt more to be dumped by someone who you had feelings for but didn't reciprocate.
This guy made it so easy for you to move on - he proved himself to be an absolute a-hole, the worst kind. Just a sack of s**t. It's not worth getting upset over someone like this. He did you a huge favor by showing you his true colors so early on. Block his numbers, no more contact - ever again.

[Anonymous]

^^ what I meant to say is it would hurt more to be rejected by a person of quality. This guy's not worth another thought.

[Anonymous]

What an immature vindictive loser. Just be glad you learned before anything happened.

[Anonymous]

This man is a wee tiny child. Cut him off completely and find a grownup.

[Anonymous]

Op please read and listen. I know what you are going through. I dated a man who changed overnight. It was a light switch from caring, considerate, loving to master manipulator, verbally abusive, etc. I racked my brain for months how and why this man who had never shown a glimpse of that side, so easily and without remorse act like that towards me and others. I cut off contact and stopped analyzing the situation. I am now newly married to a man who is great.

It may not seem like it now but he gave you the best gift. No rational person would pull a stunt like that. He was masking his true colors and with it being long-distance, he had a greater chance at doing that. I guarantee you would be so unhappy if you were to have dated this man. He is clearly vindictive and selfish. Please go home, delete his info, and never look back.