TIred of sexist colleague

[Anonymous]

I work at small company. One employee in his early 60s constantly makes comments about how we need to hire more attractive young women. He did actually just hire a 40ish male, but in deciding on second interviews, he said one woman was too ugly to call back in. He complains about every photo of older people or not stunningly attractive women in our publications.

We are in different departments, but both report to the owner of the company, who I know has heard this stuff and just kind of rolls his eyes. I've made my views known, but tit continues. No HR department. Any recourse or do I just have to listen to this stuff?

[Anonymous]

My boss is like this. My particular favorites, however, are when he tells the professional women to take a deep breath and that they sound defensive when they bring issues to him. We have executives and an atty that he talks this way to. I'm just his assistant and he's awful, but he even does it to them. Yuck.

[Anonymous]

what are your damages? deal.

[Anonymous]

"Larlo, I'd like you to stop making those kind of comments about appearance. They are unprofessional and I don't like them."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:what are your damages? deal.

They damage the workplace. They damage everyone, not just her.

[Anonymous]

Washington D.C. has a bevy of young, rail thin women to choose from for program analyst jobs. He can hire two of them for the price of one 40-year-old woman, and he will still be protected from sexist hiring practices.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:what are your damages? deal.

They damage the workplace. They damage everyone, not just her.

+1

[Anonymous]

"what you're saying is sexist, misogynistic, and inappropriate."

Walk away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"what you're saying is sexist, misogynistic, and inappropriate."

Walk away.

OP here. This has basically been my tactic, and it matters not one iota. I'm working on ignoring now, but it is so galling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I work at small company. One employee in his early 60s constantly makes comments about how we need to hire more attractive young women. He did actually just hire a 40ish male, but in deciding on second interviews, he said one woman was too ugly to call back in. He complains about every photo of older people or not stunningly attractive women in our publications.

We are in different departments, but both report to the owner of the company, who I know has heard this stuff and just kind of rolls his eyes. I've made my views known, but tit continues. No HR department. Any recourse or do I just have to listen to this stuff?

Well, at least you'll only have to deal with it a few more years...

[Anonymous]

Eww I'd remind him that he's 60 and no 20 year old woman wants to think about a 60 year old man oggling her.

[Anonymous]

Can you get on your knees?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Eww I'd remind him that he's 60 and no 20 year old woman wants to think about a 60 year old man oggling her.

And he will be correct in laughing in your face. The reality of the world is that there are plenty of ambitious 20 year old women who will dress provocatively, encourage ogling and much more in front of 60, 70 or 80 year old men for money or career advancement. There seems to be a disconnect between the real world and your perception of it.

[Anonymous]

When I was fresh out of college I got hired by a douche like this. He would always put his arm around my waist and one time he even pulled me in a kissed my cheek- he was probably around 75 and it was gross.

Deal breaker for me was when he demoted me from my paralegal position to being a receptionist because he "wanted me to be the face of the company", even though I was way overqualified and it was a demotion that I didn't deserve as I had gotten overwhelmingly positive feedback for my work. I quit a week later.

The funny thing about sexist pigs is that not even the women that "fit their standard" want to be around them! Dealing with that made me way more interested in feminism than I ever was before. Maybe I should write him a letter thanking him for helping me become a strident feminist... I'm sure he would be thrilled!

[Anonymous]

I was one of two young women in a mostly male workplace. I made a pitch for a promotion in the public affairs team and was told I was actually getting moved to finance because "women are good at getting people to give them money and we need people in public affairs who can be one of the guys". I immediately left to get my advanced degree. Thank you for at least noticing this problem!!