is it embarrassing for a man to call out of work to care for his kids?
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Anonymous
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i am essential personnel and my husband is a fed. his boss is a single woman without children. my DH feels uncomfortable/embarrased about calling out of work when he has to cover my essential shifts - like tomorrow. his prior boss was a woman with a child and he felt much more relaxed when he had to take off for something like this it is very rare that he has to cover me, b/c i can usually switch a shift when we see problems like this arising, but tomorrow will make the second occurrence of him calling out due to childcare issues in under 2 weeks. |
Anonymous
| Not embarrassing at all. I assume a lot of parents have had to do it this winter. |
Anonymous
| I think it can be uncomfortable for anyone, male or female. |
Anonymous
| Men who are embarrassed by this are dicks. |
Anonymous
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I get it. DH has a flexible job and can usually cover any emergencies that come up, but in your case it would depend on how she reacted to the first one and what her general attitude is to childcare. I don't mean to generalize, but single women without children can be the worst bosses! |
Anonymous
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Nope. I'm essential to the point that I've had police pick me up at my house to drive me to work and there have been times I've slept overnight In the hospital (I'm in the Boston area). I would kill DH if he said he was too embarrassed to call off work. He knew getting into this with me that he'd be the one who had to call out if kids needed someone and either one of our parents couldn't watch them or kid was sick enough to need a parent.
He's been great so far this horrid, horrid winter. I owe him a tropical vacation!! |
Anonymous
| Nope, no embarrassment at all. DH is a fed (GS-15) and has had to stay home for the kids when I've had to go in. There are a lot of younger dads in his office, and it's perfectly acceptable. His boss, btw, is a married man with no kids. |
Anonymous
| Yes. |
Anonymous
| At my company there are male VPs who worked from home some snow days to care for their kids. What's the big deal? |
Anonymous
| Not me. I made sure when I interviewed for my current position (I've been there about 1.5 years) that I made mention that I was a father and the sole driver for my family so that meant that I might occasionally have childcare issues that I would have to handle. It wasn't an issue. Since I had two offers at the time, one government contractor and one private, and the government contracting job had no issues with my family situation, that helped me decide to go with the government contractor job instead of the private job. I try not to abuse it, but I definitely take advantage of the family friendly environment. |
Anonymous
| No. Not at all. It's 2015. Everyone understands that fathers sometimes need to stay home with their children. |
Anonymous
| I'm a single woman without kids and I would be fine with that. |
Anonymous
+1 He needs to get over himself. |
Anonymous
| It is embarrassing that your husband lacks balls. |
Anonymous
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Only if his knuckles drag on the ground. And if his boss says anything, he should go to EEO. Status as a parent is one of the things that can be a grievable case.
The government is going to be closed tomorrow anyway. We already rescheduled tomorrow's meetings. |